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Jaimie Mackey was the real weddings editor at Brides from 2013 to 2015. She also worked as a luxury wedding planner and produced over 100 high-end weddings and events in Colorado

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Ah, the wedding cake. The confectionary pièce de résistance of the big day. A detail so significant, it has its very own moment at the reception. Who would’ve thought a baked good could be elevated to such high esteem? Basically, anyone that’s been dreaming about their wedding day since they can remember. And while everyone loves wedding cake, choosing what to serve for this momentous occasion is no cakewalk.

You’ve got your fillings and frostings, aplenty. More styles and visual adornments than we can ever even imagine. And then there are toppers and dessert tables, and. oh my. If you’re starting to get a little overwhelmed and getting ready to wave the white flag, don’t worry. We’re here to lend a hand and guide you through this tasty process.

From picking flavors and designs to alternative desserts and when to serve them, we’ve rounded up some of the top wedding cake questions on etiquette to help you choose the perfect sweet ending for your wedding day.

When Do We Decide on the Wedding Cake Flavors and Design?

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While you’ll want to plan ahead (think: four to six months before your wedding day), it’s important to make other key decisions before picking out the cake design. Once you’ve decided on the color schemes for details, such as your wedding gown, flower arrangements, and the venue itself, then you can select a cake design to match. But don’t just select your cake based upon visual aesthetics alone. Be sure to schedule a consultation and wedding cake tasting to ensure you’re able to sample the full range of cake flavors, designs, and options available to you.

Who Pays For the Cake at a Wedding?

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Traditionally, the bride’s family will pay for the wedding cake. Of course, as with most other wedding costs, there’s nothing to say that the groom’s family or the couple themselves can’t pick up the tab for the wedding cake.

Do We Have to Pick Just One Flavor?

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Why limit yourself to one cake flavor when you can have two—or more? Bakers today are frequently crafting tiers that feature different cake and filling combinations to satisfy both halves of the couple, as well as their guests. So if you’d rather have a dark chocolate cake with peanut butter filling, while your partner is all about that salted caramel or seasonal peach preserves, have both. Talk to your baker about strategizing which tiers feature each flavor to get a more even divide, and consider a slightly larger cake—your guests will want to try both offerings.

When Should We Cut Our Cake?

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While it might seem arbitrary, the timing of your cake cutting actually plays a big role in your reception. In the past, the cake cutting was the very last moment in the reception—signaling to guests that they were welcome to head home. Though it usually happens much earlier today, cutting your cake still serves that same purpose (especially for older guests). These days, the cake is usually cut toward the end of dinner, just before dancing begins, and is the last “official” event of the evening. Slicing on the earlier side will let your grandmother or great uncle know they’re welcome to depart whenever they’re ready and will signal that they won’t miss any of the formalities if they choose to head home.

The wedding cake has long been a symbolic detail—the tradition of breaking the cake (or, at the time, bread) over the bride’s head dates back to the ancient Romans. Customs evolve with the times, of course, and today the ceremonial cutting of the wedding cake has remained a popular and meaningful wedding reception activity. According to The Knot 2021 Real Weddings Study, 77% of couples had a cake-cutting ceremony during their reception. Many couples love this tradition because it provides a fabulous photo opportunity and symbolizes their first joint task as newlyweds. If you want to know about the history behind this wedding tradition, how to cut a wedding cake and much more, read all about it below.

The History of Cutting the Wedding Cake

This wedding cake tradition originates in the Victorian era when it was customary for the bride to cut the wedding cake, also known as the bride’s cake. After cutting the cake, the bride was tasked with handing out the pieces, which represented fertility, to all her guests. Gradually, wedding guest lists grew, which required the groom to help with the cake-cutting ceremony. Now, one partner places their hand over the other’s while cutting the first slice of cake as a symbol of their promise to support each other and to reflect the first responsibility they complete as a married couple.

When to Start the Cake-Cutting Ceremony

Usually, the cake cutting happens after dinner, so we recommend you do it between dinner and the parent dances. Cutting the cake lets guests know that the reception is almost over and that they can start heading home. For convenience, some couples like to have their couple-centered wedding tasks, like the bouquet toss and the wedding cake cutting, back to back. This helps out your catering team because they’ll have more time to cut, plate and serve the cake for the guests. Feel free to personalize your reception timeline and cut the cake whenever it works best for you and your partner.

