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How to define love

How to define love

Everyone wants love but not everyone finds it. Interestingly enough, when you love or are in love, you know exactly what love is.

Love paints our view of the world and bestows purpose and meaning to life. Somehow, when love is absent or lost, amnesia sets in.

It’s hard to define love; you ask if it’s even real. You are either on a journey toward true love or on a journey to defy it.

So what is the definition of love?

Love is fluid, offering different flavors and depths. In the attraction phase, being in love is an emotion-producing, strong affection and obsession for another. It’s driven by chemistry racing around your brain and body, an experience many poets and artists have written about love.

It’s euphoric and cannot be understood unless you have experienced it yourself.
This experience is a hallmark of new love, marked with a preoccupation with your beloved and making the world around you disappear.

It transcends time and commands your attention. A three-hour conversation with your beloved can seem like a blink of an eye when smitten with love. Existence quickly moves from okay to “I can climb Mount Everest,” simply because of your experience with love.

But not every relationship experiences such a high, nor does experiencing this bliss determine the longevity of your relationship.

Dopamine, the pleasure chemical in your brain, norepinephrine, which produces the racing heart and excitement, and endorphins — the body’s natural painkillers — act like magnets bringing lovers together in ecstasy.

This chemical reaction produces a dependency on your love object.

For some, the need for this natural high has tripped them up to becoming addicted to love, cycling through relationships looking for the next rush.

On average, this phase lasts 18 to 36 months and is nature’s way of attracting us into venturing into ‘real’ love.

Consider the attraction phase the prelude. Many relationships naturally phase out here when there isn’t enough interest, commonalities or shared values and goals.

For those that continue, the next phase is ‘attachment’. The attachment phase centers on commitment.

You’ve moved through the fantasy and are ready to embrace real love. It’s as if in the attraction phase, all the possibilities of what this love can bring flashes before your eyes — and in the attachment phase you get to build it … together.

Playing a key role in this stage are oxytocin, vasopressin, and endorphins, which are released when having sex and when engaging in things that make you feel close to your partner.

They produce a general sense of well-being, including feeling soothed, peaceful and secure, leading to happy feelings and a deeper attachment.

The commitment or attachment needs to be strong, as problems and distractions will arise testing your patience, your love and at times, push you over the edge.

Attachment and commitment are central in long-term relationships.

Marriage cannot happen without these key ingredients. The pathways to attachment and commitment are developed initially in infancy with your primary caregiver.

This is part of your emotional and social development and is necessary for your survival.

As an infant, you attached to adults who were sensitive, responsive and consistent in their care for you. These caregivers or attachment figures became a source of security and based on their responses, you developed patterns of attachment.

These primary relationships became your relationship blueprint guiding your perceptions, emotions, beliefs and expectations for future romantic relationships.

This is why when you fall in love it feels like you have always known him or her . your other half.

There’s a lot of work that goes on in this phase. You are building a home and a life together; you’re establishing careers and perhaps raising a family.

At times, your different styles and personalities harmonize and at other times, clash.

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What’s important here is to be sensitive, responsive and consistent — be present and available to your partner and your relationship. Checking out mentally or emotionally can run the peril of riding a runaway train with no one at the helm.

It takes conscious effort to maintain attitudes that ensure the success of your relationship.

A perspective of a glass half full works better than the glass half empty to keep you together. It’s important you see the best in your mate; acknowledge and appreciate each other.

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The actions and the choices you make — even when you don’t feel in love and at times may even question it — determine whether or not you sustain a satisfying relationship and keep love alive.

In real love, your attitudes matter. Your actions matter. The choices you make matter. Being responsible matters. Having fun matters. Pleasure matters.

Real love brings two strangers together for the dance of a lifetime.

It gives you the opportunity to co-create the lives you desire and leads to deep personal growth and fulfillment like no other relationship offers.

