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How to date after fifty

8 things to know if you want to get back in the game

by Michael Castleman, AARP

En español │After 20 years, you’re single again and, heaven help you, on the brink of dating. Uh-oh! How should you begin? Maybe call that old high school flame? Approach that work colleague you always thought was kinda cute? Sign up for an online dating site? And once you do score a date, what should you expect in terms of s-e-x?

How to date after fifty

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These eight insights will make it all easier.

1. Some things don’t change. It’s always been challenging to meet women. Even with dozens of dating sites, it still is. Use the classic dating strategies: introductions through friends, blind dates, meeting through activities (work, recreation, religious, etc.), and plain old serendipity. Tell everyone you know that you’re interested in dating. Ask to be fixed up. Get involved in activities you enjoy. Through them, you’ll probably meet women who also enjoy them, women who might become friends — and eventually, maybe more.

2. The numbers are on your side. It’s not “two girls for every boy,” like the Beach Boys sang, but demographics trend that way. First, the bad news: Men die younger than women. The good news: As the decades pass, women increasingly outnumber men, which subtly works in your favor. For every 1,000 births, by age 50, women outnumber men 954 to 920, according to a 2009 U.S. statistical report. At 65, it’s 871 to 791. So the odds are in men’s favor — and women know it. That’s one reason why Betty and Veronica no longer sit by the phone waiting for Archie to call. If a woman is interested in you, she’ll probably initiate contact.

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3. Google yourself. Women will, so you better know what they’ll find. Try to correct misinformation, or at least be prepared to prove that you’re not the escaped serial killer who shares your name. And while you’re at it, make sure your Facebook page won’t raise eyebrows.

4. Dating sites have advantages. One is that you cast a wide net. Tip: Upload smiling photos. Photos increase men’s response rate 40 percent — for women, photos triple it! Another is that profiles provide good icebreakers. Beyond saying, “You’re really cute and you live near me,” you can add that like the woman you’re contacting, you also play tennis and enjoy jazz.

5. Dating sites have disadvantages. Some of the members are flakier than piecrust. They seem interested, but after a few e-mails, they disappear. Or their phones are disconnected. Or they stand you up. Why? Who knows? One theory is that many are not single. They’re coupled but bored, and hope to reassure themselves that they’re still attractive by hooking men like you.

What’s more, profiles often lie. One study found that on average, people claimed to be an inch taller than the national average. Women said they weighed 20 pounds less than average. Most claimed to be “more attractive than average” — 72 percent of women, 68 percent of men. And 4 percent said they earned more than $200,000 a year, while less than 1 percent of Internet users actually do. Tip: Tell the truth. As soon as you meet, she’ll see your height and weight and how attractive you are.

6. Dress for success. You may be wonderful, but if you look like a total schlump, women will flee. Trouble is, many men hate shopping for clothes. If that’s you, get help. Ask a friend, preferably a woman, to accompany you. Consider getting a manicure and pedicure. Plan to spend a day — yes, guys, one entire day — and one to two weeks’ income on your makeover.

7. Keep condoms handy. One pleasant surprise about dating after 50 is less groveling for sex. After a few dates, most older women feel fine about going horizontal, and don’t care if your erections are iffy or gone. However, they don’t want sexually transmitted infections (STIs). So use condoms until you’re monogamous.

8. Dating isn’t mating. Just as gold miners move tons of rock to find a few nuggets, you’ll probably have to date dozens of women before you find Ms. Right. If you know that a budding relationship has no future, don’t waste your time or hers. Say, “I’m sorry, but there’s no chemistry for me.” And be prepared to hear those words yourself — frequently. When you do, ask, “Do you have any single friends?”

AFL Founder Jo-Anne Lema discusses with professional matchmaker and Love Guru, Carol Ziegler, how to know when you are ready to date after 50. For more tips check out our site http://www.afterfiftyliving.com/

AFL Founder Jo-Anne Lema discusses with professional matchmaker and Love Guru, Carol Ziegler, how to know when you are ready to date after 50.

For more tips check out our site http://www.afterfiftyliving.com/

How to date after fifty

After Fifty Living™ was founded by Jo-Anne Lema, a genuine Boomer and member of the 50+ generation. As she likes to say, “Our enormous generation is charting new territory – we’re healthier, better educated, and more financially fit than any other generation at this time. And, as we march through history, 110 million strong – unique, new issues are developing. It’s exciting to be a part of the development and growth of AfterFiftyLiving.com. This is a historic solution for a historic generation.”

Jo-Anne spent many years in the financial and operations side of higher education after having received a doctorate in education management and administration from Harvard, and an MBA from Southern New Hampshire University. Launching out on her own, though, has been the fulfillment of a life dream. Jo-Anne believes that “AfterFiftyLiving™ will delight its visitors, catalyze its partners, and will significantly benefit those who engage it.”

Residing in New England along with her husband of 35+ years, she never ceases to brag about her two children and 4 grandkids!

With new sites and increased acceptance, more older Americans than ever are finding their soulmate on the internet

by Laura Petrecca, AARP, January 28, 2019

How to date after fifty

En español | Like it or not, dating has gone digital.

As the stigma associated with online dating fades — and smartphone use rises — millions have turned to apps and sites such as Match, eharmony, Bumble and Tinder to find romance. Now, smartphones often play the role of matchmaker, and a relationship can launch with a simple swipe right on another user’s profile.

For an older demographic used to classified ads, blind dates and singles bars, the cyber dating world can feel like an alternate universe. Yet, those 50-plus are increasingly joining the scene.

One in five internet users ages 55 to 64 said they’ve used a dating app or service, according to a January 2018 poll from technology and research company Morning Consult. That figure is 1 in 10 for those 65 and older. And the overall number of 55- to 64-year-olds who have dabbled in dating sites or mobile dating apps doubled to 12 percent in 2016 from 6 percent in 2013, according to the Pew Research Center.

This is a natural evolution, says dating coach Julie Spira, an expert for the 50-plus focused dating site OurTime. Most people are already texting and checking social media on their phones, so “there’s no reason not to use an app to find love,” she says.

An alternative to the bar scene

With some dedication, it’s possible to become an in-demand dater.

“Many of my clients who are over 50 are going on two to three dates a week,” says dating coach and Dates & Mates podcast host Damona Hoffman.

But there are challenges as well. For those who have been on the sidelines, much has changed since the 1995 launch of Match.com. There are scores of dating apps and sites to appraise — all with varying capabilities. Liars and scammers remain, as well as those who post misleading photos and fudge their age.

However, there are also those who are genuine, honest and looking for love. And there are countless success stories.

Online dating “is a job, and is not easy,” says Brianne Porcelli, 56, who met now-husband Joe Porcelli, 66 on eharmony. “I never would have met Joe if it weren’t for this site,” she says. “It wouldn’t have been possible. I didn’t go to bars, clubs, etc. I went to work and home.” Eharmony “took much of the legwork out of meeting someone,” she says.

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How to date after fifty

Sink into a depression, or up your game and get out there

After 28 years of marriage, I found myself exactly where I didn’t think I would be: alone. My wife and I met in our early 20s, married a few years later and built our lives together.