Our tip: Try to schedule the cake-cutting ceremony earlier in the reception. That way, if families with young children and elderly guests want to leave early, they can do so. Also, if you’ve opted for a wedding photography package where the price increases for additional hours of coverage after the baseline time, you can save money because the wedding photographer can leave earlier.

How to Cut a Wedding Cake

Even if you think you’re a pro at cutting sweets—whether at birthday parties or other in-home entertaining—ask your cake baker or caterer for instructions before making the first cut. You wouldn’t want to place the knife in the wrong spot and cause the delicate tower to topple over.

We recommend a wedding cake knife set for your first slice so you can make a quick and clean cut. (Bonus: A knife set is a great wedding keepsake you can cherish for years to come.) If you don’t have one, use a large professional-grade knife from your venue or caterer.

With your spouse, position yourselves so one of you is standing closest to the cake and holding the knife with your dominant hand while the other stands behind, placing their hand on top.

Using the knife, cut an inch into the bottom tier of the cake. Try to avoid making a sawing motion because it will cause the cake to crumble. By cutting at the bottom tier, you’ll have more stability and it’s easier to save the top tier of the cake to eat for your first anniversary if you’d like.

If you want a square-shaped piece, make another slice parallel to the first one you made about one to two inches over. If you want a wedge-shaped piece, make two diagonal cuts into the cake. How big or small you want your piece is up to you—just remember that you want at least two bites worth of cake for you and your partner.

Finally, slide your server under the piece of cake and gently place it on a plate.

Once the initial piece is cut, the newlyweds usually feed each other the first slice, symbolizing their commitment to providing for one another. In some cases, this moment is replaced by a different tradition: smashing cake into each other’s faces. How you feed each other the cake is up to you, but remember, you don’t need to smear frosting on your new spouse simply because you think your guests expect it. It’s perfectly okay if you don’t want to mess up your professional hair and makeup or run the risk of staining a pricey outfit. Have a chat with your spouse before the wedding to agree on a game plan—cake smash or not. Either way, ask your wedding planner or caterer to have napkins (or even better, a warm, damp cloth) nearby to wipe up any rogue crumbs and frosting quickly.

Serving Wedding Cake To Your Guests

Once you’ve done the wedding cake cutting, the catering staff will take over and bring it back to the kitchen to slice for the rest of your guests. (Or cut a sheet cake version of your wedding cake, which is more common for larger parties.) If you’re planning to save the top tier of the cake, let the catering staff know in advance.

In the past, couples actually sent their guests home with cake or sent pieces to those who were unable to attend. While this tradition isn’t as common anymore—it’s most often replaced by separate wedding favors—it’s still a nice gesture (and a great way to avoid wasting cake) to offer boxed slices for guests at the end of the evening as a sweet takeaway.

Cutting the very first slice of your wedding cake sounds so simple in theory, yet there are countless online videos devoted to teaching couples how to master the technique. What do you need to think about? How you stand, where to cut the cake, and who to feed first are all important elements of a successful cake cutting. Here’s how to make this special moment a piece of cake-pun intended.

Cake table placement is key.

Before we get into the details of the cutting itself, there’s some preparation that needs to be handled first. When you’re planning the wedding, you’ll want to discuss the placement of the cake table with your catering team and/or wedding planner. The cake table should be placed in a spot that offers a great photo backdrop from a few different angles. You might even want to select a patterned or sequined linen for this table, designating that it’s a special spot.

Prepping for the cake cutting.

Your catering team will be sure you have all the props needed: a cake knife and server, cake plate, two forks, two napkins, and two champagne glasses filled with fresh champagne. You’ll also want to have someone, either your planner or a friend, make sure the key family members are present to watch. No mother of the bride wants to miss this moment!

Step right up.

In polite society, the bride takes place slightly in front of the groom, both at a bit of an angle to face the crowd and not be blocked by the cake in photos. The groom will be holding the knife, with the bride’s hand placed on top to help guide the cutting.

Where to make the cut.

