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Relationship experts explain the secrets to making the big decision.

There are plenty of reasons why dating your best friend seems like a good idea, particularly if you’re feeling burnt out on dating apps and sick of meeting strangers you don’t end up clicking with. With your best friend, you already have some necessary building blocks for a romantic relationship: You get along swimmingly; you know how best to communicate with one another; you likely share similar values and interests; you know what infuriates them and how to cheer them up when they’re having a rough day. You also have insight into their past sexual and romantic history—assuming you share that stuff with each other, because you’re best friends.

But of course, there’s one huge risk when it comes to dating your best friend: What if things don’t work out? If you break up on bad terms, you won’t just be heartbroken; you’ll also have lost your best friend—the person you’d typically turn to when you’re going through relationship problems.

That risk shouldn’t necessarily stop you from dating your BFF if it feels right. But before you take that next step or not, there are some things you need to consider. To learn how to take a more calculated risk when thinking about dating your best friend, we spoke to two relationship experts: sexologist Marla Renee Stewart, MA, and Kevin A. Patterson, M.Ed., author of Love’s Not Color Blind.

Don’t just do it out of convenience.

After the hellscape of 2020, it’s normal to feel lonely, sad, and in desperate need of physical intimacy and human connection—but those things alone aren’t valid reasons to date your best friend. If you’re going to date your BFF, it has to be because you want them, specifically, and not just because you’re trying to fix a you problem. “Dating someone out of convenience is not fair to them, and if it’s your best friend, you want to make sure that you come at them in an ethical and compatible way,” Stewart says.

Patterson adds, “The world is in a strange place due to the pandemic, and we’re not all in our normal frames of mind.” So he suggests evaluating “where the change from ‘friend’ to ‘partner’ is coming from.”

Think about whether they’re friends with their exes.

If they are friends with at least some of their exes, this is a good sign, Stewart explains. If you were to break up, “There is hope that you two could resume your friendship again after a period of healing,” she says. However, if they are not used to being friends with their exes, “Then you can probably expect to not return to a place of friendship once you move into the dating category.”

You need to do some self-examination, too. Think about whether you’re friends with your exes. If you aren’t friends with any of them, then be skeptical of whether you’ll be able to return to a place of friendship if things go south with your bestie. Could you live without this person in your life?

If you are friends with your exes, think about the type of friendships you have. Are you super close, or is it more of a “we’re cordial in a group setting” dynamic? The thing is, even if you can return to a place of friendship after you date, it’s unlikely that your friendship will be the same as it was before. Be prepared for that change.

Casually gauge your friend’s feelings about the idea of dating friends.

If your crush on your friend is real (as opposed to a matter of convenience), and it seems like you’d both be open to staying friends should things go south, then your next step is having a casual talk about sleeping and dating friends—especially if this is something you haven’t spoken about before.

“The fact is, some of us like to have sex with [and date] our friends and some of us don’t,” Stewart says. “So it’s worth investigating what kind of person your best friend is.”

Of course, you need to have tact when bringing up these topics. You can’t ask them out of the blue, “So, theoretically, would you date your best friend?” If you do that, they’re gonna know you’re into them. Perhaps you can frame the conversation by talking about previous friends with benefits you had. Or you can say you were reading something about COVID cuffs and heard people were settling down with friends to have a romantic partner during the pandemic.

Have they attempted to date a friend in the past? How did it go? Do they have a policy of never hooking up with friends because it gets too messy? If you don’t like what you hear, then you probably shouldn’t attempt to date them.

Consider that your friendship might already be in danger.

While the biggest concern with dating a BFF is that you’ll damage your friendship, Patterson notes that your relationship “is likely already in danger” if you really like your best friend romantically. In that case, “better to shoot your shot and chance making it a bit awkward than to not shoot your shot and spend the rest of your life wondering ‘What if?’” he says.

Patterson adds that friendships break down all the time. “I’d rather it be because we tried for more rather than some other collapse that might be outside our control.”

At the end of the day, we can’t make this decision for you. Only you can do your research and make this choice for yourself. Good luck.

Falling in love with your best friend is a very common tale. You’ve walked that road. Now you want to know how to make her fall in love with you. The good news is that you’ve already accomplished the hardest part.