But now, in my 50s, I’m alone. My wife fought a two-and-a-half year war against cancer, but in the end it overwhelmed her. As a family, we were devastated.

My choices were simple: sink into a deep, lengthy depression or start living again. I decided on the latter and that meant, at least in part, meeting women. Not just for friendship, but to develop a relationship, sexually and emotionally. But to get there and do that meant dating. Yes, gulp, dating.

In our 50s we carry a lot more baggage, or luggage, or life experience. It all amounts to the same thing, and it’s how you deal with it that’s important.

If you’re going to start dating in what some call life’s ‘third quarter’ here are a few basic tips to help. I should say upfront that I feel as good in my 50s as I did in my 30s. I still have a ton of energy, I’m excited about life and I think it’s fun to meet new people. Anyway, here’s what I found useful on my quest.

1. Be honest

If you tend to exaggerate your worth in the world, embellish, tell tall tales or generally string a line of BS, women will see right through you. Women are incredibly intuitive and in all likelihood have put up with someone like you – and are not likely to do it again.

Here’s a failsafe solution: just be honest. It works every time. Tell her your interests, what your children are like, your career highlights and lowlights. Be ready to come clean, because she will know immediately if you’re not who you say you are.

2. Get your body in shape

In our 50s, our metabolism slows down and our ability to gain weight increases. I have always been a runner, hitting the streets three to five times a week, accomplishing five to eight kilometres at a stretch.

I made a renewed commitment to running, watched what I ate and cut down on my alcohol consumption. It won’t take long for you to notice some results, but you’re going to have to stick with it.

Remember, you want to present yourself as in shape and active. Everyone has a few pounds to lose, and that’s entirely understandable, but you’re going to have to make an effort.

3. Pay attention and be a gentleman

Listen to what she has to tell you. Get to know her and find out her story, where she comes from, what she does for a living, her likes and dislikes.

Especially listen to what she says about her family. I’m looking for a woman has a great relationship with her children and her parents, so I want to know about her family trips, traditions and their love for one another.

To me, any sign of a dysfunctional family could be a red flag, so I pay attention to that. Also listen for conversation about her ex-husband/boyfriend. You’re trying to get to know one another, not each other’s ex.

And remember your manners. I think you should always pay for dinner, with no expectations. It’s the gentlemanly thing to do.

4. Learn to cook

As your relationship progresses you’ll want to start spending more time at each other’s place. She may cook for you and vice versa, so find out some of her favourite dishes. Don’t try to reinvent the wheel: follow the recipe and leave yourself good time to prepare prior to her arrival.

She will love the fact that you went out of your way to cook, regardless of how well the meal turned out. The point is that you made the effort.

5. Up your personal game

Clean up, get a shave and a haircut. Buy some new clothes. Develop a fashion sense.

Cut down on the alcohol, learn something about wine and enjoy it.

Try something new. It’ll help you meet new people as well as have something interesting to talk about. I took up downhill skiing, which scared me to death, but I did it and it’s kind of fun now.

Buy a new aftershave: smell good and look good.

How to date after fifty

Dating after 50 can be a daunting prospect. My next guest in conversation is Carolyn Lee Arnold, author and social science researcher. Carolyn drew upon her 30 years as a social science researcher and 10 years as a relationship workshop assistant to create the dating project in “Fifty First Dates after Fifty.”

After Carolyn Lee Arnold, a free-spirited, 50-something longing for a life partner, breaks up with her non-committal Buddhist boyfriend (and holds a “letting go” ceremony to seal the deal), she challenges herself to go on 50 first dates during her search for a monogamous life partner. Set in the Bay Area world of personal growth workshops and spiritual ceremonies, this revealing memoir traces the adventurous path of Arnold’s universal quest for love. The goal of 50 dates with 50 different partners pulls her forward through the highs and lows of dating — magical and ecstatic, pining and painful — while her heart soars, falls, and keeps on going. Buoyed by her dating project, she avoids settling for the wrong guy and ultimately discovers the type of man she wants.

Listen to the Podcast

Watch on Youtube

Meet Carolyn Lee Arnold

A native Californian from Los Angeles with a New England education, Arnold found her true home in the San Francisco Bay Area, where she prepared for dating and life by attending spiritual ceremonies, working in free clinics, leading women’s backpacking trips, hiking the local green hills, identifying as a lesbian-feminist in the 1970s and ’80s, and earning graduate degrees in women’s studies, statistics and educational research. “Fifty First Dates after Fifty” is her first book, and excerpts have been published in Persimmon Tree, Outside In Literary & Travel Magazine, and the Human Awareness Institute’s Enlighten Journal. An excerpt from her second memoir, about her lesbian-feminist years, has been published in Noyo River Review. Still a feminist, she lives in the Bay Area with her partner — one of her 50 dates.

Connect with Carolyn

For more information, including dating resources,

Love with the intensity of a teenager and the wisdom of your years.

How to date after fifty

Whether you’ve been with the same person for 30 years or you’re finding new love half a century into your life, it’s always the right time to brush up on your relationship skills or learn new ones. Maybe things have gotten stagnant with your spouse, or maybe you’ve found that dating has changed since you last tried it.

It’s never too late to learn these seven secrets to a successful relationship after fifty.

1. Open your heart fearlessly. To be successful in a relationship, you can’t be afraid to be yourself and share yourself. Real love requires honesty—about who you are, what you believe, how you feel, and what you want. Total commitment to reality and honesty supports the integrity of a relationship. You must be open and willing to share, listen, and understand. A happy relationship and a full life require the intention to learn about your partner and yourself and to continue to grow.

2. Create emotional safety. Healthy relationships depend on both parties feeling safe with each other, trusting that you are there for each other. Your circle of trust gets more important as you get older and as you must cope with the changes and anxieties that aging involves. For emotional safety to exist, you need to feel that your partner truly hears you, sees you, and accepts you as you are and that he or she wants the best for you. And you must be this way for your partner, too.

3. Address conflict in a spirit of love. A successful relationship requires successful conflict. Approach every disagreement with the intention to listen fully and respond in a spirit of love. Instead of responding in a knee-jerk way when your partner says or does something that upsets you, examine your feelings and mindfully consider what the other person said. It may surprise you how big a gulf there can be between what you think you heard—what you feel you heard—and what your partner actually said. Listen as much or maybe more than you talk, focus on common threads rather than differences, and look for a solution that pleases both of you.

4. Practice positive communication. The way you communicate with your partner is vital because what you say—and how you say it—affects how your significant other feels, and emotions drive behavior. Some key principles of positive communication:

  • Avoid negative language. When you use words like no and don’t, you invoke your partner’s natural resistance to being controlled. Instead, tell your partner what you want rather than what you don’t want.
  • Avoid criticism. Remember: Success builds success. Instead of focusing on the things you dislike about your partner, focus first on what he or she does well and connect that to the behavior you’d like to see him or her change.
  • Give your undivided attention. One of the biggest mistakes I see couples make is that even when they both have the best intentions and follow all the advice they’ve read online about communication (“I” statements, etc.), they’ll answer their cell phone or glance at a text message while talking to their partner. This seemingly small behavior has a big impact on how you make your partner feel. As a marriage and family therapist, the advice I give to all my patients is this: Give someone the focus they deserve.
  • Tell them what they mean to you. Sometimes you may start to think that your partner can read your heart and you don’t need words. Totally not true. Words are still necessary. Consciously choose to actively show appreciation—finding things to appreciate in your partner to enhance the good feelings between you.