In real love, each partner takes great care to satisfy the other’s needs and regards the other as his or her most valued prize; held in high esteem and with gratitude. There is a great sense of security and freedom in this form of love which comes with time.

Statistically, true and lasting love has a greater chance in marriage than in cohabitation. Perhaps, it’s for the single notion of commitment.

Real love guides us to live in peace and with vitality.

It teaches us to have the courage to face and rise above the challenges life brings. It inspires us to a spirit of generosity and kindness. It leads us to live with dignity and honor. And it reminds us to be quick to forgive as this is the journey of love.

For some people, love can be used to describe almost anything. OMG, I love this iced latte! This sweater is amazing, I love it. But, what about romantic relationships? For couples in long-term relationships, love means loyalty and commitment but for college students in the center of their first real relationship, love may feel messy and complicated.

It doesn’t matter where you fall on the spectrum, whether your love life is blissful or nonexistent, it’s clear that everyone has an opinion on love and what it means in a healthy relationship.

In the hopes of coming to a more collective understanding of love, we asked 10 people in different stages of their relationship to explain what love means to them. Here’s what they had to say (their answers may surprise you).

For People That Are Not in a Relationship, Love is:

How to define love

Love is Security

“For me, love is the most secure feeling. Love is having a companion, best friend, lover, partner, sounding board, cheerleader, advisor, and cuddle buddy through every avenue in the journey of life.”

Love is Indescribable

“Love is a sentiment not able to be characterized by words.”

Love is About Give-and-Take

“Completely opening up and sharing your feelings and life with them daily, that’s what constitutes a healthy relationship . But, it must be mutual. If a particular area is lacking on either side of the relationship, it makes it unideal and unhealthy.”

Love is Respect

“To me, a healthy relationship is built on respect for one another. Each person understands the commitment they are making to the other person.”

Love is Being In-Sync

“A healthy relationship could describe a plethora of different types of relationships, but the most important aspect of being in a relationship is being in-sync . Whether you both talk through every hour of your waking day, or whether you agree that you’re both busy and you’ll just talk on the phone at the end of every day, as long as you both are in agreement, that is what’s important.”

Love is Commitment

“The key to success in a healthy relationship with someone is actually the terrifying but necessary effort of commitment. Being there for someone is what a real relationship needs. When we neglect to put in the effort is when things don’t work out with someone that could have been perfect for us. If you put in that extra effort for someone that can reciprocate it, love can be the greatest feeling one can ever feel.”

For Couples That Have Been Together For One Year or More, Love is:

How to define love

Love is Vulnerability

“Because love is scary, it’s basically giving someone a map of all your flaws and imperfections and putting faith in them to not abuse that power. And that can be so beautiful; it makes you do the hardest thing a human could ever do, be vulnerable.”

Love is “Growing Together”

“Things won’t always be great. Your partner may do things that will make you angry, but if you are willing to not look at it as obstacles, but rather as opportunities for growth, then you are truly in love .”

Love is Knowing Your S.O.’s Love Language

“ Loving better comes from knowing what makes the other person happy. For him its back scratches and hugs. For me, it’s a verbal “I appreciate you” or “You look pretty.” No matter what it is, we’ve learned to love each other better because we know what makes each other happy, and we make the effort to find new ways to make each other happy.”

Love is Healthy Communication

“When I say communicate, I don’t mean text. I mean calling and Facetiming. From experience, text creates so many opportunities for misunderstanding, and ultimately, unnecessary conflicts and trust issues. So, if I have anything to say about healthy relationships , it is to trust and communicate.”

Love is Equality

“A healthy relationship, in my eyes, is when two people are equal in a relationship. We equally love, we equally respect, and we equally care.”

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How to define love

Love is Accepting their Flaws

We’re human beings, we’re never going to be the same, but being patient and accepting each other’s flaws is something that never stops us from growing with one another.”

Love is Patience

We aren’t always going to agree. Testing each other’s patience and still coming home to love, kindness, and respect is a feeling I never want to disappear.”

