How to find peace

How to find peace

Mental strength and inner peace go hand in hand. Mentally strong people are confident that they can handle whatever life throws their way.

That’s not to say they don’t feel pain or that they don’t get sad–they experience their emotions on a deep level. But they don’t waste energy wishing things were different or trying to change other people. They stay focused on managing their own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.

They also make self-improvement a priority, because they know there’s always room for improvement. And they give up these 10 things that could destroy their inner peace.

1. Engaging with toxic people

The people you surround yourself with affect the way you think, feel, and behave. Engaging with people who lie, gossip, bully, or cheat takes a toll on your well-being.

Mentally strong people don’t waste their energy trying to change toxic people. They establish healthy emotional and physical boundaries.

2. Excessive self-blame

Thinking everything is 100 percent your fault–whether it’s a failed relationship or an accident–will affect the way you see yourself and the world around you. You can’t always prevent bad things from happening.

Mentally strong people take appropriate accountability. They recognize they’re responsible for their choices, but they also acknowledge factors beyond their control–like the state of the economy, the weather, and other people’s choices.

3. Chasing happiness

Thinking you need to be happy all the time will backfire. Momentary pleasure is much different than long-term satisfaction.

Mentally strong people are willing to put in the hard work it takes to gain contentment. They refuse to give in to instant gratification or temporary indulgences. They look for ways to build a brighter future by creating long-term goals.

4. Staying comfortable

It may seem like staying inside your comfort zone is the key to feeling good in life. But avoiding discomfort always backfires in the end.

Mentally strong people face their fears, venture into unknown areas, and test their limits. They know that being uncomfortable is tolerable and allowing themselves to experience discomfort is the key to living a better life.

5. The victim mentality

Thinking the world and the people in it are out to get you will prevent you from being your best. In fact, if you blame all of your problems on external circumstances you’ll never take responsibility for your life.

Mentally strong people acknowledge their choices, even in the face of tragic circumstances. They focus on the things they can control, and they refuse to waste their time hosting pity parties.

6. Trying to impress people

You could waste a lot of your life trying to make people like you. Depending on admiration from others, however, gives others power over you.

Mentally strong people are comfortable in their own skin. They don’t waste their time worrying about whether other people approve of their choices. Instead, they focus on living according to their values.

7. The pursuit of perfection

Striving for excellence is healthy. But insisting on perfection is an uphill battle. You’ll never feel good enough if you set the bar impossibly high.

Mentally strong people accept that they’re going to fail and make mistakes. They are able to acknowledge their flaws and weaknesses.

8. Grudges

You may think holding onto a grudge somehow punishes someone else. But, in reality, clinging to anger and hatred only reduces your life.

Mentally strong people let go of grudges so they can focus their energy on more worthwhile causes. That doesn’t mean they allow themselves to be abused by people, however. It just means they don’t allow pent-up resentment to overtake their lives.

9. The quest for material things

No matter how much money you make, a bigger house, a nicer car, or more expensive clothing won’t give you peace of mind. Expecting material possessions to satisfy your needs will leave you sorely disappointed.

Mentally strong people aren’t necessarily minimalists, however. They can enjoy nice things. But they don’t expect their material possessions to give them joy and contentment.

10. Complete self-reliance

Thinking you can do everything on your own is about acting tough–not being strong. There will be times when asking for help is important.

Mentally strong people aren’t afraid to admit when they need help. Whether they rely on a higher power, ask for professional help, or lean on a friend during a time in need, they gain strength from others. Knowing they don’t have to have all the answers gives them a renewed sense of inner peace.

How to build mental muscle and gain inner peace

Inner peace comes from knowing your beliefs and the willingness to act according to them. It takes mental muscle to do that.

Fortunately, everyone has the ability to practice mental strength exercises every day. The more mental muscle you build, the easier it is to find true contentment in life.