The Hard Work Is Done

When it comes to getting a girl to fall in love with you, creating an emotional connection and a sense of trust and safety are the hardest things to do. You’ve already done this — that’s why you two are best friends. What you need to do now is change the dynamic of your relationship, moving from trusted friend to the type of man she can see herself having passion with.

Set Boundaries

To get her to reciprocate your love, you’re going to need to start setting boundaries. What this means is that you need to stop being there for all her emotional needs. For example, if she’s always coming to you to complain about her love life, you need to set a boundary that stops that. It doesn’t have to be some grand declaration; It can be very simple actions, for example, don’t respond to her texts or screening her calls using voice mail until you know why she wants to talk.

Get Flirting

The biggest way that you’re going to start changing the dynamic of your relationship is to flirt. But how to flirt? Here’s a couple tips on making it happen the right way:

  • Keep It Light: When it comes to flirting, you want to be playful. Think of yourself as being a self-amused little boy. Make her laugh, make her smile, get her having fun. Don’t take it too seriously and don’t go into it looking for her approval or acceptance. Remember, it’s a game and games are supposed to be fun.
  • Roll With the Punches: When you start joking around and flirting, she’s going to make jokes to test you and see how well you react. The good news is that if she’s doing this, it means she’s interested. You just need to roll with it. For example, if she says something like “Too bad you’re short or else we could date,” you say “Too bad you’re so tall!” You can also say things that deflate the joke like “You’re like my little sister — cute, but annoying.”

Above all don’t get flustered or ruffled. Remember, you’re self-amused and don’t need anyone else’s approval.

Leave Her Wanting More

Whether you’re trying to get your best friend to fall in love with you or a girl you just met, leaving her wanting more is one of the best tools to have in the box. How do you do that?

  • Time: Get together for short things that allow you two to have fun together for a set period of time. Good examples of these kinds of dates include going to comedy shows, a round of mini golf or going to a carnival together.
  • Talk: At a high point during the interaction, tell her how much fun you’re having, but no more than twice on a single date. Make sure to tell her that you’re attracted to her for reasons other than her appearance.
  • Touch: Touching dramatically increases intimacy. Her forearms, shoulders and upper back are totally “safe” places where you can touch her. Plus, touching her gives her permission to start touching you.

Combine these three and she’s going to start spending a lot of time missing you when you aren’t around.

Build Your Confidence

It’s true: The sexist thing to a woman is confidence. Getting your best friend to fall in love with you is going to require you building your confidence. I know what you’re thinking: Easier said than done. But you can build your confidence. Here’s how:

  • Better Body Language: Adopting the body language of a confident man will eventually make you more confident. Smile a lot and do “body checks” throughout the day: Are you standing up straight, for example? You’ll be amazed at how much difference this makes and how quickly it makes it.
  • Get Used to Talking to Women: Whenever you have the time, go out and talk to women. It doesn’t matter if this is at your favorite bar or a strip club: The point is to get comfortable with talking to beautiful women without getting rattled. Talk to women without trying to pick them up. Instead, just get used to being around them and chatting.
  • Act As If: “Act as if” is also known as “fake it until you make it.” It’s scientifically proven to work. If you want to be a confident guy, take a look around you and see how confident men act. Pretend that you’ve already achieved your goal. It will bring you that much closer to actually achieving it.
  • Get Physical: A lot of guys lack confidence because they’re not in touch with their bodies. If you aren’t exercising regularly, do it. Not only is it good for you, it’s going to get you feeling better about yourself. If you’re having trouble getting motivated, start going with a buddy.
  • Treat Yourself: One way to start feeling more confident instantly is to get some new threads. Dig through men’s magazines and then hit up the mall or a hip vintage store. If you’re not much of a clotheshorse, ask the sales girl for help. Even a new pair of jeans and a t-shirt can have you feeling like a million bucks. Ditto on a haircut.

Just a few simple things can start unlocking the confidence that you already have within — and getting your best friend to fall in love with you.

If you are tired of being friend-zoned, then read on to discover some of the real reasons behind her refusal.