What is the meaning love? Love is what we experience in any moment that we are with someone without having or believing any judgments about that person (“good” or “bad”).

Love is complete acceptance: When we allow someone to be exactly as they are, without any belief that they aren’t good enough, without any belief that they would be “better” if they were different, this is love.

Love is completely unconditional: Love has no conditions. When we truly love someone, we can’t stop loving them, regardless of what they do or say. If our love is dependent upon the other person acting and speaking how we want, then this love is completely conditional. We often confuse this to be love, but this is just positive thoughts about someone. This is just loving what a person says or does, not loving them. Positive thoughts or the thought “I love you” isn’t necessary to love. Sometimes it even gets in the way.

Love is selfless: True love doesn’t want anything in return, because there is nothing it needs. We just love for the sake of love. When we love someone, we don’t look for them to fill our needs, love us back, and all those types of things. If that is what we are looking for, then we are just using the other person. What is the meaning of love? Love is completely selfless.

To understand what is the meaning of love, we really need to understand what prevents us from loving. When we believe our judgments about someone, we can feel anger, disappointment, or resentment, or we can just feel separate from that person. All of this blocks us or prevents us from loving the person we are with.

When we are with someone, and believing our judgments, commentary, or labels about them, this puts up a wall or a barrier between us. We aren’t connecting with them, loving them, and truly being with them. We are just experiencing our thoughts about them. For example, we might experience our thoughts about how they aren’t appreciative enough, aren’t in good enough shape, aren’t a good enough father etc. But these thoughts just get in the way of love.

When we believe our judgments about people, it can seem as if we are alone or separate from others. This creates this longing for connection and love. All it takes to have this connection we yearn for is to just be with people without judgment. In the absence of judgment, love is what remains.

When we are not believing our judgments about someone, we are loving them, or in other words, we are being present with them (i.e. living in the moment with them). When we are present with someone, we automatically feel a closer connection to, and more intimacy with, the people around us. Our feeling of separateness from people disappears.

If you want to feel love, it is helpful to first understand what is the meaning of love. If someone else loves you, but you don’t care about that person, how much impact does that person’s love have on your level of happiness? You may have noticed, it has very little impact. If receiving love from someone else had the power to make us feel good, then anyone’s love would give us the same good feeling. But, clearly this isn’t how life works.

The reason is because fulfillment doesn’t come from receiving love; the feeling of happiness and completion we have always wanted comes from loving others. When we love someone without wanting or expecting anything in return, we feel free, open, and wonderful.

To read my full blog post all about how the feeling you want in life doesn’t come from being loved, but actually from giving love, please click here

Generally, we are seeking love from others to make us happy. When we are living in the moment, we are already happy because the thoughts that would normally make us unhappy aren’t there. Since we are naturally happy when we are living in the moment, there is nothing we need or want from others. We can stop looking for others to make us happy… whether that is looking to them to love us, or just fill our needs. If there is nothing we want from others, then we are just free to love.

We don’t have to worry about whether other people will love us, leave us, or make us happy, because we are already happy. None of that matters when we are already content. We are free to purely love others, and we completely forget about the idea of seeking love.

Here are 7 things that many of us innocently mistake to be love. To read the full blog post of what love is not, with explanations of each misconception, please click here

  1. When we look for someone to love us, we are looking for someone we can use to make us happy
  2. If we are trying to change or improve our partner, in that moment, we are not loving them
  3. Positive thoughts is not love
  4. Excitement about our future with someone creates butterflies and nice feelings, but it isn’t based on love
  5. If we require our partner to do things for us, in that moment, it’s not love
  6. Loving how someone seems to make us feel isn’t love
  7. The fear of getting hurt isn’t part of love

We tend to think that the meaning of love is to love one person. But truly, what is the meaning of love? The beautiful thing about love is that we don’t have to limit our loving to just our romantic partner or our family. We can love everyone we encounter. When we are present, we have nothing to fear, so we don’t have to create any boundaries about who can receive our love. When we are with anyone without judging them in any way, we feel love for them. It doesn’t matter if this person is our spouse or our waiter in a restaurant.