When you’re cutting a layered cake for a whole crowd, the best way to go about it is by removing all the layers prior to cutting. However, since the cutting of the first slice is a major photo op, you’ll want to leave all the layers intact and cut a slice from the bottom layer instead. If you’re using a dummy cake to cut into, the baker will usually fill a small slice of real cake into the faux-cake and will let you or your caterer know precisely where to cut in.

Holding the cake base for security, you’ll make a slice on that base layer about two inches toward the center or just outside the above layer’s placement. Cut about two inches over from there and then you’ll cut two one-inch wedges, one for you and one for your groom. Once the first slice is on a plate, tradition is that the bride feeds a bite to the groom and the groom follows suit by feeding the bride a bite. Fair warning: If you don’t want him smashing cake in your face, you should probably discuss this process prior to the wedding reception.

Wash it all down.

It’s typical to follow that big bite of cake with a toast to each other and a sip of champagne. There’s really no need for a big speech here unless that’s how you’ve scheduled the night’s agenda-just a simple “Cheers!” should finalize this big wedding reception moment. As the cake cutting is something a lot of guests will gather to watch, you may want to plan something right after since you’ll have a captive audience. Maybe this is a good time to kick off your first dance, or pop outside for a fireworks show. Because, hey, cutting that wedding cake is a pretty spectacular moment after all!

Cutting the wedding cake is a symbolic and fun activity for the bride and groom to celebrate their wedding day together. Make sure you cut the cake properly on your wedding day by following our simple and easy guide!

What Does Your Wedding Cake Look Like?

On your wedding day, cutting the cake is a special moment between you and your new spouse. Depending on the type of wedding cake you have, the method with which you should cut your cake may be different.

If you are the cake cutter, it may seem like a difficult task to cut a round cake into small and similar sized slices. If the cake is round, there are two easy methods to cut the cake. If the cake is rectangular or another shape, it may be easier to cut the cake.

With a rounded cake, make sure you follow these two easy and simple methods with less than five steps to cut your cake perfectly on your wedding day.

How to Cut a Cake Using the “Ring Method”

If you are the cake cutter at a wedding, using the ring method is when you cut the round cakes in “rings” to get more slices out of the cake in smaller servings for a large crowd at a wedding.

The method is easy and only has 5 steps, so even an inexperienced cake cutter will be able to follow along. Check out this tutorial from Minette Rushing!

1. Slide Your Knife Under the Cake Board and Remove Tier

To begin, slide your knife under the cake board and remove the top tier of your wedding cake. Remove the layer and gently place it down.

Repeat this step until you reach the base layer of your cake. Make sure to clean your knife between cuts so that the icing and pieces of cake do not get on pieces of the cake later.

2. On the Bottom Layer, Cut out a Circle in the Middle of the Cake

When you reach the bottom or base layer of the cake, cut out a smaller circle inside of the cake. Make sure that you leave enough room on the perimeter of the cake to be able to cut smaller slices of cake between them in the next step.

3. Cut 1 Inch Slices Around the Perimeter of the Cake

Once you have a small circle cut into the middle of your cake, go along the perimeter of the cake and cut out small 1 inch slices.

4. In the Round Interior, Cut out Wedges

When you have finished cutting around the small round interior you cut out, cut the interior into small, 1 inch wedges to serve to the guests.

Once you have completed this step, repeat the process for the other layers of cake. The cake will be cut and finished when you complete these steps.

How to Cut a Cake into Rectangular Slices

For a round cake, it is important to slice the same size slices for many guests at your wedding. In order to do this properly, you may decide to cut the cake in rectangular slices. This method is somewhat easier than the ring method, as shown by Minette Rushing Cakes below.

`1. Slide Your Knife Under the Cake Board and Remove Tier

To begin, start with gently removing the first tier of the cake and removing it. Do this for all of the tiers until the cake is unassembled.

2. Clean Your Knife Between Cuts

Make sure you clean the knife between cuts, the same as we did for the ring method, to avoid any extra crumbs or frosting from getting all over the cake slices.

3. Cut the Cake in a Straight Line Down the Cake, Stopping a Half an Inch From the Edge

Cut the cake in a straight line down the center, stopping a half an inch away from the edge. Stopping a little bit away from the edge will allow the cake to be supported for the next step when you cut in the opposite direction, so the cake doesn’t fall apart.