5. Support your partner’s independence. No matter how close you are to your significant other, you remain individuals with your own needs and interests. Spending time alone doing your own thing shows mutual respect, not relationship strain. Advocate for your partner’s goals, and accept and support each other’s life goals.

6. Enjoy special time together. Don’t forget to have fun together. It’s important to go on new adventures and try new things. Don’t have a typical “date night.” Instead of dinner and a movie, take a class together or go on a day trip somewhere. As you grow older and face mortality, your relationship with your significant other provides an opportunity to explore your humanity and seek a better and deeper understanding of life.

7. Build a relationship with yourself. The relationship we have with ourselves is the key to success for all the relationships we build with others. When you are happy and fulfilled independent of others, you are most attractive to the kind of healthy, happy people you want in your life.

If you’re dating for the first time in a long time, don’t be afraid to wear your heart on your sleeve. It’s the only way people will know what you want and what you’re about. If you’re celebrating your golden wedding anniversary, remember that even though it may feel you and your partner are one person, you still need to say, “I love you” and show your appreciation. Show affection. Have fun. Have sex! Love with the intensity of a teenager and the wisdom that your years on this earth have given you.

For more, visit my blog on relationships.

How to date after fifty

Dating after 50 can be a daunting prospect. My next guest in conversation is Carolyn Lee Arnold, author and social science researcher. Carolyn drew upon her 30 years as a social science researcher and 10 years as a relationship workshop assistant to create the dating project in “Fifty First Dates after Fifty.”

After Carolyn Lee Arnold, a free-spirited, 50-something longing for a life partner, breaks up with her non-committal Buddhist boyfriend (and holds a “letting go” ceremony to seal the deal), she challenges herself to go on 50 first dates during her search for a monogamous life partner. Set in the Bay Area world of personal growth workshops and spiritual ceremonies, this revealing memoir traces the adventurous path of Arnold’s universal quest for love. The goal of 50 dates with 50 different partners pulls her forward through the highs and lows of dating — magical and ecstatic, pining and painful — while her heart soars, falls, and keeps on going. Buoyed by her dating project, she avoids settling for the wrong guy and ultimately discovers the type of man she wants.

Listen to the Podcast

Watch on Youtube

Meet Carolyn Lee Arnold

A native Californian from Los Angeles with a New England education, Arnold found her true home in the San Francisco Bay Area, where she prepared for dating and life by attending spiritual ceremonies, working in free clinics, leading women’s backpacking trips, hiking the local green hills, identifying as a lesbian-feminist in the 1970s and ’80s, and earning graduate degrees in women’s studies, statistics and educational research. “Fifty First Dates after Fifty” is her first book, and excerpts have been published in Persimmon Tree, Outside In Literary & Travel Magazine, and the Human Awareness Institute’s Enlighten Journal. An excerpt from her second memoir, about her lesbian-feminist years, has been published in Noyo River Review. Still a feminist, she lives in the Bay Area with her partner — one of her 50 dates.

Connect with Carolyn

For more information, including dating resources,

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During the pandemic, most single seniors did not interact face-to-face with people. Many of them decided to give online dating a try, and often were frustrated with that experience.

Some seniors don’t use the internet to date. Connie of Laguna Niguel emailed me about the difficulty she’s had trying to meet men. She wrote, “I have never been on an online dating site. I prefer the old-fashioned way (of meeting men).”

What Connie means is networking through friends and/or going to public places and events where she might by chance meet a guy.

I’ve often been asked by seniors, “Which online dating site is right for me?”

Take Ellen, for example. She recently wrote: “I am a widow, 66, and recently retired. So, I’m starting a new chapter in my life. When I think of the future and see myself alone for the rest of my life, that makes me feel sad. However, when I look at my life today, I am happy—busy with kids, grandkids, hobbies, and church.

“I tried online dating for a few years. Tried them all: eHarmony, Plenty of Fish, Catholic Match, Senior Dating, and OurTime. I met some nice people, but nothing clicked.

“More times than not, when I emailed someone, I never got a response. After a while, it just wasn’t worth the work anymore, and internet dating is a lot of work. I keep my options open, but I figure at this stage, I am well done with online looking. But I am certainly open if I meet someone in person.”

I’m not an internet dating expert. After all, I’ve been with Greta for 24 years and have never been on a dating site. So, how do I advise women like Ellen to find the right site?

I turn to Christine Baumgartner, an Orange County expert on dating and a relationship coach, whom I’ve known for more than 20 years. Baumgartner calls her business “The Perfect Catch.”

Recently, Baumgartner posted comments on Facebook under the title, “Which internet dating site is ‘the best’ one?” I felt what Baumgartner wrote was so informative for single senior daters that I chose to share some of her highlights in this week’s column.

When Baumgartner is asked by a client which dating site is the best one, her reply is, “You may be surprised at my answer, but they’re generally all the same.”

But she points out that certain sites have a particular focus, such as religious beliefs or sites that cater to a variety of age groups, including sites for seniors.

Baumgartner said, “In reality, the outcome of a person’s online dating experience often has more to do with some of the following …

“Your attitude toward yourself, the opposite sex, and dating in general. Many people tend to struggle if they have negative opinions about the opposite sex (due to past dating experiences).”

When it comes to profile content and photos, she says that many of us are tempted to lie about our age or touch up our pictures. She stresses that singles should be honest with what they post.

“Persistence. Some people give up quickly when dating doesn’t turn out to be what they were looking for,” she said. Baumgartner recommends people adopt a stick-with-it attitude.

Baumgartner concluded, “I have clients who have met their significant others on dating sites after we worked on these things together. I’ve found that it’s usually not the site causing a person to not find the right date … it’s the person not using the site to that person’s best advantage.”

If I were single and trying to figure out how best to meet someone, I’d contact Baumgartner. She’s a widow and has walked the walk—not to mention that she is one of the nicest human beings one will ever meet. No wonder she does so well helping senior singles improve their dating success.

Baumgartner’s email is [email protected], and her website is theperfectcatch.com. Contact her, you might be pleased that you did.

Tom Blake is a retired Dana Point business owner and resident who has authored books on middle-aged dating. See his website at findingloveafter50.com. To comment: [email protected]

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How to date after fifty

By Jackie Pilossoph, Creator and Editor-in-chief, Divorced Girl Smiling site, podcast and app, Love Essentially columnist and author

Falling in love after 50 is really really surprising to men and women. How I know this is, I’ve gotten countless emails from readers who are getting divorced and they write that a huge fear for them is that they will never find love again.

Then, the same people email me 6 months or a year or 2 years later and tell me they have fallen madly in love. I swear, I could write a book. It’s that predictable! (in a wonderful way!!) I also personally experienced it and can explain what it is like to fall in love after 50.

How to date after fifty

While 50 sounds really old to someone who is in their twenties and even thirties (at least it did to me when I was young), someone who falls in love after 50 feels as young as they did when they fell in love at 16 or 22 or 30. Falling in love at any age feels giddy and heart stopping and scary and all consuming. Let’s be honest. It feels fucking great.