How to find peace

Peace is one of the most important human experiences. If you don’t have peace, then you’re not able to appreciate whatever else you do have. In fact, you may not even be able to recognize the good in your life because you have not recognized the good in yourself—yet. Here are a few things that may be getting your way:

1. You Mistake Peace for Unconsciousness

Sometimes people feel peaceful when they become very tired. Others think that peace is what you feel after having a few drinks or taking drugs. (People use these substances, because they long for inner stillness and quiet.) Being half asleep or desensitized by drugs or a few glasses of wine can keep you from feeling your anxiety, fear, anger, resentment or worry. But this relief only lasts a short time. That turmoil is still there—because peace is not unconsciousness. Peace is not being asleep or being numb. It’s the opposite. It’s a state of heightened aliveness, when we become more conscious rather than less, and this requires an awareness of the kinds of thoughts that habitually go through your mind.

2. You Mistake Peace for Happiness

Many people think of happiness as a goal, something you’re working toward that will eventually make you feel good or at peace with your life. To me, however, happiness is usually associated with a high that occurs when something nice happens. You feel happy when you get the job or find a $100 bill on the street. You feel happy leaving for vacation. But very often the vacation doesn’t turn out the way it’s supposed to, or it comes to an end, or while on that vacation you only think about the problems you’re going to find when you come back home. In all of these cases, the happiness is temporary. After a while it subsides, and then, quite often, you’ll even feel suddenly low. Because happiness isn’t peace.

Happiness is actually quite superficial, whereas peace is deeper. Peace is immune to the polarities of life: the highs and lows, the hots and colds, the so-called goods and so-called bads. This is why peace is so crucial. Nobody goes through life without encountering all these experiences, inspiring or upsetting. When someone close to you dies or you have a health problem or you lose our possessions, you probably can’t feel happy. Nobody could. But do you need to feel in absolute despair? Do you need to feel devastated? If you are at peace and connected with that deeper level in you, those kind of emotional extremes don’t occur. You’ll have a calm that is not affected by whatever happens in the world, because you have an acceptance and understanding of whatever happens in the world.

3. You Keep Looking Ahead (or Looking Back)

All too often there is something that hasn’t happened yet (or something that has happened already), which seems to prevent you from inner peace. There’s the job you haven’t gotten or the job you lost. There’s the child you haven’t had or the child that you used to be. But ultimately these are misperceptions; ultimately it’s your mind keeping you from peace, especially the thoughts that you have over and over.

This voice in your head takes you away completely from what is happening now. You’re out in some future moment where things might go wrong or you are trapped in the past where you are continuously replaying an old movie in your mind about the time you failed a school examination or someone said something unkind. You’re stuck, but you can’t see it. The movie feels like an absolute reality, and it keeps you from truly acknowledging or appreciating life as it is now. But it’s not reality. You can’t see the present. You’re too busy with where you want to be next (or where you were), which causes continual stress. The only solution is awareness, awareness that the voice in your head is really just repeating thoughts—no more, no less.

4. You Strain Away from the Present Moment

Not only does our mind strain away from the calm of the present moment, it also judges and interprets such a moment—usually negatively. For example, let’s pretend a co-worker just received a promotion. The voice in your head says that you should have gotten the promotion or that your boss just prefers that co-worker, even though you’re the stronger candidate.

In this case—and most cases—it’s not the external circumstance (not getting job) that’s making you unhappy but what you’re telling yourself about those circumstances (“It’s not fair!”). In other words, your thoughts are making you unhappy. When you change this habit, you will stop resisting what is happening in your life. You can become friendly with the present moment and find an opening into the spiritual dimension. This is one of the most important spiritual practices in the search for peace. Old irritations—like being trapped in a traffic jam—are no longer upsetting or anxiety provoking. You become internally aligned with the reality of what is happening: You are in a car, you aren’t moving. that is all. You don’t have a problem, not right this second. You might even notice a mother singing to a child in a neighboring car or the vibrant blue of the sky. You have become friendly with life itself, and with the experiences offered you everywhere.