4. Working in Rows, Cut the Cake in the Opposite Direction

In the opposite direction from the straight line down the center, cut the cake the other way across, forming a grid like formation.

5. Cut the Cake Until You Have Only 1 Inch Slices

When you have finished cutting the rows of cake, you will end up with many 1 inch slices that you can serve to wedding guests.

Newlywed Cake Cutting Ceremony

If you are the bride and groom, the cake cutting ceremony is an important and fun part of your wedding. Here is some helpful information for your cake cutting ceremony at your wedding.

When Do You Cut the Cake at a Wedding?

There’s a standard order of events at a wedding reception, so y ou should cut your cake whenever people start to finish dinner at your reception.

The cake cutting ceremony traditionally marks the end of the night for older guests, signaling that dinner is over and that they are welcome to head home.

Do’s for Cutting the Cake at Your Reception

For the cake cutting ceremony at your wedding, make sure you listen to the photographer. Getting pictures of this special moment is their job, so listen to their directions so that you get some cute photos.

The groom’s hand should go over the bride’s when cutting the cake to symbolically show that they will work together in their marriage. Gently feeding each other the cake is a sweet moment and shows the loving relationship that you have with each other.

Using a serving set meant for a wedding is a special touch. Look for serving sets in bridal stores and online to find one that works for you.

Don’ts for Cutting the Cake at Your Reception

Some of the don’ts for your cake cutting ceremony are to avoid obnoxiously smashing each other in the face with cake. After hours of hair and makeup this is the last thing you want on your wedding day. Don’t ruin your wedding pictures with frosting on your face!

Do not try to cut the top tier of the cake for the ceremony, as it may be unstable. Instead, cut the base layer of the cake and serve it to each other with utensils for a classy and fun moment in your wedding!

Some couples choose to save the top tier of the wedding cake as a keepsake. It’s common to freeze it and then break it out on your first anniversary as a celebratory treat!

Final Thoughts

We hope this guide gave you some helpful cake cutting tips for your wedding day!

Q: When are we supposed to have the cake cutting, and, uh, what do we do? Is there a certain way we’re supposed to cut it?- Naomi

A: You’re right! Having a wedding cake and a “cake cutting” ceremony are one of those traditions that are just sort of expected and not explained. Well, we’re here to break it ALL down for you!

First, the cake cutting ceremony should take place shortly after dinner, which often serves a cue for the older guests (or other guests not wanting to party the night away) that it’s OK/polite to leave. Your band leader or DJ will know the perfect moment for this (or if you’re DJ’ing your own wedding, you can feel out when’s the appropriate time).

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So, just HOW are you supposed to cut the wedding cake? The bride places her hand on the cake-cutting knife, and then the groom places his hand over hers as they make two gentle cuts to form a single slice of cake. You then remove the slice onto a plate, and the groom proceeds to feed you the first bite, and then you feed him the second one. Now this is where some couples (not naming names) choose to get a little, shall we say, frisky with the cake? Doing a cake smash is totally your call. Just be sure to communicate with your spouse BEFOREHAND what’s ok and what’s not ok when it comes to feeding each other your piece of cake.

After your wedding cake cutting is typically a good time to make a short wedding speech, where you can thank guests for coming and tell them to stick around for the super fun dance party that’s about to go down.

Cutting your wedding cake isn’t as easy as it sounds! Here’s everything you need to know to get the job done like a pro.

One of your reception’s big moments will be the cutting of the wedding cake. This is one shot you need in your wedding album, so you’ll want to get it right. While you may be thinking, “cutting a cake is a no-brainer, I don’t need any help!”, you may be wrong (after all, you’re probably not working with a sheet cake). We’ve made you this guide outlining the best way to cut a wedding cake so that everything goes off without a hitch on your big day.

Here’s how to cut your wedding cake like a pro.

Have the right tools at the ready

First things first, you need to gather your equipment. While you’re probably used to slicing cakes with a plain ‘ol kitchen knife, you’re going to need a few extra utensils at the ready to cut your wedding cake. Here’s your list: a cake knife, a cake server, two forks, two napkins and two plates. You’ll also want some bubbly or water to wash it down after your first bite. Ask your caterer or planner to prep your dessert table so that you’re not looking for all these bits and bobs after all your guests have gathered around.