What is it like to fall in love after 50?

At age 49, I found myself facing the end of a six-year relationship. At the time, I was very relieved to be out of a situation that I had felt in my heart for a long time wasn’t right. I felt immense sadness, but my gut spoke to me that I did the right thing.

How to date after fifty

Although fearful of being single again—this time on the brink of 50, I felt strongly that it was better to be alone than to be with the wrong person.

I had pretty much resigned myself to the fact that I would never again find love, and was actually at peace with it. I had had a romantic wedding and two beautiful kids and thought maybe that was all that was meant to be for me.

I decided that this was a great time in my life to have some fun by engaging in some online dating. I figured I’d go out with a few guys, have some great stories to tell, and post them on Divorced Girl Smiling. Perfect, right?

How to date after fifty

What I never expected was that shortly after the breakup—before I had even gone on one online date, I would end up going out for dinner with a man I knew from my gym who was recently single. He and I had become friends over the years, and would talk while working out.

It was crazy, but after our second date, I thought, ‘Am I in love?’ It was so totally unexpected, but the new relationship had all the components one needs/wants for love: respect, trust, likability, attraction, chemistry and a lot of laughter. I felt like he just got me, and there was something about this whole thing that felt very very right. Over 5 years later, those same components are not only there, but they are stronger.

What it is like to fall in love after 50 truly is wonderful, and here are the reasons why:

1. People over 50 have learned from our mistakes and are putting our best selves forward.

2. We don’t have unrealistic expectations or get easily disappointed. We have nothing to lose.

3. We are more open-minded and less judgmental.

How to date after fifty

4. We aren’t looking for a husband/wife. We just want to love and be loved.

5. We are willing to be more vulnerable, therefore making the relationship deeper and more meaningful.

6. We are more self-confident and care less about what the other person thinks. We therefore show our true selves in the relationship.

7. We have gratitude for the relationship, respect it, value it and make it a priority.

How to date after fifty

I’m not going to say that love under 50 can’t be good. I know many, many people over 50 who had a great relationship and marriage in their younger years, including me. But I think falling in love after 50 tends to offer a connection that can be the best love yet.

When you fall in love after 50, it’s like you’re taking everything you’ve learned in life and pouring your best self into your new love. And he or she is doing the same right back. The ingredients that make falling in love over 50 truly wonderful are: self-awareness, maturity, vulnerability, authenticity and appreciation for every day.

How to date after fifty

If someone asked me, “How do you know if he/she’s the one?” here is my answer. When it’s right, you like everything about yourself and how you are—both when you are together and apart. The person brings out the best in you. The person makes you laugh. You’re not afraid to be yourself with the person. You will do anything for the person—not just say you’ll do anything, really mean it. And that advice goes not just for those falling in love after 50, but for anyone at any age.

So, if you are over 50 and you’ve kind of given up on love because you feel too old or jaded or scared to get hurt, think again. If you’re willing to take everything you’ve learned, have confidence and be your authentic self, keep an open mind, and forget any expectations except for living for today, over 50 might just turn out to be the best years for your love life!

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Finding love the second time around can be daunting. Whether you’ve finally taken the plunge and agreed to that first date or you’re a seasoned pro and have been on the dating circuit for a couple of years, figuring out what to wear can send even the most put-together of women into a spin.

Here, conventional wisdom rings true: stick to pieces that make you feel fabulous and are comfortable–after all, you want to focus on your date rather than nervously tugging at a hemline or sleeve.

We’ve rounded up three ‘dating-over-50’ outfit suggestions that will help you feel confident and sophisticated.

An Evening Dinner Date Outfit

A dinner date invite can create a tricky, sartorial situation. While you want to look like you’ve made an effort, you don’t want to look as though you’ve over-thought it.

As a general rule, a simple fitted knee-length sheath dress is a foolproof option. Opt for a slim fit (not super-tight) style with a ruched middle that will help minimize your waist and create a smooth silhouette. Accessorize with a statement necklace or drop earrings and classic heeled pumps as an elegant way to finish off your look.

Just remember the golden style rule; if you’re showing off your legs, keep your chest covered with a high neck design.

A Casual Coffee Date Outfit

Grabbing a casual coffee is a popular choice for a first date, whether you’re over 50 or under. After all, there’s no pressure to sit through an entire meal if you don’t hit it off. With that being said, finding the balance between dressy and casual date outfit can be tough.

While you don’t want to look overdressed, you don’t want to look sloppy either. A dark-wash jean is a figure-flattering option and when paired with a colourful or printed blazer, strikes the perfect smart-casual balance. Add a simple plain blouse or shirt underneath and team with ballet pumps and structured bag for a pulled-together look.

A Ballet or Theater Date Outfit

Been invited to the opera, ballet or art exhibition? Pair classic separates for a versatile yet chic look. A knee-skimming, a-line skirt when paired with timeless heels is a sophisticated and (subtly) sexy option. Team with a peach or dusty pink blouse to add warmth to your complexion and layer with a classic trench coat for a feminine look.

Don’t be afraid to inject some personality into your outfit with a pair of colorful heels, statement scarf, eye-catching watch. Small details can reveal a lot about your personality and sense of style.

A marital relationship provides bliss to the couple, and it is supposed to be an everlasting relationship till death separates the couple. However, some couples do not end up in this eternal bliss. They may have serious problems with the marriage and each other, and the only option for them could be a divorce.

Usually when couples are married for years together, one does not expect them to divorce. This is especially true for women and men who are over 55 years of age. However, this is not a fact. Even older couples divorce, and this is probably because they have had enough and want out.

According to statistics, the divorce rate among couples over 50 is on the rise in the United States. One figure shows that the rate has increased from 6.7 percent in 2000 to 8 percent in 2004, and the trend is still continuing.

As a woman over 55, if you feel that divorce is you only option, then go for it without any doubts or qualms. You should not feel insecure because there is life even after 55. You can get into the dating scene without feeling bad as many women of the same age are doing so. In fact, there are special websites that cater for older women, and you could benefit from registering at these websites. At least you can be sure that you will be able to date a reliable person.

What happens generally is that a woman after over 55 has learned to be fixed in her ways. This comes with age. Therefore, very few women over 55 remarry because they love their independence and do not want to make changes so late in life. They are content being in a relationship but not in a marriage. In fact, many surveys show that singles over the age of 50 are least likely to commit to a long-term relationship, and marriage is no doubt one.

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How to date after fifty

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  • 1. Get regular exercise
  • 2. Keep it interesting; try something new
  • 3. Think Beyond Intercourse
  • 4. Get Comfortable
  • 5. Troubleshoot Your Medications
  • 6. Go Slowly After Surgery or Illness
  • 7. Talk Things Out
  • Other Things to Keep in Mind

As you age, some conditions or medicines may put a damper on your sex drive and performance. But don’t think that if you’re in the over-50 crowd, you have to settle for a less-than-fulfilling sex life.

You can still enjoy sex — you just may have to put a little more thought and planning into it than you did when you were younger.