Your best friend is someone who knows you inside out and shares a comfort level with you. So, it comes as no surprise that your proximity to each other causes you to develop a romantic interest in her. Nevertheless, if she has been vehemently denying all possibilities of a relationship, then her reasons for refusing to date you may be leaving you confused. If you are tired of being friend-zoned, then read on to discover some of the real reasons behind her refusal.

  1. She is not attracted to you

This could be it, plain and simple. Many a time we’re hesitant to share the real reason why we don’t date someone because we are afraid to hurt their feelings. You must consider the possibility that she doesn’t find you attractive and is looking for someone more appealing to her.

  1. She wants someone completely different from her as her lover

Many a time, we choose to bond with friends who are very similar to ourselves. While comfort comes easily in such cases, you probably don’t step out of your comfort zone to experience new adventures. She may want to date someone completely opposite to her so as to grow more in the relationship.

  1. She has too much information about you that she doesn’t like

You have probably shared everything under the sun with your bestie. This includes information about your past relationships, indiscretions and even unsavory facts. Whether you’ve been hung up on your ex-girlfriend, cheated on someone in the past or even ghosted a girl she set you up with; this girl knows it all and hence wishes to skip the experience of dating you.

Sometimes, such a close relationship means that they consider you family and hence don’t feel comfortable exploring intimacy with you. No matter the reason for their refusal, it is best to accept it for it takes reciprocal love to make a relationship work.

BRIDGET WINTER

So you have found an attractive guy that seems to have his life moving in the same direction as yours. All of this may sound too good to be true, maybe that is because you found out that his best friend is a girl. This is a delicate territory to enter into. You don’t want to be the jealous, threatened girlfriend, but at the same time you don’t want to play second fiddle to his BFF. Believe it or not, you can have a successful relationship with a guy whose has a girl for his best friend. While it was once believed that a girl and a boy cannot be just friends, the cultural shift in today’s world has changed the way experts look at the boy/girl friendship relationship, explains Linda Sapadin, cited in the Psychology Today article, “Can Men and Women Be Friends?” by Camille Chatterjee.

Explore this article

  • Trust in Him
  • Get to Know His Best Friend
  • Watch for Questionable Signs
  • He’s Into You, Not Her

1 Trust in Him

Trust is considered to be the foundation that any healthy relationship is built on. If there is no trust within the relationship you are not going to be a successful couple, even if your guy didn’t have a girl as his best friend. With all that being said, when you date a guy whose best friend is a girl the first thing you need to do is trust in him. Don’t let jealousy — otherwise known as that ugly green monster — rear its ugly head. Remember, there is a reason why he is not in a dating relationship with his best friend. He wants to date you, not her. Trust him so that you can have a successful relationship.

2 Get to Know His Best Friend

Don’t just assume that you do not like his best friend just because she’s a girl. Instead, take time to get to know her more. Chances are, if he is needs advice in the relationship department, he will go to her. In turn getting to know his best friend may create an ally in your corner, according to relationship coach Tracey Steinberg, cited in the Cosmopolitan article, “Should You Be Jealous if Your Boyfriend’s Best Friend is a Girl?” When you take the time to get to know who she really is you may discover a new friend for yourself, and understand why they are friends in the first place. Men understand that so much more can be brought out of a friendship when you keep it strictly platonic.

3 Watch for Questionable Signs

If you are truly worried that your guy’s relationship with his best friend goes a bit further than just friendship, consider any questionable signs. If he seems secretive about his relationship with his friend, or doesn’t seem comfortable with talking to you about his and her relationship, you may want to raise a slight flag. Before pointing any fingers and accusing anyone of any wrong doing, share your feelings with him and let him know why you are concerned. While men and woman can definitely just be friends there is a mutual attraction that brought them together as friends. Watching out for the signs can help spare hurt feelings in the end. Chances are you may be reading more into the situation. At least talking with him about your feelings can put your mind at ease.

4 He’s Into You, Not Her

If you start to question the relationship between your guy and his friend, or even start to feel insecure about your own relationship, look for signs that he is into you. If he’s actively listening to you and making eye contact when you speak, he has your best interests at heart and is smitten with you. Maybe he seems a bit giddy or nervous when you two are together. Don’t take that to mean he’s hiding something, instead rest assured he’s attracted to you and isn’t quite sure how to act. By visually being aware of the signs that he’s into you, you can ease your worries and concentrate on how to make the best of your relationship with him. Ultimately it breaks down to what Steinberg says that “He chose you, not her — so believe it.”