Find the perfect placement

You’ll want to keep placement in mind when putting together your dessert display. While it may look pretty, if you put your wedding cake in the middle of all your desserts, you’re going to have a tough time reaching it when the time comes to cut it. Make sure that there’s enough space for you and your partner to stand comfortably while you cut out a slice – you may even want to give your star confection its own table.

Know where to slice it

Every wedding cake is different, so there’s no concrete rule about where to make the cut. You’ll want to consult your baker before your big day so that you know the safest and easiest place to pull out the first slice. The last thing you want is for your cake to come tumbling down before anybody gets a taste! Note: if you plan on saving the top tier for your first anniversary, you’ll probably want to aim for the first layer.

Plan your photo op

You don’t want your photographer setting up the shot for five minutes while your guests stand there waiting, so make sure to plan your photo op before the big moment. Naturally, the shorter half of the couple should stand in front and both of your smiling faces should be visible as you make the cut. One person should hold the knife and the other should assist by putting their hand over top. You may want to do a couple of practice shots before your guests enter your reception venue, just to be safe.

To smash or not to smash?

You know those adorable photos where the couple is smashing wedding cake in each other’s faces? They’re pretty cute, but you don’t want to alarm your new spouse (they may be super concerned about staining their gown or prefer a more elegant eating shot). Before you step up to your dessert table, talk about whether you’re going to go all out for it or simply feed each other with forks.

Don’t forget to make an announcement

This is one memorable moment that you’re going to want to have an audience for. Give your DJ, MC, planner, MOH or another trusted member of your wedding party the task of announcing the event so that the crowd knows when to gather and choose a wedding cake cutting song to make it even more celebratory and fun.

Cutting your wedding cake may seem self explanatory but it isn’t as easy as it seems. For instance, most people instinctively start at the top tier which can cause problems and make things messy when crumbs fall on the layers below. Plus the actual cutting is just one of the things you’ll want to prepare for to make the most of the moment.

Here’s how to cut your wedding cake tastefully.

DO: Decorate your cake table with linens, flowers, or other desserts and place it where your guests can see it well. Or literally put it on a pedestal to make it a dramatic centerpiece.

Photographed by Amy and Stuart Photography – Los Angeles, California photographers Photographed by Greg Finck Photography – France photographers

DO: Light it up for gorgeous photography. Use a spotlight, candlelight, or other lighting to draw attention and give your photographer wonderful light to work.

Photographed by Berit Bizjak Photography – New York photographers Photographed by MIKI Studios – London, UK photographers

DO: Arrange yourselves so you are both looking out at your guests. One of you will hold the knife and the other will put their hand on top to help guide it. Cut two small pieces from the bottom layer for your cake and let the caterers come in to disassemble it and serve your family, the bridal party, and your friends in that order.

Photographed by Amy and Stuart Photography – Los Angeles, California photographers

DO: Feed each other a small bite, emphasis on small. Getting cake smashed in your face after spending hours on your look can be at best distracting and at worst an intrusion on your celebration. Do discuss this beforehand and if you both want to, then of course you should go for it!

Photographed by Kirth Bobb – Washington, DC photographer

DO: Finish off with champagne or a non-alcoholic bubbly drink. Take a sip, clink your glasses together, and then raise them to the crowd. Next step? Move on to the dance floor!

Photographed by Timmester Photography – North Carolina photographers

How to Cut and Serve a Wedding Cake

Something most couples tend to forget about when wedding planning is the logistics of the cake cutting. This small oversight can unfortunately result in hacking your way through that stunning cake you designed like a bad game of Operation. Today then, we wanted to walk you through how to cut a wedding cake with a surgeon’s precision, just in case you don’t have catering team on site to help with cake service. Read on for simple tips on ensuring cake cutting goes off without a hitch!

Unstack the Tiers

  • Using a flat (and preferably metal) spatula, find the base of the top tier of the cake.
  • Gently slide the spatula underneath the baseboard that separates the top tier from the tier below it.
  • Lift the top tier off the tier beneath it, set it aside, and repeat for as many times as necessary. Don’t forget to remove the dowels!