5. You Don’t Fully Trust. Yet

There is an intelligence in the movement of life, which goes far beyond the limited intelligence of your thinking mind. This is the spirit. When you begin to trust in your spirit and life itself, you begin to feel a peace. You are no longer separate from that greater intelligence from which life unfolds, you are no longer to trying to get somewhere else or find something missing.

The old religious word for this kind of trust is “faith.” Some Christians would say they have faith in God, some would say they have faith in a higher power, but whatever name people chose, they are talking about that which underlies all life. Peace comes from this trust. Peace comes from being aligned with the present moment. Wherever you are, you feel that you are home—because you are home.

How to find peace

How can I find peace of mind? It’s a question often asked, but rarely answered in a satisfying way.

Some say peace of mind lies in security. Some say it’s about de-cluttering and finding stillness and calm in life. Some say it’s about acceptance and letting go. I say it’s all about what you do.

Let me introduce myself. I’m an addict. An alcoholic since my teens, I lived most of my life on various edges.

At twenty-one, I was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, as if being an alcoholic wasn’t bad enough. If you don’t know what BPD is, it is an unsettled and shifting sense of self, and it’s unbearably difficult to live with.

I possessed a fearful and fraught mind at the best of times. Both my addiction and my BPD led me to do some pretty crazy things. Crossing a drunk person with a personality disorder is not conducive to the sort of life you would wish on anyone.

I spent my twenties clambering out of one catastrophe and into another, doing some fairly disgraceful things—hiding, lying, hurting other people and myself. At least one hour a day was spent in absolute misery and penance, sorry for myself and for anyone who crossed my path of destruction.

But behind the carnage, I was a genuinely good-hearted person. All through my mental illnesses, I tried to make the best of it, to be a nice person. And there was no one more empathetic than me. If anyone else had a problem, I would drop everything to run to them.

But my mind was not somewhere you would want to take a fishing trip, let alone a whole vacation. Of all the people I hurt in my life, I hurt no one more than myself. I hurt myself by doing things that would make me feel guilt and shame later on.

When I finally got the right treatment and got sober, after a decade of madness, I heard people speak about serenity and finding peace of mind. In early recovery, it was still an utter mystery to me.

I saw a counselor who told me to give it time. I went to alcohol services—they told me to work a program. I listened to “spiritual folk” who told me to meditate.

No one seemed to be giving me practical answers about how to achieve something I had been searching for all along: peace and self-esteem.

But the answer was so simple. You create your state of mind by the things you do, and you cement that by the things you tell yourself.

As long as I behave with integrity every day, I can feel at peace with myself.

Things will always change. Life will sometimes be tough. People will say and do things that upset you. That’s just the nature of things.

As long as you hang onto your integrity, no matter what is happening in your world, you can go to bed with a clear conscience. And no matter how tough things get, you can still have that wonderful sense of peace within you.

But it takes some practice to really start to feel it, and to live with integrity at all times. Here are some tips to help you cultivate a sense of peace.

1. Know your ideal self.

Make a list of all the good qualities you intend to cultivate. Are you going to be kinder, fairer, more tolerant, more magnanimous, more patient, more dignified? What are your responses to difficulties going to be? What principles do you wish to uphold?

2. Do the next right thing.

If you’ve been struggling with your emotional or mental state like I was, it may be difficult, at first, to act with integrity all the time. You may find yourself making mistakes and sometimes behaving in a less than ideal way. In order to build up a habit of sticking to your principles, just practice doing the “next right thing” all the time.

3. Let go of perfectionism.

I could have made my life a lot easier if I had validated the attempts I was making to do the right thing even when things were a struggle. Instead, I beat myself up and made myself feel worse because I was angry with myself for not living right. It’s all a journey. Allow yourself to be imperfect, and yet still make progress.

4. Make amends immediately.

If for some reason you end up treating someone unfairly or unkindly, or doing something dishonest or mean, make amends for it as soon as you can. Don’t wait. Correct your mistakes as soon as possible, and you can find peace of mind in the fact that you have improved upon your actions and done your part to relieve any ill feeling or guilt.