Thank you for reading this post titled “What is the meaning of love?”. I hope it gives you a better idea about what is the meaning of love. Please don’t hesitate to contact me if you have any questions about the meaning of love and how to experience love.

There have been many terrible songs, poems, and movies made about love, but a surprisingly small number of Cracked articles. Today, I intend to fill that void. Come with me as I seek the most accurate definition for this thing that makes the world go ’round. Spoiler alert: “A thing that makes the world go ’round” is a bad definition for love.

How to define love

5 Love Means Never Having to Say You’re Sorry

When we were very small or when our parents were a little bigger than very small, there was a very famous book and movie called Love Story. Think of it as the Titanic of the early ’70s.

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Anyway, the most famous line from Love Story is the phrase “Love means never having to say you’re sorry,” which is actually said twice in the film. The first time by Jennifer (the poor but feisty girl) to Oliver (the rich but kind boy) after he tries to apologize for losing his temper. Later in the film, after she dies (because that’s what lovers in shitty love story movies do), Oliver says it to his father (the rich ogre), who apologizes for not approving of his son’s relationship.

I get it. Jenny taught Oliver something. Point made. But what did she teach him? I don’t know. We could argue and debate what exactly that means, but I’m not going to. Maybe it means if you’re in love the person you’re with knows your heart and doesn’t sweat the small stuff. Maybe it means love is having no regrets, as in never being sorry for being in love, but that’s stupid, because the phrase is said in the context of apologies that have nothing to do with that. I’m not sure. Neither are you. Neither is my boss, Jack O’Brien. I asked him, too. No one knows. (Although Jack did send me a note that read, “Love is not having to answer your stupid questions, loser,” which I think was a bit harsh.) But I tell you what: If you have strong opinions on the phrase, write your best guess in the comments and then delete that comment. This is the Internet. There’s no capacity for that level of comprehension. We only understand things with graphical rating systems.

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So how good is “Love means never having to say you’re sorry” as a definition of love?

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Have you ever been in love? Or, are you beginning to fall in love?

If yes, you must be aware that being in love makes you experience unparalleled happiness that you must have never felt before.

If you are asked, how do you know you love someone , or how do you feel being in love, you might fall short of the right words to describe love.

Perhaps, you might end up saying that you feel happy. And, if someone asks you, what makes you happy, you might not have a good reason to tell. Well, this is the power of love!

Love is a powerful emotion that you can feel, but not constrict it in mere words. Nevertheless, in this article, some beautiful words of love are used to give you a near feeling of what it is to love and be loved.

How to describe love

The common consensus is that love is a beautiful emotion to be in, or it is a marvelous feeling – all these things may hold true for many people.

However, one thing that really stuck with the infamous dialogue on love spoken by the twelfth Doctor is that love is not just something one feels ; it is a promise that one makes.

When it comes to words to describe love, it is a promise to love and cherish the other, to respect and devote their life and heart to the other, to grow with each other and to help each other out in whatever way we can.

As each person is raised differently, and they experience life differently; therefore, their needs and wants in life will be different.

As cliché as it sounds, there is a nutter for every nut case. Whatever kind of a person you are or are looking for, give it time and have patience, and they will find you.

It implies that everyone cannot explain love in some standard or well-defined manner. Just like you, every single person is unique, and thus, the ways of describing love for every individual are unique.

What is the strongest word for love?

As said earlier, there is no one word to express love. There are several different words for love.

So, if you ask, what is a better word for love, for some it may be ‘sacrifice.’ For others, it may be compassion or understanding, or respect, or some other word for love .

The best way to know what love is to not go by the hearsay, and fall in love yourself, sink in the feeling and experience it with all your heart.