Here are 7 things you can do to keep sex exciting and fulfilling for you and your partner:

1. Get regular exercise

You may think of sex as leisurely, but you can work up quite a sweat during lovemaking. Here are a few reasons why getting fit can help you get it on:

It strengthens your muscles. Nothing can kill a mood fast than hurting your back or pulling a muscle. Check into the best strength-training exercises for you.

It improves your mood. Exercise can release chemicals in your brain that make you feel better and more at ease. When was the last time you felt blue and also interested in sex?

It helps you look better. Regular exercise can keep your body looking its best and that can help your confidence and boost your sex life.

For women, regular physical activity might help with arousal.

Women may also benefit from what’s called Kegel exercises. They can make your pelvic floor muscles stronger. You can identify those muscles the next time you pee by stopping in midstream. You can practice tightening and relaxing those muscles several times a day.

Men who exercise are less likely to have problems with erectile dysfunction, or ED, than men who are inactive. If you enjoy long-distance bicycling, make sure you have a soft, comfortable seat and a bike that fits you properly. This can help you avoid a potential ED problem.

Be sure to talk to your doctor before you begin any new exercise program.

2. Keep it interesting; try something new

When you’ve been with the same partner for a long time, you may want to come up with ideas to add a little variety to your sex life.

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The answer might be something as simple as changing the time of day you have sex. If you’re too sleepy at night, maybe sex in the morning is right for both of you.

Some other ideas to keep things interesting:

  • Try different sexual positions
  • Set the stage and create a romantic atmosphere; a little planning can go a long way
  • Take it out of the bedroom and find a new place to make love
  • Shower or take a bath with your lover
  • Indulge in professional massages that will leave you both relaxed

3. Think Beyond Intercourse

If you or your partner can’t do this anymore, there are other options for you to enjoy closeness and pleasure.

The simple but intimate acts of kissing and touching should not be overlooked. You and your partner may also consider:

  • Giving each other sensual massages
  • Oral sex
  • Trying out sex toys such as vibrators

4. Get Comfortable

If arthritis or ongoing pain makes sex less enjoyable, find ways to feel better. Try a new position that’s easier on your body or use pillows for support.

If you have back pain, for instance, have sex side-by-side instead of in the missionary position, which can make back pain worse.

Plan sex for a time of day when you feel your best. Ahead of time, take a warm bath or some pain medicine if you need it so that you’ll be more relaxed.

5. Troubleshoot Your Medications

The side effects of some medications can cause sexual problems. Some that can do this include:

  • antidepressants
  • antihistamines
  • blood pressure medicines
  • cholesterol-lowering drugs
  • ulcer medications

If you have reason to suspect that any of your meds are dampening your sex life, talk with your doctor.

6. Go Slowly After Surgery or Illness

Before you reconnect with your partner, give your body time to recover. Once you have your doctor’s OK, start slowly with sensual touch and kissing.

Speak honestly with your partner about how you’re feeling, both physically and emotionally.

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7. Talk Things Out

Talk openly with your partner if you have any concerns about your sex life, whether it’s about your changing desires or how you feel about your body.

If you’re both unhappy with where your sex life is and haven’t been able to work it out, you might want to talk with a sex therapist. Your doctor should be able to give you a referral.

And remember, some older couples find their sex lives are actually better as they’ve aged. You may find you have more time and privacy, plus you can have more intimacy with a long-time partner.

Other Things to Keep in Mind

STDs can still happen: You might think of sexually transmitted diseases, or STDs, as a younger person’s problem. But age is zero protection from HIV, syphilis, genital herpes, and other STDs.

You need to take the same precautions about unprotected sex as anyone else if you have more than one partner.

When to see a doctor: Our bodies do go through changes as we age that might affect our sex lives.

After menopause, some women might have vaginal dryness. It can make intercourse painful. You may need to talk with your partner about more foreplay or try a silicone-based lubricant. If it’s still a problem, talk to your doctor.

Some men might find they need more stimulation to get and keep an erection. This kind of change is normal. Try to relax and enjoy your partner’s touch. But if you have an ongoing ED problem, it might be time to visit a doctor.

People of either sex might have body image problems, recalling how they looked in their younger days. These thoughts shouldn’t keep you from enjoying sex. If they do, perhaps a sex therapist can help.

Sources

AARP: “5 Myths About Sex and Aging,” “How Sex Changes for Men After 50,” “When Making Love Hurts,” “Are You Healthy Enough for Sex?” “6 Ways to Make Lovemaking Great,” “7 Meds That Can Wreck Your Sex Life.”

National Institute on Aging: “Sexuality in Later Life,” “Exercise & Physical Activity: Your Everyday Guide from the National Institute on Aging.”

Mayo Clinic: “Exercise: 7 benefits of regular physical activity,” “Senior Sex Tips.”

Boston University School of Medicine: “Erectile Dysfunction and Bicycling.”

How to date after fifty

Should you kiss on the first date or not?

Dating Over 50 and Not Sure When to Kiss? We’ve Got Some Pointers

The first kiss can make or break whatever romance you have going on.

But even before you can kiss whoever you’re seeing, you need to know when to do it.

Can you kiss on the first date? Should you wait a little bit? What if they’re a bad kisser? What if you’re a bad kisser?

Take it all in, now let it all out in one big breath. Feel better? Good, now let’s keep going.

When you’re over 50, you’re much more confident about a variety of aspects in your life. Dating and relationships, however, is not one of them. Even with age, dating doesn’t get any easier.

Don’t fret, because we are here to help. If you’re dating over 50 and wondering when to kiss, we have a few pointers.

Check ’em out below!

How to date after fifty

Why Is a First Kiss Important?

A ton of pressure is always put on the first kiss, which can make many nervous and cause them to get a little too ahead of themselves. Is it really worth getting all worked up about? After all, it is just a kiss.

There’s some truth to both feelings. While it is just a kiss, it does set the precedent for what’s to come. If you don’t feel anything after kissing that person, it might not be a relationship worth pursuing. But what if you really, really like them and think your nerves got in the way? That can totally happen, so go ahead and try for a second or third kiss. If you still don’t feel anything, it might be time to cut them loose.

Still, it is a simple kiss, so don’t get too worked up about it. It’s okay to be nervous, because it actually shows you care more about the person you’re seeing than you think, but don’t let them get in the way of your kissing skills.

How to date after fifty

Should You Kiss on the First Date When Dating Over 50?

No matter how old you get, the question of whether or not you should kiss on the first date always arises. There really isn’t a strict rule you need to follow, but it should be noted that kissing on the first date isn’t as frowned upon as it once was.

In fact, a study done by the over 50 dating site OurTime found that “53 percent of singles over 50 feel it is appropriate to kiss someone after one date.”

Now, just because over half of the single population feels this is alright, doesn’t mean it has to be for you. If you’re not comfortable kissing someone on the first date, don’t do it. You can wait until the second, third, or even fourth date.

Just be aware why you don’t want to kiss them. If you go on a handful of dates with an individual and don’t have the urge to plant one on them, then it probably isn’t going to work out. You can kiss them to see if sparks suddenly fly, but if they aren’t already there when you’re in each other’s company, they likely won’t be when you make out.

How to date after fifty

Should You Wait to Kiss Your Date When You’re Dating Over 50?