5. Practice patience.

Other people around you may not be living in the same way that you have chosen to. It doesn’t matter; they will have their conscience to live with at the end of the day, and you will have yours. Choose to respond in a way that will give you peace of mind. Take a deep breath before reacting to people who push your buttons.

6. Let your head and heart support you.

You won’t have a peaceful mind if you allow negativity to dominate your thinking. Try to understand others rather than judging them. Forgive others and you free yourself. Radiate compassion and be a good Samaritan. Not only will others benefit; you’ll also add to your own sense of self-esteem.

7. Think long term.

It may be tempting to lose your rag when you’re feeling angry or frustrated. But think about how you will feel about yourself and your own actions later on. Will you be happy about your behavior? Will it lead to you feeling peace of mind? If not, don’t do it.

8. Validate yourself.

You will not get to feel that lovely sense of peace if you don’t take the time to fully acknowledge it. In difficult situations, look at what you did well. If you’ve been struggling, notice when you make progress. At the end of each day, summarize to yourself how you’ve acted well and kept your integrity.

From breathing correctly to changing negative habits, these four tips can help you slow down, live longer and inject happier into your life.

Finding your inner peace sounds serious. It involves focussing your attention on one thing – the present moment – which isn’t easy for everyone to do. As you read this, are you really here? Or is your mind drifting in and out of the past? Thinking about your to-do list for the rest of the day? Whether you’ll hit that deadline? What to have for dinner tonight?

How many times have you gotten into your car and driven somewhere safely – then wondered how you even got there, as you were so lost in your thoughts? Before you can be mindful and find inner peace, you need to accept how mindless you can be sometimes. And then you have to change it. Here’s how:

Declutter your life

First thing’s first – clear the decks. Check your calendar and make sure you know what’s happening in the two weeks ahead. Review your goals, work out whether your life needs rebalancing, and write down whatever may need changing. What matters most? Health? Family? A special project? Once your mind is clear and your actions are set you can go about your life with less friction. You will have a mindful system set in place so calmness will come more easily.

Breathe more

It’s obvious but overlooked. Deep and controlled breathing triggers our ‘relaxation response’, slowing down our heart rate, relaxing our muscles, calming our nerves and boosting our immune system. Breathe in and out from the belly, in and out through the nose, and breathe out a little more than you breathe in. Whether you’ve just missed the train or your boss is being a huge pain, frequent stress is a barrier to inner peace. Making your breath a constant companion and being aware of your body can help you think and feel better.

Anything you do, do it mindfully

Eat mindfully, walk mindfully, breathe mindfully, smell mindful. Yes, it’s a wellness buzzword – but it makes more sense when broken down into common sense practice. Put simply, mindfulness is reconnecting yourself with your senses. Here’s an example – the next time you have a bar of chocolate, don’t just eat it all at once. Observe its appearance, take a sniff – notice how saliva starts filling your mouth. Place it on your tongue and really taste it. Is it salty? Creamy? Fruity? How do you feel? Be aware of any sensations in your mouth, throat, and body as you eat, as well as the aftertaste. Meditation can help you keep in tune. Here are some tips on how to include meditation in a busy lifestyle.

Look for the positive

Easier said than done, right? Once we’re aware of how much negativity breeds unwanted physical responses – from raising your blood pressure to digestive problems – it’s not only a simple way to feel more at peace with yourself, it improves your health, too. Spend more time focussing on emotions such as gratitude, hope, amusement, pride and inspiration. Listen to music you love. Read books that make you happy. Kick off endorphins with a fun exercise class. Stop working late and rest more – your body and mind will thank you for it.

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Day to day, you might deal with many triggers to your survival brain, unleashing a host of emotions, thoughts and body sensations each minute that can feel chaotic or out of control.

What does chaos look like to you?

Is it getting stressed scrolling through social media streams on conflict-ridden current events? Getting constantly interrupted by your kids on a video call while sharing space with your partner who is also working from home? Or trying to make many decisions in the face of the unknown?