What it means to love someone can’t be explained entirely by anyone. After all, everyone has their own love language.

To be in love can make you or break you.

So, how do you define love? Or, what words can describe love?

If you were to ask an individual to describe the feeling of being in love or to just use any words to describe love; the answer that you will get might be a beautiful feeling, serene, the world makes more sense, end of all pain and heartache; but seldom does anyone say that it is an enormous responsibility.

To be in love or to admit to being in love is like someone has given you the opportunity to destroy them completely, they have personally hand-delivered the ammunition, and it is up to you that what you do with it. That will either make you or break you!

Different people will have their own words to describe love; based on their background, personality, life, past heartbreaks, or successful relationships.

There are no definite rules or steps to follow.

What you take out of it is definitely up to you as there are no set rules or scientific steps to follow when one falls in love.

It is a slow and strenuous process, where you get better by trial and error, w here you have to be patient, and kind, responsible, and generous; because love is nothing if not the attributes mentioned before.

In order to describe love in explicit words, a study was conducted. The result was comprised of very interesting and jaw-dropping answers from two different sets of people.

Group A had people who were single, and Group B had people who have been in a relationship for over a year or were married.

This is how they decided to describe love.

Group A aka the single squad

For the single gals and guys, some words to describe love are:

  1. Indescribable
  2. About give and take
  3. Security
  4. About giving respect
  5. Commitment
  6. Being in sync with your significant other

Group B the ones in for the long haul

The till death do part, and the long haul ones sang a different tune. For them, love words are:

  1. Accepting the significant other’s flaws
  2. Healthy communication
  3. Being vulnerable
  4. Equality
  5. Patient
  6. Growing together
  7. Knowing the significant other’s love language and what makes them truly happy
  8. Knowing your significant other’s language, when they are silent or what are they upset about without actually them telling you.

In a nutshell

Being in love is not a child’s play.

Once realized, only let your feelings known if you have the intention of following through. Life is too small; you play with an innocent someone’s emotions and leave them willy-nilly.

You will know how to describe your love, or you will know the words to describe someone you love, which will be different and unique and special; because you are different and unique, and special.

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Romantic love, despite being a universal human experience, still holds much mystery. If you search for a dictionary definition, you’ll find vague one-liners. Collins Dictionary describes it as: ‘love characterised by romance and involving sexual attraction.’ Dr Sarah Pinto, lecturer in Australian Studies at Deakin University, says researchers in a number of fields – from humanities to science – have tried to pin down a concrete explanation of romantic love for the past two decades.

No one can agree on precisely what romantic love is, but most agree that it is a human emotion, Dr Pinto says. But there is also debate about how to define a human emotion. Some will classify it as a biological process while others definite emotions as cognitive behaviours.

Love is a changing cultural concept

Dr Pinto suggests that the reason we struggle to define romantic love is because the concept is fluid. ‘It’s not something that is always the same in different times and places. It’s a cultural phenomenon that changes,’ she explains. Through her research, Dr Pinto found that in 19th century America there was a focus on a spiritual compatibility. After World War II, sex and passion became important. Today, she says there’s a strong belief that real romantic love has to involve friendship, shared interests and a sexual relationship. According to Dr Pinto, the contemporary idea of romantic love might ask too much of couples. ‘The expectation is too onerous,’ she argues.

‘Some people would say romantic love has to involve a sexual or erotic component,’ Dr Pinto suggests. However, she points out that a lot of research is focused on heterosexual relationships and does not account for a range of other possibilities.

Love is romanticisation of the past

Through her research, Dr Pinto has explored romantic representations of the past and how they impact our present. In particular, she cites Australian films focused on World War II, such as Australia, Come in Spinner and Paradise Road, all of which romanticise wartime. ‘The strong focus on our romantic past is a problem. Many women’s lives underwent a significant shift into paid work. It was a time of upheaval,’ she says. But when people consume romantic portrayals of the past, it can have an impact on their own romantic expectations.