So what about waiting to kiss your date? We noted that when the first kiss happens is really up to your comfort levels, but what happens if you decide to prolong it?

Again, knowing why you’re pushing it off is the most important thing here. So if you’re doing it because you don’t want to rush things, you’re in the clear.

During an episode of the Today show, relationship expert Ian Kerner revealed that holding off on the first kiss lets your date know you see more potential in them being a long-term partner than if you were to kiss them right away.

Does that mean kissing of the first date is telling them you only see them as something fun? Yes and no.

Not kissing your date can make them believe you’re uninterested, while others will find this somewhat thrilling. It really all depends on you and your date.

The best way to get your feelings across, other than by planting one on them, is to communicate. Tell them you want to kiss them, but want to wait a little bit to be sure there really is something there. Or ask them if you can kiss them once you’re lovely first date has concluded. Doing so will ensure there is no confusion on either end about the feelings you both have about a potential future together.

How to date after fifty

The Bottom Line

Kiss your partner whenever you feel comfortable, so long as it’s consensual for the both of you. You can kiss on the first date, or you could wait a few dates down the road. It is all up to you.

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A WOMAN has revealed how she found out she had 50 secret siblings after doing a DNA test, as her dad was a sperm donor.

TikTok user Izzayyy, who posts under @izzyvn_98, said she is now terrified she will date a “brother” of hers but not realise they are related.

How to date after fifty

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In a video, she explained: “In 2018 I did an ancestry test to see where I’m actually from.

“I get my results back and I’m not as Italian as I thought.

“I get a message from a random woman asking if I’m related to a specific person or family because I matched with her daughter and I said no.

“So then she asks if I was a sperm baby because her daughter was too and now I’m freaking out because she could be my sister because I am a donor baby.”

The TikTok user explained how she has two mums, and they used a sperm donor so they could have a child of their own.

Then, @izzyvn_98 told how her “half sister” matched with her and informed her about other mothers who used the same sperm donor.

She also gave her the link to a private Facebook group of all their “siblings” who came from their dad – and the TikTok was shocked to find there were 50 of them.

She added: “And now there’s paranoia about overpopulation because some of them are afraid there are so many of us and we may end up dating someone who happens to be a sibling.”

If Living Together after Age 50 is Wrong, I Don’t Want to Be Right

Posted March 11, 2010

How to date after fifty

This is is the third and last installment on living together. In less than 10 years, the number of people over 50 that are living together has just about doubled to more than two million . As I mentioned in my previous blogs, for older singles that have already had children or been through a divorce, moving in together is often their final goal. They are interested in companionship and not in building a whole new family life. Is sharing digs a good move for these singles? Will it help or hurt the development of a deeper dedication and caring in the couple?

Before we answer that, let me share a story: Janeen, a 51-year old glam event planner met Julio at her local AA meeting in Greenwich Village. Julio was a 53-year old dead ringer for the singer Marc Anthony, definitely not the Nordic type she usually went for. But Julio glowed with born-again energy when he presented his AA qualification, the story of losing it all and finding a Higher Power. Julio had destroyed his marriage through heavy drinking with his broker buddies and their clients. Then he lost his job when his firm was taken over. Julio realized that he had messed up his life and reconnected with his church, AA and finally a new career. Now reborn as a yoga teacher and clean for three years, he radiated hope and compassion to the members of his 12-step group. Janeen herself had been in recovery for two years.

Janeen and Julio had much in common as they both went about their mission of sponsoring newly-sober group members. It was inevitable that they would start dating and with their sponsors’ blessings they eventually became exclusive. Then Janeen’s company went under in the wake of the recession and she lost her job. Finances were tight and she could no longer afford her pricey Village digs. Julio sprang into action and found a tiny but decent one-bedroom apartment in Brooklyn. He jokingly got down on one knee and presented Janeen with a cigar band, asking her to live soberly and happily ever after with him.

Janeen wasn’t sure. But they discussed all the ramifications-how they would handle his visitation with his 15-year old, where she would get to smoke her cigs (outside). They talked about dividing up household chores, finances. They shared their dreams, fears and visions of a future together. And even talked about who, if things tanked, would move out. Janeen eventually said yes.They rolled up their sleeves, gave the place a good painting and moved in.

The question for you, dear reader, is there likely to be a great Moonstruck ending here? More specifically, based on the latest research on cohabitation, are Janeen and Julio likely to:
a) Live together happily for a long time
b) Get married and go through a yucky divorce
c) Live together unhappily ever after
d) Part ways after about a year and a half
e) Get married and live happily ever after

Well, the latest research on living together shows that older cohabitors form happier and more stable relationships than younger couples . They have fewer arguments, less conflict and spend more quality time together than younger couples. They also stay together longer, five years vs. under two for their younger counterparts. And as we said earlier, marriage plans don’t seem to be a big factor for older couples.

In addition, even when older partners are compared to married couples, while marrieds often are happier than their cohabitating counterparts, there is no significant difference in general satisfaction or well-being.

T ip from my book, Love in 90 Days : What we know from studying healthy long-term couples is that when there is planning, discussion and a clear commitment to a relationship where differences are discussed and worked out – lasting love is more likely.

As for boomer couples, they often have less of a need to tie the proverbial knot or to share assets if the emotional commitment is fully there. So if you picked a) Live together happily, you are probably right.

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How to conditional formatting red amber green based on date in Excel?

If you have a list of dates in a worksheet, you would like to highlight the date with red, amber and green colors with conditional formatting. For example, if the date is past, then show red; if the future dates within 3 months from now show amber color; and if the future date is more than 3 months from now, the green color is displayed as following screenshot shown. How could you solve this job in Excel as quickly as you can?

To conditional formatting a list of date with red, amber and green colors like the traffic light system, please do with the below steps:

1. Select the date column, and click Home > Conditional Formatting > New Rule, see screenshot:

2. In the New Formatting Rule dialog box, click Use a formula to determine which cells to format option in the Select a Rule Type list box, and then enter this formula: =A2 into the Format values where this formula is true text box, see screenshot:

3. Then click Format button to go to the Format Cells dialog, under the Fill tab, select the red color, see screenshot:

4. And then click OK > OK buttons to close the dialogs, and now, the past dates in the column have been highlighted with red color, see screenshot:

5. To highlight the future dates within 3 months from now, go to the New Formatting Rule dialog box, and enter this formula: =AND(A2>=today(),A2 into the Format values where this formula is true text box, see screenshot:

6. And then click Format and choose an amber color in the Format Cells dialog, click OK > OK, and the dates within 3 months from now have been highlighted as below screenshot shown:

7. To highlight the date more than 3 months from now, you just need to apply this formula: =A2>EDATE(TODAY(),3) into the New Formatting Rule dialog box, see screenshot:

8. And choose the green color to conditional formatting the date more than 3 months in the Format Cells dialog, and you will get the result as following screenshot shown:

How do you expect MS Project (MSP) to behave when you enter an Actual Start date for a task? You would likely expect it to store the date in the ‘Actual Start’ field and stop there, but MSP does something more than that. MSP also changes the ‘Start’ date field if the Actual Start is different from the Planned Start.

Let us do a small exercise to illustrate the best practices for dealing with dates in MSP.