Chaos often shows up internally. Maybe it’s a dull, throbbing headache, stiff neck or tight back. Or maybe it’s your constantly running mind that never shuts up, analyzing what happened or what needs to get done the next day right before bedtime.

It may be impractical to take time off for a 10-day silent retreat or meditate for an hour, let alone 15 minutes. Here are three quick, simple ways to find peace in chaos in any moment:

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We often focus on exercising our muscles, but what about our organs?

With your legs shoulder-width apart, gently use your fists to tap two inches below your belly button, and imagine the vibration going into your core or “gut.” This is a major energy center in your body where life is birthed, and it is also known by some as the second chakra.

Close your eyes, and relax your mind. Focus your awareness where the vibration is on your energy center.

Where your mind goes, energy flows. Energy travels as light, sound or vibration. This exercise utilizes vibration to help bring your awareness back into your body’s core and center.

After 100 or so taps with your fist, now suck your belly button in to your spine, similar to a crunch standing or sitting up. Keep pumping. This is called intestinal exercise.

Now that you’ve used vibration through tapping, you’ve brought your brain’s scattered energy from outside yourself back into your body, drawing downward to your gut. Intestinal exercise helps you keep your focus centered on the gut and heat up your core.

Typically, we have hot heads and cold guts. By reversing this improper circulation using the “water up, fire down” principle, you can bring the “fire” in your head down to heat up your core, and bring the cold gut energy back up to your head for a calm, cool mind.

By exercising your intestines, you’re pumping fresh oxygen, increasing blood flow, better absorbing nutrients and processing undigested waste to achieve the proper “water up, fire down” circulation. You’ll know you have proper energy circulation if you heat up, sweat or form saliva in your mouth.

Master Your Emotions

Other exercises can really allow you to master your emotions by embracing the “bad” or unwanted emotions like anger, sadness or jealousy.

This practice takes five minutes or less and keeps your focus on observing the emotion rather than becoming or identifying as the emotion itself. There are many exercises, but here’s a sample of one exercise that has proven very powerful with my business leader clients.

Close your eyes. Scan your body from your head to your toes. Where do you notice tension, pain or unwanted emotions?

Ask yourself, “What color is the pain or unwanted emotion? What shape? What texture? What movement?”

Now imagine one of your happiest memories. Who’s around you? Where are you? What songs and smells surround you? How does it feel?

Saturate every cell in your body with the energy of that happy memory.

Now go back to the pain. Ask yourself, “What color is the pain now? What shape? What texture? What movement?”

My clients who practice this are able to shift their unwanted feeling’s shape, color, movement — sometimes disappearing the unwanted emotion altogether.

The more you master your emotions, the quicker you’ll be able to develop your emotional resilience as a leader.

Listen Within

The final exercise to access peace in chao is listening within.

Simply close your eyes, take a few deep breaths and ask your heart, “What’s my message for today?”

Continue asking and listening. Often, the response is simple in just a few words.

You can not only talk to your heart, but any organ, or area of pain, as well.

By tapping into your own inner wisdom to listen within, you’ll get very aligned answers to decisions you need to make without having to question or regret the decision.

The more you practice, the easier your body and heart can communicate clearer messages, and the more power you’ll have to simply notice your thoughts, feelings and body sensations passing through, rather than getting lost in them.

Mastery Requires Practice

Before you can experience peace, it’s critical to bring your awareness from outside yourself into your body. Then bring that energy down from your head into your core. You’ve now aligned your body, heart, mind and soul in just a few minutes.

By focusing inward, you’ll build your inner guidance system more strongly to guide you through uncertainty. You’ll be the calm in the eye of the storm, no matter how chaotic it gets inside or out. You can choose the most aligned response each moment.

When you have the courage to practice these moments of peace of moving meditations, mastering your emotions and listening within, you will not only find peace amid chaos; you will become a source of peace in the chaos of our world.

By embodying peace in any chaos, you can access an abundant, infinite supply of energy to serve your team, your customers, your stakeholders and, most importantly, yourself.