So I realise the term “friendzone” is now in vogue and that being “in the friendzone” is not compatible with being in a relationship with someone.

But, I don’t think I would ever date a girl I didn’t know well beforehand and weren’t, in some sense, already friends with.

And that is because I am only attracted to girls who have a genuinely good heart. If I don’t first know her and become friends with her, I won’t develop feelings and therefore I won’t feel the need to date her.

However, as I said in the first paragraph, everybody complains about the friendzone. Which makes me anxious that maybe girls function differently. Maybe they want to date strangers, not their friends. Idk. I want to know if you’d date a friend of yours you already knew. And why not if not.

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So I realise the term “friendzone” is now in vogue and that being “in the friendzone” is not compatible with being in a relationship with someone.

But, I don’t think I would ever date a girl I didn’t know well beforehand and weren’t, in some sense, already friends with.

And that is because I am only attracted to girls who have a genuinely good heart. If I don’t first know her and become friends with her, I won’t develop feelings and therefore I won’t feel the need to date her.

However, as I said in the first paragraph, everybody complains about the friendzone. Which makes me anxious that maybe girls function differently. Maybe they want to date strangers, not their friends. Idk. I want to know if you’d date a friend of yours you already knew. And why not if not.

People always say that “good relationships start with a good friendship”, but i’m not sure if that really works. Usually the guy either suffers in the “friendship” because he doesn’t have the courage to make a move or he actually makes a move and the girl rejects him.

Call this friendzone or not, but there’s a real danger in being friends for a longer period, because that will put you in the friend category because you never escalated and it killed every romantic aspect.

I’m in the same situation, meaning just going to ask a girl out. Fortunately, we haven’t been “friends” for a long time and also feel like we took it a little bit forward with flirting and touching, but who knows how it will end. The only thing i know for sure, that for me, a rejecting is much less scary than missing out on a possible great thing with her, don’t ever forget this. Also, if you secretly attracted to her, that’s not really a good friendship. You’re lying to her and also not being true to yourself by not making a move when you want to, and that is not attractive and pretty needy.

As a friendship grows deeper, you may start to catch feelings for your best friend.

Most times, you get these feelings unexpectedly, and you won’t be able to track when or how it started. You often feel like spending more time with them and get jealous when they spend time with the opposite gender.

Developing feelings for your best friend is challenging; you’ll be scared of them not feeling the same way and wanting to remain just friends. However, if you manage to pull it off, your relationship will blossom because of how well you both understand each other. Below are some things you should consider before dating your best friend.

Is it a good idea?

It is not wrong to date your friend because all relationships start as friendships. In addition, your history as friends will positively influence the relationship because you’ll know their likes and dislikes. Finally, your trust in each other will also facilitate a healthy relationship.

How long should you remain friends before dating?

Although it’s essential to be friends before going into a relationship, there is no specific friendship timeframe. The more you spend time with them, the more you’ll get to know them, so what’s important is understanding each other.

Don’t enter the friendship with the sole aim of developing a relationship because you’ll analyze their characteristics more to decide if they’re a good fit, and that can make the friendship short-lived.

How to transition from friendship to dating

Transitioning from friends to lovers can be fast and natural. Of course, it begins with you catching feelings for them and confessing these feelings. After you tell them how you feel, they might not immediately answer you. However, watch out for subtle signs that show that they feel the same way.

If the love is unrequited, you don’t have to blame them or yourself for anything. Instead, be grateful that you found out on time instead of chasing a lost cause. Finally, talk to them to know if you can remain friends and if you can’t; it’s best you part ways.

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You have found a great guy that you are attracted to, that has the same sense of humor as you, that has the same goals and that you really want to start a meaningful relationship with. All of this sounds perfect, but there is one catch: His best friend is a girl. You may be wondering what you should do. Beings jealous and feeling threatened are natural, especially when you feel like you are in competition with another girl; but believe it or not, you can successfully date a guy whose best friend is a girl.