1. Open MSP and insert columns for Actual Start and Actual Finish in the Gantt chart view. Refer to figures I and II below.

2. Enter a new task. MSP treats Start and Finish dates as the planned dates. It uses the Project Start date as a default date for these fields. It will put ‘NA’ by default in Actual date fields. See figure III below.

3. Now put a number in the Duration field. You will notice that the Finish date is automatically calculated, but that nothing changes in the Actual dates. Refer to figure IV below.

4. Enter an Actual Start date that is different from the Start date. You will notice that the Start date, too, changes to Actual Start date and a new Finish date is calculated. Refer to figure V below.

The Conundrum of Actual Dates

Let me give you an explanation for why Actual dates change planned dates by walking you through another exercise. You can also read this article for more information.

1. Add a second task in MSP, and put a number in the Duration field. Refer to figure VI below.

2. Put a Finish to Start relationship between the first and the second task. Refer to figure VII below.

3. Enter an Actual Finish date for the first task that is different from the Finish date. You will notice that the Finish date, too, changes to the Actual Finish date. Refer to figure VIII below.

Now this seems to be completely logical. The second task is dependent on the first, so it can start only after the first task is finished. MSP recognizes this and automatically changes the planned Start date of the second task.

MSP treats ‘Start’ and ‘Finish’ dates as pertaining to the current schedule. It maintains the schedule by automatically changing them if the dates of a Predecessor task changes. However, this creates another problem. What if we wanted to see the original plan date and wanted to track a project’s actual progress against it? We use Baseline dates.

Baseline Dates

MSP has a third set of dates, which are used to store the original plan. These are called Baseline dates, and they help in tracking and in the reporting of a project.

Let us do a third exercise, which I hope will shed some light on how to use Baseline dates.

1. Create a new project in MSP and insert four columns in the Gantt chart view:

    1. Actual Start
    2. Actual Finish
    3. Baseline Start
    4. Baseline Finish

Refer to figure IX below.

2. Enter two new tasks and make the second task dependent on the first. MSP will put ‘NA’ by default in the Actual and Baseline date fields. Refer to figure X below.

3. Put a number in the Duration field of both the tasks. Finish dates for these tasks will automatically change. Refer to figure XI.

4. Set Baseline dates. The baseline dates are automatically set to Start and Finish dates respectively, but Actual dates will remain ‘NA.’ Refer to figures XII and XIII below.

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5. Enter the Actual Start date for the first task (a different date than the Start date). You will notice that the Start date will change to Actual Start date, but that the Baseline Start will remain same.

Baseline dates store the original set of planned dates. They can be used to track the project progress.

MSP Best Practices

My recommended best practices for dealing with dates in MSP are listed below:

  • Always define a predecessor task when entering a new task. You can do this for all your tasks except for the first one. This way MSP will automatically calculate Start and Finish dates of successors.
  • Avoid assigning resources to summary tasks.
  • Avoid linking summary activities.
  • Always use set Baseline dates after creating the initial schedule. This way you will be able to track the project progress against the original schedule.
  • Take care of task types while creating and tracking project tasks.
  • You can use a combination of entering Actual dates directly in the Gantt chart view or use percentage finish option.

Conclusion

MSP has three sets of dates. All of them have their own purpose. Baseline dates store the original schedule, Start/Finish dates store the current schedule, and Actual dates are used to track the ongoing and finished tasks.

Did you know MSP has nine other set of Baseline, Planned, and Actual dates? Have you used them? Which set of dates to you work with most often? I would love to hear your thoughts in the comments below.

Praveen Malik, PMP, has two-plus decades of experience as a project management instructor and consultant. He regularly conducts project management workshops in India and abroad and shares his project management thinking in his blog, PM by PM.

Divorce is on the rise among Americans 50 and older, with the rate of divorces in the age group doubling in the past few decades as the Baby Boomer generation neared retirement age. And for those 65 and older, the rate tripled.

It would be easy to read that data as a bad thing, and, no doubt, it felt bad for everyone involved in all those divorces. But every ending is a chance for a new beginning, and for folks who find themselves single as their hair gets grayer and grayer, finding love again may not be as simple as swiping an app.

That’s because the older you get, the smaller the dating pool becomes. For instance, more than 60 percent of people between 55 and 64 are already married. When you add to that the financial struggles that, sadly, are becoming more common for people nearing or past retirement age, dating over 50 isn’t exactly on the front burner in many places across the country.

There’s good news, though, and several states look to be downright hotbeds for single seniors looking for love, according to our analysis. Let’s explore which states provide the best (and worst) chances of finding love after 50, and we’ll look at why those chances depend quite a bit on what you’re looking for.

How to date after fifty

Best (And Worst) States For Finding Love

Let’s take a closer look at the best and worst states for finding love and why they ranked where they did.

How to date after fifty

But Really, It Depends On What You’re Looking For

If you’re looking for a single woman over 50, you’ll likely have much more luck than if you’re looking for a single older man. The reason, well, that’s a bummer. American women, on average, live about 3 years longer than their male counterparts.

So let’s take a look at the best states to find single men and single women over 55:

How to date after fifty
How to date after fifty

Conclusion

Study after study has shown that meaningful social connections can make for a longer, better and happier life. In fact, one study compared the lack of strong relationships to smoking almost a pack of cigarettes per day.

That’s why it’s so important for those who find themselves single late in life to take their situation seriously and look for love, even if it is harder than it might be for your kids or grandkids. Because it’s never too late to find your happily ever after.

About This Analysis

We used the Census Bureau’s American FactFinder tool to build customized datasets covering state-level and national data on marriage and income.

Marriage: We wanted to know how many people in each age group were single — and ready to mingle — so we included those divorced, widowed or never married but excluded those who were married but separated, as well as calculating the marriage trends over time in each state. The age group we examined were individuals over 55 years old.

Income: Dating can be expensive, so we compared the marriage data with median income information to create our ranking of states where the senior singles dating market is the strongest. Because of the way national median income figures are reported, this group was slightly larger and included individuals 45 and older.

The overall percentages are a simple comparison of the trends toward singlehood and income, as the figures tell us whether the state is growing or contracting when it comes to single seniors and how many seniors are likely to be up for dating based on their income level. Note the final numbers were rounded for ease of comparison.

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What is Year to Date (YTD)?

Year to Date (YTD) refers to the period from the beginning of the current year to a specified date before the year’s end. In other words, year to date is based on the number of days from the beginning of the calendar year (or fiscal year Fiscal Year (FY) A fiscal year (FY) is a 12-month or 52-week period of time used by governments and businesses for accounting purposes to formulate annual ) up until a specified date. It is commonly used in accounting Accounting Accounting is a term that describes the process of consolidating financial information to make it clear and understandable for all and finance Finance CFI’s Finance Articles are designed as self-study guides to learn important finance concepts online at your own pace. Browse hundreds of articles! for financial reporting purposes.

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Year to Date: Fiscal Year vs. Calendar Year

The YTD can be used in reference to a calendar year or a fiscal year Fiscal Year (FY) A fiscal year (FY) is a 12-month or 52-week period of time used by governments and businesses for accounting purposes to formulate annual . This is important to realize, as not all companies follow a fiscal year beginning on January 1.