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How to find peace

With all of the negative background noise these days, it’s easy to think of inner peace like the horizon — an imaginary line that recedes the closer you get to it. But, as elusive as it can seem, inner peace is something we can all achieve to some degree. And oh how it can come in handy the next time you’re in line at the grocery store when your little one spills the entire contents of your purse or when you finally take a day off for some self-care yet can’t seem to get centered. If you’re wondering how to find inner peace, you’re surely not alone. The good news? You don’t have to join an ashram or live on a mountaintop to find it.

In fact, the question shouldn’t be “how to find inner peace” but, instead, “how to create inner peace.” Because the truth is, we all have the ability to create it in every moment. Finding inner peace becomes less of a search but more of a decision to make it a part of your day through intentional habits and a conscious mindset.

With the help of implementing conscious practices into your every day, finding inner peace will become easier than finding your car keys.

How to Find Inner Peace

Adopting these soothing practices will help you ride the waves of life and help prepare you for when the occasional storm — or hiccup — hits you.

1. Pay attention to what you can control and what you cannot.

A lot of our stress involves things we can’t control. Being able to discern what’s truly in and out of your control will help alleviate you from some of the burdens that don’t belong in your life, so you can focus your attention on what you can change.

According to Dr. Gregory L. Jantz for Psychology Today, safeguarding your emotional energy in this way is one of the best things you can do in your campaign for inner peace. “Most of us would agree that emotional energy has become a precious commodity in our lives,” Jantz explained. “When we feel emotionally depleted, then anxiety and stress are the natural by-products. Left unchecked, stress can lead to feelings of being out of control.”

2. Implement a morning routine.

Getting your morning off to the right and calming start can be the most powerful and peaceful action you can take. Whether that’s carving out time to meditate first thing in the morning, journaling your feelings, having a quiet moment for yourself before the kiddos wake up, or all of the above.

3. Spend time in nature.

Mother Nature is the biggest stress reliever, and luckily, it’s free and accessible for all. Taking time to go outdoors regularly — whether it’s going for a walk through a local park after work or hiking in the mountains over the weekend — can help bring you some major calm.

4. Be true to who you are.

So often, we compromise our dreams or beliefs to fit in or, ironically, keep the peace with others. For example, we might struggle with remaining in a relationship or at a job that doesn’t really fit us, knowing full well that it doesn’t give us peace of mind. Staying true to yourself and being in your integrity immediately bring you closer to peace.

5. Remember to breathe.

Being conscious and deliberate with your breathing will almost instantly cause a sense of calm to wash over you. Yes, even when you’re in the middle of a fight with your mom or your toddler is driving you batty. Taking a few deep breaths and repeating some calming mantras can offer you the chill pill you need.

6. Don’t underestimate the power of connection.

It may seem counterintuitive to be around other people when you’re seeking peace, but peace doesn’t always come through solitude. In fact, human connection is more important than ever to inner peace.

“Our greatest human need, after food and shelter, is to connect with other people in a positive way. From the moment we’re born until our last day, we have a deep and profound longing to belong to one another. And when we fulfill that need, it brings us more calm: The oxytocin and natural opioids that we release when we connect may exert a calming influence on our bodies, and the knowledge that we have the support of others can soothe our minds,” said Dr. Emma Seppälä for Psychology Today.

Inner Peace Quotes

Even after you’ve begun to master the above steps toward inner peace, you’ll need help from time to time to re-center yourself. Keep the following quotes close by to get you back into the right headspace.

Global pandemics, social injustice, the climate crisis, and now, terrorists attacking The Capitol? I know it can feel like the world is getting worse and worse each day. Finding peace in chaos seems like a challenge we must face far too often.

When dystopian nightmares become today’s actual news, and you find yourself facing the unimaginable, how do you deal with all the bad in the world and even begin to manage your wellbeing?

How can you find peace in chaos, contempt, antagonism, and violence?

Finding peace may sound daunting right now because it is. It’s vital to remember that peace within yourself is still possible in tough times like these.