Trust

Trust is the foundation of any healthy relationship. If you don’t have trust, you simply aren’t going to have a successful relationship — whether your guy’s best friend is a girl or not. That said, if you are dating a guy who has a girl best friend, the first thing you need to do is trust him. Don’t let the ugly green monster show its ugly head. There is a reason why your guy and his girl best friend aren’t dating — and there is a reason why he wants to date you. Trust him and you can have a successful relationship; don’t trust him and you won’t. Case closed.

Get to Know Her

Don’t make up your mind that you don’t like your guy’s best girlfriend simply because she is a girl. Instead, try getting to know her. Spend some time with them together, and see if she wants to spend some bonding time alone with you. Once you get to know her, you may discover that she really is a cool chick and see exactly why she is your guy’s best friend.

Be Understanding

You probably have a female best friend yourself, and there are obviously several qualities about her that you love. Those very qualities are likely why your guy has a girl best friend, too. Girls are great best friend material, dating and relationship coach Tracey Steinberg tells “Cosmopolitan” magazine. They are caring, compassionate and kind — and men can often have deeper and more meaningful relationships with them than they can with other men. So, consider that as food for thought and maybe you’ll have a better understanding of why your guy has a girl best friend.

Inquire

It’s normal to feel jealous. After all, your guy is getting attention from another girl, and that other girl knows a lot about him. If you do find yourself feeling uncomfortable, it is okay to ask questions. In fact, it’s better to ask questions then it is to make assumptions. Your guy will likely be able to answer your questions and make you feel more at ease about the situation.

Look for Signs He’s Into You

If you are feeling insecure about the status of your relationship, look for signs that indicate that your guy is into you. If he makes eye contact with you, attentively listens to you, does things to get your attention and seems giddy and nervous around you, chances are that he is really into you. If he is showing signs that he is into you, put your worries about his relationship with his female best friend at bay and instead concentrate on your relationship with him.

Notice Questionable Signs

If you really are worried that your guy is having a relationship that goes beyond friendship with his gal pal, consider the signs that might indicate such. If your guy is secretive about his relationship with his best lady friend, he doesn’t seem comfortable talking about his relationship with her, he drops everything to assist her, he is in constant contact with her day and night or he seems distant from you, there is a chance that his friendship with this gal may be more. If you have a sense that this is the case, share your feelings and the reasons why you are concerned.

Edited by Kathy McGraw, Visihow Admin, VC, Thekickgirl

It’s often said that your significant other should be your best friend, and it’s true that relationships where the two people genuinely like each other and feel like they can rely on each other for support do better than those formed on less permanent ties. When you’ve got a best friend about whom you are feeling more than friendly, it’s natural to wonder whether the burgeoning feelings you have for them are the first stirrings of love. Here are some ways for you know if that is the case.

You Might Be in Love with Your Best Friend If

I’m in Love. Now What?

So, you’ve figured out that you’re in love with Best Friend. What do you do about it? You don’t want to lose them as a friend if it turns out that they don’t reciprocate your feelings; on the other hand, maybe they feel the same about you and this torture is affecting them, too.

Questions and Answers

I can’t tell her about my feeling if she started talking to me or she broke our friendship too?

If I confess my love and she stopped to talking or just lossing her friendship. If she stoped staying with me or talking with me. Now we are atleast friends but if I confess my love and she just said no and what about our friendship

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How do I know The difference between wanting to be in love and actually being in love with my best friend?

I think I’m in love with my best friend of 2 years now. Ever since we first met I felt like I’ve liked him but I never did anything. in fact I even helped him and my ex best friend get together. But they broke up a few months later. I was going to tell him I liked him but he started dating someone new before I could. They have been dating for over a year now. I don’t know I guess I’m still just thinking about wut if I don’t love him rather I just feel like I do because I want that kind of relationship. What if he ends up liking me back and my idiot self starts to not feel like I love him anymore. Cause every guy I’ve dated so far I’ve thought I liked them but when I dated them I hated it. Now I can’t be in a relationship because I can’t keep thinking about him. What if I just want the idea of his love and that I don’t want him. How do I know the difference??