Cut Your Slices

  • Using a serrated knife, insert the knife vertically into the cake. About 2 inches from the edge of the tier.
  • Start cutting a concentric circle, being sure to move in the direction of the serrated edge of your knife.
  • Clean off any excess icing and/or cake from your knife.
  • Working your way around the outer ring you just created, cut 1-inch wedges.
  • Repeat these steps (cutting concentric circles and then wedges) as many times as necessary until you are left with about a 6-inch round.

Once you are left with a 6-inch round, you can transition your cuts from wedges to traditional slices.

  • Prepare your cuts by marking the icing with your knife.
  • Mark lines by starting with a vertical line centered on the top of the cake, then make your second mark perpendicular to it.
  • Mark two additional lines that (first) cut two opposite quadrants in half, and then that cut each the remaining (and opposite) quadrants in half. You should end up with guidelines for 8 slices.
  • Cut the slices following your guidelines by cutting each line, tip to tail. Be sure to use a sawing motion (not pressing your knife) and do not remove the slices until you complete all of your cuts (this will actually make your life easier).
  • From here, plate and serve. And, of course, don’t forget to save yourself a slice!

(Psst. Working with a square or rectangular cake? Don’t worry, just cut squares or rectangles instead of circles.)

It’s an important part of your reception timeline.

One aspect of the evening that can be tough to figure out is the cake cutting. Do you do it when you expect people to actually eat the confection or for ceremonial purposes at another time?

Photo by Milanés Photography; Floral Design by Akeem Clayton Designs

When having the classic big wedding with a full reception following the ceremony, there can be quite a bit to schedule: dinner, toasts, first dance, parent dances, bouquet toss, garter toss, and more! One aspect of the evening that can be tough to figure out is the cake cutting. Do you do it when you expect people to actually eat the confection or for ceremonial purposes at another time?

Traditionally, cutting the cake occurred at the end of the celebration and indicated that the party was over. However, this was back when cake-and-punch receptions were the standard, not the full-blown parties we usually see today. Etiquette still states that the cake cutting is a signal that it is okay to go home, which may affect when you choose to take part in the custom. If you have a lot of older guests or attendees with small children, cutting the cake early in the evening will lessen the pressure to stay.

Keep in mind that just because it’s seen as socially acceptable to leave doesn’t mean everyone is going to depart your reception early! Most people will want to spend the night dancing and celebrating your marriage. You may choose to cut the cake right away, soon after your grand exit – even before dinner and speeches. Not only does this ensure that everyone is there because they want to be – not because they feel socially obligated – but it also can help with your photography package. If you’re having a particularly long reception and/or after-party, you might not be able to have everything covered. If you hit certain moments such as the cake cutting earlier in the evening, this frees up time to have the getting-ready portion of the day documented.

Of course, generally speaking, your photography and/or videography team will be there through dinner. Following the meal can be a natural time to cut the cake – after all, dessert follows dinner, right? Though you do not have to serve the sweet treat immediately after the ceremonial slicing, especially since guests may still be full from dinner. If it feels unnatural to cut the cake and then wait to eat it, consider taking part in the tradition partway through the dancing. This will also allow revelers to regain some energy and stay on the dance floor.

For more tips, find out how to decide on a wedding cake style or if you need the confection at all.

Top Wedding Cake Tips for Savannah Couples

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The wedding cake is often a centerpiece of the reception and many couples work with their bakers to design a cake that reflects their personal style as well as their wedding style.

With so many beautiful designs to consider, we turned to some of Savannah’s top cake bakers and designers for advice on selecting the perfect wedding cake, from flavors, to design, to working with your baker, here are our top tips taken from interviews with two of Savannah’s top bakers: Wicked Cakes of Savannah and Dewey’s Delights .

Start with you!

Because your wedding cake will be a centerpiece of your reception area and a delicious treat for guests to end the evening, it’s important that it reflects both your personal style and the flavors you love.

When it comes to flavor selection , many modern couples often consider their guests and put those preferences above their own when selecting food and beverage choices. However, Abby Longwater from Wicked Cakes of Savannah reminds her couples, “This is your wedding day! Choose flavors that YOU want, not your guests.”

While you may want to provide options that most of your guests will enjoy, but also considering your favorite flavors, you get to share with them some of your personal likes. Think of it as you would a candy bar, where you offer guests a selection of your favorite childhood candies so they can experience the same magic you did when you first enjoyed them. The cake flavors you choose because you personally enjoy them can do the same.