Here are some ways to help you protect your wellbeing when you feel like the world is crumbling.

1. Look for stabilizing forces.

If you’re in the midst of a stormy sea, clinging to what is solid can help you stay sane. Seeking out sources of stability and comfort is a way to help you foster peace within yourself.

Stability can be found in the most mundane of comforts – re-watching your favorite TV series or puppy videos, for example, or baking your favorite chocolate chip cookies, or having a phone call with Grandma.

Seeking out what is good, inspiring, and hope-inducing can help you rise above what is discouraging and fear-inducing.

The wise words of Fred Rogers hold even more true in moments of distress:

Kindness is a stabilizing force to the chaos induced by fear and ignorance, so look for it everywhere. Some of my favorite social media accounts are those focused on the good in the world, such as @goodnews_movement, @upworthy, and @goodgoodgoodco.

Remember that no matter how unstable the world feels, there are always places and people that can help you connect to a sense of stability.

2. Be mindful about what you consume.

Speaking of social media, be very mindful (aka very careful, selective, and intentional) with the people and media you allow into your world.

Protect your boundaries by saying no. This isn’t the time for you to put up with people who drain your energy, or to say yes to things you really don’t want to do. Just because someone else wants to talk about the negative things happening in the world, doesn’t mean you need to participate. If those conversations don’t make you feel better, you probably shouldn’t be having them right now.

Also, say no to watching too much news. One way people deal with traumatic public events is to seek control by obsessing over gathering information. Overexposing yourself to disturbing images and hearing the stressful “play-by-play” usually doesn’t help you feel better. Being informed is one thing, but once you know the information, do you really need to scroll through every story, or watch the news for hours? To cultivate peace, limit your news intake to less than 15 minutes per day.

3. Rid yourself of the stress chemicals in your body.

Stress leads to the production of stress hormones in the body. These hormones help you with the fight or flight response designed to help you survive in stressful environments. Without physical activity, these hormones remain in your body and cause harm over time.

Taking care of your body almost always helps your mind feel more peace, too.

If you feel anxious, your shoulders feel tight, or you have headaches or stomachaches connected to stress about the state of the world, try going for a walk or jog, working out, or take advantage of any type of physical activity. Singing, creative expression, physical intimacy, and laughter can also help relax your frazzled nervous system and feel more at peace.

4. Get help. Share the struggle openly with others.

Humans were designed to be in community and to overcome difficulties with the support of others. If the world is feeling like a scary place, don’t keep those feelings to yourself, reach out to friends and loved ones for support. Be open and honest about what is worrying you. Don’t be so focused on perception management or maintaining an unrealistic image of perfection that you’re afraid to be vulnerable and honest.

If leaning on your loved ones feels hard, start with opening up to one trusted person.

Therapy is a fantastic resource for those seeking more peace. Seek the support of a therapist or mental health professional to help you process the complicated emotions that can come from everything going on right now, and teach you techniques and tools that are peace-fostering, too.

5. Focus on your power and strength.

One of the best ways to cope with feeling powerless, is to focus on your power. Bring your attention to the many things you have control over. Even focusing on small areas of control like your breathing, the clothes you wear, or what time you wake up can be a helpful beginning to fostering more peace in your life.

Remember, too, that there are always people you can bring comfort to and help. Is there a cause that’s meaningful to you that you can raise awareness for? Is there a person you know who is suffering right now that you could help in some small way?

How to find peace

Even more powerful than looking for the helpers is becoming the helper.

If you can harness your stress and use it to do something that feels meaningful to you, it’s bound to help you feel a greater sense of peace too.

Finding peace in chaos can be elusive when it feels like the world is getting worse, but I hope these simple strategies help you remember that no matter what’s happening in the world, you have more control over your well-being than you think.