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The first thing I thought when I realized I was falling in love with my best friend was, Sh*t. It happened right before my eyes: the guy sitting across the table, who I used to text about the really awkward dates I went on, transformed into the person I wanted to be kissing at the end of the night. It was an electric feeling — like I got zapped — and suddenly I realized everything was about to change in a big way.

When you start to date your best friend, you gain a lot: a protector, undeniable confidence, and a feverish determination to make your relationship work. But you also lose a lot and learn a lot. Read on to find out why taking on the challenge is a tough feat, but at the end of the day, totally worth it.

1. You’ll Know Exactly What the Other Person’s Thinking, All the Time

You don’t need to bother trying to read your own best friend’s mind because you already know what he or she is about to say. So while a relationship with somebody new often involves a lot of overanalyzing and sending nerve-racking texts, you won’t have to play the guessing game this time around.

2. Having Sex Is Funny . . . at First

After exchanging so many stories about sexual encounters you had with other people, you probably never imagined you’d be doing this with each other. But you’re comfortable enough to laugh at the fact that, yes, it’s happening now, and it feels pretty wild. But after you’ve been intimate a few times, the giggling will subside, the romance will kick in, and the sex will probably be pretty darn good.

3. You’ll Wish There Were More Hours in the Day

Time: you’re going to want more of it. At first, you won’t be able to get enough of each other. Now you can do the things you’ve always done as friends and things people do as more than friends. While you’ll want to spend the whole day together, there are other people in your life who need your lovin’ too, like family and the rest of your buddies. Don’t forget it.

4. You Won’t Stop Making Fun of Each Other

If you’ve always made fun of his obsession with that one childish video game and he’s always picked on you for wearing that “weird” man-repelling top, it’s not going to stop now. The only difference is that the teasing will probably end with a kiss on the forehead instead of a playful punch in the arm.

5. There’s a Constant Fear You Live With

You could lose the most important person in your life — the one who plays the part of your best friend and boyfriend or girlfriend. If you’re fighting with him or her, you might have to tap your mom or another friend for advice. You try not to think about what would happen if this all doesn’t work out, but sometimes you do, and sometimes a mighty pang of anxiety comes along with it.

6. Dinner Plans Will Be Incredibly Easy

Planning your first dinner “date” will go something like this: “Wanna get pizza from that place we tried that time?” “Yeah.” And you’ll probably split the bill, just like you always have. And you’ll feel totally comfortable stuffing your face in front of each other, just like you always have.

7. You’ll Fight a Lot Sooner Than You Expected

You’ve never been afraid to tell this person how you feel, and that’s not about to change now that you’ve entered a romantic relationship. If you’re angry about something, there’s less of a chance you’ll hide it and more of a chance you’ll lay it on the line. Your best friend already knows what irks you and when to stop pushing your buttons. And you won’t hesitate to remind them, lest they forget.

8. You’ll Start to Care About How You Look in Front of Them, Even If You Didn’t Before

Your best friend’s probably seen you in your sweats with no makeup on plenty of times. Because really, you never put a second thought into how you looked. But now, you’ll have fun getting dressed up and feeling sexy in front of your SO. There’s a newfound level of attraction there, and you’ll really enjoy it.

9. It’s Worth It

No one ever tells you to go ahead and fall in love with your best friend because of the risk factor. If all goes wrong and things end badly, there’s the chance you’ll lose someone who’s a very important part of your life. But you’ll also never know a bond as strong as the one you share with someone who truly cares about you, supports you, laughs with you, and also happens to be in love with you. There are a lot of crazy decisions you’ll make in life. If you get the chance, you should totally let this be one of them.

1) If you change boyfriends so fast they rarely achieve name status, a man must be around for at least six weeks before you make your friends bother to learn his first name. Until such time, he should be referred to as “The boy” or “That guy”.

2) All girls must have a “Mr.Right Now”. This is the guy friend who is always ready and available to hang out with you, and may or may not like you as more than a friend. He is always ready to party till dawn, and do things you wish you didn’t remember in the morning. He’s not “Mr. Right,” but he may be good enough to be “Mr. Right Now.”