Therefore, if someone uses YTD while referring to the calendar year, it is the time period between January 1 and the specified date. If someone uses YTD in reference to a fiscal year, it is the time period between a company’s fiscal year start and the specified date.

For example, Company A’s fiscal year starts on January 31. It is now March 30. The YTD with reference to the calendar and fiscal year up until March 30 is as follows:

  • Company A Calendar YTD: Period from January 1 to March 30.
  • Company A Fiscal YTD: Period from January 31 to March 30.

When the YTD is not specifically referenced to a calendar or fiscal year, it is safe to assume that the YTD is in reference to the calendar year.

Formula for Year to Date Returns on a Portfolio

The formula for calculating the YTD return on a portfolio with reference to the calendar year is as follows:

Note: The YTD formula can be applied to any situation in which an individual wants to measure the change in value from the beginning of the year to a specified date. For example, instead of calculating the YTD on a portfolio, the formula can be used to calculate the YTD on sales figures Sales Revenue Sales revenue is the income received by a company from its sales of goods or the provision of services. In accounting, the terms “sales” and , company costs, earnings Retained Earnings The Retained Earnings formula represents all accumulated net income netted by all dividends paid to shareholders. Retained Earnings are part , stock returns, bond returns, etc.

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Example of Year to Date Portfolio Returns

On January 1, 2018, Colin invested $50,000 in stocks and $200,000 in bonds to form a diversified portfolio. The portfolio allocation is 20% ($50,000/$250,000) in stocks and 80% ($200,000/$250,000) in bonds. After keeping the portfolio for several months, Colin would like to determine the year to date return on his portfolio. The value change of stocks and bonds in Colin’s portfolio is provided as follows:

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If Colin wants to calculate the year to date return up until the month of August, it would be calculated as follows:

Therefore, by holding the portfolio from January 1 to August, Colin’s year-to-date return on his portfolio is 8.117%.

The year to date calculation for other months is similar – only the numerator will change. For example, the year to date return up to March will be:

Example of YTD on Stock Returns

Consider a stock whose share price at the beginning of the calendar year was $17.50. On February 9, the company paid out dividends per share of $0.50. The current date is March 15, with a share price of $18.50. Colin would like to calculate his year to date return on this stock.

Therefore, the stock generated a year to date return of 8.571%. Note that all gains from holding the stock, including dividends received, are included in the calculation of return on investment.

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Dating Again After A Long Term Relationship? Use These 5 Tips To Bounce Back

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Breaking up with someone is hard. Breaking up with someone you’ve dated for years is even harder.

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What’s damn near impossible, though?

Starting to date again after you’ve gotten out of years of dating the same person.

Seriously, nothing is harder than relearning the dating essentials: flirting, first kisses, sex, and beginning a new serious relationship.

Maybe you’re looking for the love of your life, or maybe you’re just looking for a first date to get over your nerves. Either way, these 5 tips will help you jump back into the saddle and learn how to date again.

1. Keep details to a minimum

For some reason a standard topic of conversation on first dates seems to be romantic pasts.

Not sure why this is, but don’t fall for its seemingly innocent appearance.

No matter how much your date presses you for information, keep the details of your former long term relationship to a minimum, especially if you’re still trying to move on from the break up.

Some women might find that dating someone who just ended a LTR comes with a bit of baggage (whether it’s true or not), so don’t rule yourself out as a potential mate before you even get a chance to show her how amazing you are.

In the future when the time is right, you can be a little more open about the details – but keep the subject light for first dates.

2. Reconnect with single friends

Some couples might found that they’ve lost most of their single friends and only have a ton of couple friends.

If you walk out of your relationship only to find that all of your friends are all shacked up, try reconnecting with some of your single friends.

They can be a great help to introduce you to the trends in dating (it sounds crazy, but there are dating trends to learn when you’ve been out of the game for a while).

Meeting up with single friends is also good because being the third wheel when you hang out with your couple friends alone might be a little depressing, so give them a call and start reconnecting.

3. Don’t be afraid to try that scary new way of dating: online dating

If you got into your long term relationship back when people still lied about being signed up for an online dating website, then I have great news for you: online dating is no longer for desperate weirdos, and most of the population now dates online!

Pew Research Center just released some pretty insightful stats about online dating in the United States:

  • 59% of adults think online dating is a good way to meet people
  • Only 23% of adults think online dating is for desperate people
  • 66% of people who date online have gone on a date with someone they met through a dating site
  • 5% of married adults say they met their partner online

If you’re not sure which online dating website is right for you, then check out The Social Man’s nifty guide to online dating sites here .

Not sure where to even start when writing your profile for the dating website?

Check out these amazing tips that are guaranteed to land you more messages.

4. Get a hobby

With Netflix and Chill the mantra of singles and couples in 2016, it’s no wonder that more and more couples are staying in for lazy weekends on the couch instead of going out and doing things together. (No judgment here. Making A Murderer was too good not to binge on.)

The point is, get up off of the couch and take this time alone to reconnect with yourself.

What exactly can you do? The options are endless

  • Take up swing dancing
  • Go on a vacation
  • Learn how to make wine
  • Go camping
  • Join a bowling league
  • Try out acroyoga
  • Basically try anything that brings fun, rewarding experiences that will one day become amazing dinner party stories

The next girl you date will be grateful that you’re not just another homebody who wants to stay home all day. (Seriously, some girls really hate that. Like these girls who created an entire Reddit thread dedicated to the subject of a bf who sits at home all day.)

Go out and explore your life. Taking hobbies doesn’t seem like a way to improve your dating life, but believe me, it will.

5. Take your time

Last, but most importantly, take your time dating. Don’t rush into a new relationship right away no matter how tempting the idea might be.

It’s ok to hold off on dating if that’s not what you want to do. Men don’t have to do the whole stereotypical rebound shag, especially if you have a feeling it’s just going to make you feel worse.

No one knows how much time is right except for you, but when you are ready to start dating again, enjoy the process and enjoy learning about yourself.

You’re going to be ok. In fact, I bet you’re going to have a ton of fun during this new phase of your life.

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A WOMAN has revealed how she found out she had 50 secret siblings after doing a DNA test, as her dad was a sperm donor.

TikTok user Izzayyy, who posts under @izzyvn_98, said she is now terrified she will date a “brother” of hers but not realise they are related.

How to date after fifty

How to date after fifty

In a video, she explained: “In 2018 I did an ancestry test to see where I’m actually from.

“I get my results back and I’m not as Italian as I thought.

“I get a message from a random woman asking if I’m related to a specific person or family because I matched with her daughter and I said no.

“So then she asks if I was a sperm baby because her daughter was too and now I’m freaking out because she could be my sister because I am a donor baby.”

The TikTok user explained how she has two mums, and they used a sperm donor so they could have a child of their own.

Then, @izzyvn_98 told how her “half sister” matched with her and informed her about other mothers who used the same sperm donor.

She also gave her the link to a private Facebook group of all their “siblings” who came from their dad – and the TikTok was shocked to find there were 50 of them.

She added: “And now there’s paranoia about overpopulation because some of them are afraid there are so many of us and we may end up dating someone who happens to be a sibling.”