How to find peace

The idea of finding peace in nature is hardly new, but it certainly has some notable fans from a wide array of fields. According to the renowned Greek philosopher Aristotle, “In all things of nature there is something of the marvelous.” Albert Einstein, the scientist famous for developing the theory of relativity, urged, “Look deep into nature, and then you will understand everything better.” Meanwhile, poet and essayist Ralph Waldo Emerson, who often wrote on nature and made his living finding just the right words, kept his commentary simple: “Lose yourself in nature and find peace.” Clearly, this is a prime example of great minds thinking alike.

Finding Peace in Nature

Finding peace in nature isn’t simply an idea that sounds appealing. There’s plenty of evidence to suggest that spending time in green spaces improves your mental and physical health in multiple ways. What do you need to do to enjoy this benefit? It’s easy to find an option that suits your style.

The Benefits of Spending Time with Nature

As SelectHealth reports, many studies have found proof that spending time outdoors can offer benefits:

  • Better memory. A nature walk is always pleasant. However, one study found that participants who took a walk in nature did 20 percent better on a memory test than peers who walked through an urban setting.
  • Better concentration. Strolling in a green space provides a break that allows your mind to relax. When you return, you’re better able to focus.
  • Less pain. In one study, patients post-spine surgery who were exposed to natural light reported less discomfort, took less pain medication, and seemed to heal faster.
  • Less stress. Being in natural surroundings seems to reduce stress. Studies show that simply getting outdoors can reduce a person’s heart rate.
  • Stronger immune system. Being in green spaces boosts the immune system, improving your ability to fight off infection. It often inspires physical activity as well, which is good for your well-being.
  • Better mood. Several studies have linked fresh air, sunshine, and time spent in nature with better mood and improved mental health.
  • Age gracefully. A study of seniors in their 70s found that individuals who spent at least some time outdoors every day were less likely to report common age-related complaints like achy joints and insomnia.

How to Find Peace in Nature

Fortunately, you don’t have to go far to find peace in nature. There’s no need to trek deep into the wilderness. Going outside to a green space and indulging your senses will do the trick. Here are some ideas:

The heavenly aspiration of good people everywhere has and always will be for peace in the world. We must never give up on achieving this goal. But, President Joseph F. Smith (1838–1918) taught, “There never can come to the world that spirit of peace and love … until mankind will receive God’s truth and God’s message … , and acknowledge his power and authority which is divine” (Teachings of Presidents of the Church: Joseph F. Smith [1998], 400).

We earnestly hope and pray for universal peace, but it is as individuals and families that we achieve the kind of peace that is the promised reward of righteousness. This peace is a promised gift of the Savior’s mission and atoning sacrifice.

Peace is not just safety or lack of war, violence, conflict, and contention. Peace comes from knowing that the Savior knows who we are and knows that we have faith in Him, love Him, and keep His commandments, even and especially amid life’s devastating trials and tragedies (see D&C 121:7–8).

“Where can I turn for peace? Where is my solace when other sources cease to make me whole?” (“Where Can I Turn for Peace?” Hymns, no. 129). The answer is the Savior, who is the source and author of peace. He is the “Prince of Peace” (Isaiah 9:6).

Humbling ourselves before God, praying always, repenting of sins, entering the waters of baptism with a broken heart and contrite spirit, and becoming true disciples of Jesus Christ are profound examples of the righteousness that is rewarded by abiding peace.

The Church is a refuge where followers of Christ attain peace. Some young people in the world say they are spiritual but not religious. Feeling spiritual is a good first step. However, it is in the Church that we are fellowshipped, taught, and nourished by the good word of God. More importantly, it is priesthood authority in the Church that provides for sacred ordinances and covenants that bind families together and qualify each of us to return to God the Father and Jesus Christ in the celestial kingdom. These ordinances bring peace because they are covenants with the Lord.

Temples are where many of these sacred ordinances occur and are also a source of peaceful refuge from the world. Those who visit temple grounds or participate in temple open houses also feel this peace.

The Savior is the source of true peace. Even with the trials of life, because of the Savior’s Atonement and His grace, righteous living will be rewarded with personal peace (see John 14:26–27; 16:33).