3) If you just met a guy and know absolutley nothing about him, but need to refer to him during ‘girl talk’ you use one example of who he is, something he has, or what he does, and he becomes. that guy.
(Ex. “The Camaro guy”, “The Trainer dude”, “The Four a.m. in the Taxi Guy”)

4) Every girl must wait at least a day and a half before calling a guy whose number she has retreived.

5) You are never in any case to date a friends ex or a guy who she was really into.
Exception: If he’s one of those guys who every girl likes.

6) You are to never diss a friends boyfriend except to agree lightly or nod when she says he’s being a asshole. In most cases it is easier to nod.
Exception: If a guy cheated or dumped your friend is is exceptional for you to claim he isn’t good enough, and that she deserves better as well as reminding her that he was an asshole anyway.

7) If you wan’t to date a friend brother it is required that you get said friends permission.

8) No girl is to ever hang out with the boyfriend of a friend without the friend present. If permission to is granted their should be at least 3 other people with you.

9) No girl may have more than one ‘Love of her Life’ at one time, though having a boyfriend and a ‘Love of her Life’ is fine.

10) No girl shall wear the same outfit or perfume as a friend is they will knowingly be in the same place.

11) No girl shall purchase a distinctive item of clothing which she is aware her friend owns without express permission from the friend.

12) No girl shall borrow an item of clothing without asking the clothing owner’s permission, unless both parties have made an official decision to waive this rule in the context of their friendship.

13) An eye for an eye and a foot for a foot. If a friend borrows an item of clothing and destroys it, said friend must re-pay it.

14) The penalty for exposing a secret to an unauthorized party shall be exile from Girlville.

15) A girl who can substantially claim that she was not aware that a piece of information was a secret at the time she exposed it shall not be subject to punishment.

16) Inside jokes are not to be explained to outsiders.

17) Always leave a man wanting more but don’t leave him guessing too long since guys do not take hints easily.

18) If a guy your friend is into asks for your number, you are to deny it and walk away, and/or slip him your friends number while saying, “I think she is more your type, you should call her”.

20) In a case where a friend spreads a horrible rumor about a friend, and than apologizes they are to be given the cold-shoulder for at least 3 days.

21) In a fight between a friend and her boyfriend you must always choose your friends side.

22) When dating a girl should find equal and/or enough time to still hang out with her girls.

23) Never insult your friend but never let your friend leave the house looking hideous. Find a better way to tell your friend how they look.
Ex: ‘I think your other jeans are nice’, ‘You should wear less eyeliner, you have great eyes’.

24) When a friend is drunk, never allow her to dial, drive or leave with a random guy.

25) When a friend calls you up complaining about how she is drunk and can’t go home you must allow her to stay at your house, without letting your parentals (if you live with them) find out.

26) When out with the ladies, if Girl #1 points out a guy that she is interested in, Girl #2 should avoid making a bee-line over to him to get his number for herself. Show some respect.

27) When said evening is described as a “Girls’ Night Out” that means it is for GIRLS ONLY. Consider it payback for all those tree houses and snow forts we couldn’t enter as children. Do not invite your boyfriend.

28) Stop being the “Me too!” girl If your friend is telling a story, stop stealing her thunder – and her story – by constantly trying to one-up her. For example:
GIRL 1: I had a horrible day. My flat iron broke in the middle of straightening, I dropped my brand new bottle of Burberry Touch on the bathroom floor, I missed the bus by two seconds and was late for school, my teacher yelled at me for something Sally did, and I got into a fight with Jason over whose family we’re spending Thanksgiving with.
GIRL 2: Oh that’s horrible. The same thing happened to me today, only I stepped in gum on the subway platform too. And when I went to scrape it off, I tripped and ripped my stockings and it reminded me of the time I was at my ex-boyfriend’s place for Christmas.

29) Be a responsible friend and not a ‘Yes-Girl’. If a friend is asking you if she should get back together with her ex who chated on her, never wanted to hang out with her and than blamed her for them breaking up, and you say ‘Yes’, than you’re a bad friend. Friends are supposed to protect and help friends. SO say your part even if they don’t like what you have to say.

30) Don’t be a hater. If a girl walks in looking gorgeous, girls automatically try to find something bad about her. But who knows? She could have just lose a friend, or got dumped, etc. So be nice and stop hating.