‘‘It’s not something that is always the same in different times and places. It’s a cultural phenomenon that changes,’’

Dr Sarah Pinto,
School of Humanities and Social Sciences, Deakin University

Love is a sense of longing

Michael Novak, author of The Myth of Romantic Love, argues that romantic love is not about another person but the idea of love itself. He suggests that romantic love is not the love found in an established relationship, but the longing that precedes it. ‘For their romantic passion to persist, lovers must be kept away from one another, must never get down to the nitty-gritty of daily life,’ he says.

Love is a pleasure high

But the neuroscience shows that romantic love can definitely last for a spell. Researchers have found that falling in love has a similar impact on the brain as cocaine. In a TED Talk, anthropologist Helen Fisher describes romantic love as, ‘One of the most powerful sensations on earth.’ Fisher has studied the brain function of people in love by putting them through MRI brain scans. She found that a person in love has the characteristics of an addict: they engage in obsessive thinking, participate in risk-taking activities and must work to fend off withdrawals.

The boost in norepinephrine, serotonin, and dopamine bring energy, confidence and pleasure to a person in love. That’s why some psychologists argue that people can become addicted to the early stages of romantic love, frequently ending relationships after the initial high fades and going off in search of a new hit. That’s too bad for the person who’s unceremoniously dumped – they’re likely to experience the intense withdrawal of going cold turkey.

Love is your unique experience

Dr Pinto says many researchers agree the period of romantic love can last for two to four years before turning into something a little more subdued. But she ultimately believes that it’s so difficult to define romantic love because the experience is unique to each individual. ‘People should do what they want and try to resist being drawn into the ideologies of romantic love,’ she concludes.

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Romantic love, despite being a universal human experience, still holds much mystery. If you search for a dictionary definition, you’ll find vague one-liners. Collins Dictionary describes it as: ‘love characterised by romance and involving sexual attraction.’ Dr Sarah Pinto, lecturer in Australian Studies at Deakin University, says researchers in a number of fields – from humanities to science – have tried to pin down a concrete explanation of romantic love for the past two decades.

No one can agree on precisely what romantic love is, but most agree that it is a human emotion, Dr Pinto says. But there is also debate about how to define a human emotion. Some will classify it as a biological process while others definite emotions as cognitive behaviours.

Love is a changing cultural concept

Dr Pinto suggests that the reason we struggle to define romantic love is because the concept is fluid. ‘It’s not something that is always the same in different times and places. It’s a cultural phenomenon that changes,’ she explains. Through her research, Dr Pinto found that in 19th century America there was a focus on a spiritual compatibility. After World War II, sex and passion became important. Today, she says there’s a strong belief that real romantic love has to involve friendship, shared interests and a sexual relationship. According to Dr Pinto, the contemporary idea of romantic love might ask too much of couples. ‘The expectation is too onerous,’ she argues.

‘Some people would say romantic love has to involve a sexual or erotic component,’ Dr Pinto suggests. However, she points out that a lot of research is focused on heterosexual relationships and does not account for a range of other possibilities.

Love is romanticisation of the past

Through her research, Dr Pinto has explored romantic representations of the past and how they impact our present. In particular, she cites Australian films focused on World War II, such as Australia, Come in Spinner and Paradise Road, all of which romanticise wartime. ‘The strong focus on our romantic past is a problem. Many women’s lives underwent a significant shift into paid work. It was a time of upheaval,’ she says. But when people consume romantic portrayals of the past, it can have an impact on their own romantic expectations.

‘‘It’s not something that is always the same in different times and places. It’s a cultural phenomenon that changes,’’

Dr Sarah Pinto,
School of Humanities and Social Sciences, Deakin University

Love is a sense of longing

Michael Novak, author of The Myth of Romantic Love, argues that romantic love is not about another person but the idea of love itself. He suggests that romantic love is not the love found in an established relationship, but the longing that precedes it. ‘For their romantic passion to persist, lovers must be kept away from one another, must never get down to the nitty-gritty of daily life,’ he says.