Pro tip: Have a small note on your menu explaining why certain flavors are special to you. It will help guests get to know you better and make them feel more connected with you, especially if they are from the opposite side of the family.

When it comes to wedding cake style , some modern couples confess feeling overwhelmed with the seemingly endless options and either don;t know where to start or don’t know how to narrow down choices.

Dewey “Mitch” Durden from Dewey’s Delights suggests sharing your entire Pinterest inspiration with your baker early, so they can help guide you. While most couples will send a single image or a cake inspiration board, Mitch asks his couples to share their entire wedding inspiration with him, from the decor to the dress to the florals to the venue to the colors and even the stationery. He says that when he can understand his couple’s wedding style from a holistic perspective, “I can get a feel for their vision as a whole and not just a single puzzle piece.”

From there he can help guide his couples not only on style but also making sure their cake will fit their venue and hold up for the time of year they’re getting married (see below for more seasonal tips).

Consider your reception space.

Abby and Mitch both agree that your reception space matters. A lot!

The scale of the cake should match the scale of your venue space. For example, Abby advises that couples literally match their cake height to their reception space. She says, “if the reception is in a grand ballroom, consider a larger cake with either fake tiers or more cake. It will be a statement piece that will wow your guests” and doesn’t get lost in the expansiveness of a large space.

Mitch agrees. He says the scale of your event space should match your cake and also recommends fake tiers as an option for creating a larger statement piece to fill a room. He warns against small cakes in large spaces, adding, “if you are having your reception in a large ballroom with tall ceilings you don’t want to have a small two or three-tier cake that will be dwarfed by the grand scale of the room. Consider making it a 4 or 5 tier cake that’s more substantial. If you don’t need the additional servings, a styrofoam tier can be added and decorated and no one will know the difference.”

Mitch understands that some of his couples are uncomfortable with “fake” cake. In these cases, he suggests adding height in other ways, such as separating the tiers and adding flowers between.

Image via @wickedcakesofsavannah

Be mindful of seasonal differences.

While Savannah is known for gorgeous spring, perfect autumn, and mild winters, mid-summer can get hot, and humid in this part of the South.

If you’re planning an outdoor reception in Savannah during the height of summer, and the venue doesn’t have climate control options, Mitch recommends a fondant covered cake, which can withstand hotter temperatures longer. No couple wants to see their buttercream melting or intricately piped details sliding off the cake because it sat out in the heat and sun for too long.

You may also want to consider venues that have climate-control options in tented areas , like what we offer here at The Mackey House. Our clear, open-air tent on the deck has air-conditioning and climate control that helps keep both your guests and your cake cool during the hot summer months. That way you can get the best of both worlds.

Show off your quirky side with a groom’s cake.

Groom’s cakes are a delightful staple at Southern Weddings. Originally a British tradition, the groom’s cake would provide a second (often richer) flavor profile for guests. It has since taken the South by storm and has become a tradition among Southern brides and couples who want to present their new spouse with a bespoke cake that reflects something special about them.

Abby from Wicked Cakes of Savannah suggests you show guests your or your spouse’s personality with Groom’s Cakes. She points out that, “groom’s cakes are a fun way to incorporate your personality into your wedding,” and adds that “these can be made for the reception or rehearsal dinner.”

Common groom’s cake styles include showing team spirit for a beloved college football or basketball team, honoring a profession such as a firefighter or a doctor, or highlighting a hobby such as a gaming obsession or an interest in a movie or book genre. There are no rules for choosing a groom’s cake theme, just let your imagination and your new spouse’s interests and uniqueness guide the way.

Find your perfect wedding cake and cake baker.

Wicked Cakes of Savannah. Wicked Cakes opened in late 2014, an ambitious project by Abby Longwater. Since its birth, Wicked Cakes has caused a great stir in the eclectic foodie community of Savannah, and brought Abby’s creative spin on all types of cakes, cupcakes, brownies, and many other sweets!

Dewey’s Delights . Mitch started decorating cakes as a hobby, making little cakes for friends and coworkers for fun. Word of mouth spread and people started asking him to make cakes for their celebrations and weddings. Fast forward 10 years and Mitch is still making cakes, they’re just much larger now 🙂

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