Love is a pleasure high

But the neuroscience shows that romantic love can definitely last for a spell. Researchers have found that falling in love has a similar impact on the brain as cocaine. In a TED Talk, anthropologist Helen Fisher describes romantic love as, ‘One of the most powerful sensations on earth.’ Fisher has studied the brain function of people in love by putting them through MRI brain scans. She found that a person in love has the characteristics of an addict: they engage in obsessive thinking, participate in risk-taking activities and must work to fend off withdrawals.

The boost in norepinephrine, serotonin, and dopamine bring energy, confidence and pleasure to a person in love. That’s why some psychologists argue that people can become addicted to the early stages of romantic love, frequently ending relationships after the initial high fades and going off in search of a new hit. That’s too bad for the person who’s unceremoniously dumped – they’re likely to experience the intense withdrawal of going cold turkey.

Love is your unique experience

Dr Pinto says many researchers agree the period of romantic love can last for two to four years before turning into something a little more subdued. But she ultimately believes that it’s so difficult to define romantic love because the experience is unique to each individual. ‘People should do what they want and try to resist being drawn into the ideologies of romantic love,’ she concludes.

Love Is.

A group of children, four to eight years old, were asked the question, “What does love mean?” Here are their insightful answers.

Johnny, Age 4

When a person loves you, they say your name different. You just know your name is safe in their mouth.

Dallas, Age 7

Love is when your mom makes a cup of coffee for your dad and she takes a sip of it before she gives it to him, to make sure it is okay.

Sue, Age 6

If you want to learn how to love better, you should start with someone you hate.

Donna, Age 6

My mommy loves me more than any one else. You don’t see anybody else kissing me good night when I go to bed.

Sandi, Age 8

When my grandma got arthritis, she couldn’t bend over to paint her toenails anymore. So my granddad does it for her, even after he got arthritis, too. That’s love.

Andy, Age 7

Love is what is in the room on Christmas if you stop opening your presents and listen.

Jake, Age 6

Love is when a little old man and a little old woman are still friends, even after they know each other so well.

Dennis, Age 5

Love is when a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on after shave and then they go out together and smell each other.

Georgia, Age 7

Love is when you tell a boy you like his shirt and then he wears it everyday.

Chloe, Age 4

Love is what makes you smile when you’re tired.

Annie, Age 5

Love is when mommy gives daddy the best piece of chicken.

Jackie, Age 4

Love is when your puppy licks your face even when you left him alone all day.

Joe, Age 7

Love is when daddy comes in all sweaty and smelly and mommy still tells him that he is handsomer than Robert Redford.

Jenny, Age 8

When I had my piano recital, I was on the stage and I was scared. I looked out at all the people looking at me. Then I saw my daddy waving and smiling. He was the only one doing that and I wasn’t sacred anymore.

Bruce, Age 8

Love is when you go out to dinner with someone and you give them most of your French fries without making them give you any of theirs.

Vanessa, Age 8

You really shouldn’t tell somebody that you love them unless you mean it. But if you do mean it, you should tell them a lot. People forget.

Marissa, Age 4

Love is when your older sister gives you all her old clothes because, then she has to go out and buy new ones.

Amy, Age 8

Love is when you kiss all the time. Then after you are tired of kissing, you still want to be with each other and you talk more. My daddy and mommy are like that. When they kiss, they look gross.

Andrea, Age 7

You know you love someone because your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you.

Best for Last

Leo Buscaglia, author and lecturer, once judged a contest where they wanted to find the most caring child. He told this story:

A four year old lived next door to an elderly man who had recently lost his wife. One day, the boy saw his neighbor crying. He went over, climbed into the neighbor’s lap and just sat there. When he came home, his mother asked him what he had said to the man.

“Nothing,” he said. “I just helped him cry.”