A guy once sent a message to Kelly using the word "awesome" three times ("and not ironically," she adds). I mean, get a thesaurus!
A male reader of mine friended me on Facebook and suggested we grab a drink or a bite to eat the next time I am in San Francisco. Strangers like to throw it out there immediately, but people you actually know? First there is flirting and finessing!
Now, where there is "game," there are rules—whether or not you choose to acknowledge them. I would apply much of the regular flirting rules to online flirting. However, the difficult terrain is navigating the flow of information-sharing and your reaction time, since it's possible to control it. For example, in person you would laugh immediately at his joke, but online, do you write "LOL" right away, or do you use the 2-day rule? You don't want to appear too anxious, but if you let him simmer for 48 hours, your reply loses relevance. Well, no one has all the answers. But here's my best interpretation of the flirting rules as they apply to Facebook and Twitter.
It's okay to look him up.
The Millionaire Matchmaker once said, "He who speaks first is masculine energy." I think this means you can search for a guy and friend him, but don't send him a long synopsis of what happened last night after he left with his buddies. My friend Kelly recommends posting on his wall a cute little statement that doesn't require a response, so if he does reply, there's a chance he's interested.
Keep it clean.
Try not to post anything on your profile that you wouldn't say in front of your parents. If the guy is big on privacy, he'll be hesitant to get involved with someone he thinks will kiss and tell.
Rushing responses can seem overly anxious.
In general, the shorter the medium (text message, IM, or wall posts), the quicker you can respond. If it's an email, I usually reply within 1-24 hours. Also: It's fine to invite him to a party, but don't hurry a conversation just because you have an event coming up and you want get to a place where you feel comfortable asking him. Every time I have rushed something out of anxiety for my own schedule, it didn't work.
If you tweet that you went to a party you didn't really go to, the guy might catch you in the lie later. Why brag to get a guy's attention? It's insecure. Your Facebook profile should reflect exactly who you are, which is fabulous!
Less is more.
Retain a little mystery—don't update your status every 5 minutes just to stay visible on his newsfeed. If you give a play-by-play of your life, you can't possibly be interesting all the time. On Twitter, I stop following people who tweet 9 updates in a row.
A picture is worth a thousand words.
Why not publish an album of last night's party? Post flattering photos of yourself and yes, it's okay to tag photos of your crush. but don't be offended if he untags himself. That's his prerogative, and guys like to control any and all public information that concerns them.
Watch your word count.
Avoid oversharing or seeming anxious or needy. If he writes 7-word messages, keep your messages short and breezy, too. (This is why Twitter is good, because it forces you to be economical with your words!)
Weave him into a narrative.
If you follow each other on Twitter, mentioning him once (@theguyyoulike) is fine, but if he never mentions you, I wouldn't continue. It's a creative and passive way to flirt but an interested guy will eventually take it offline and ask you out.
When in doubt, share info in moderation. But don't worry too much about any of these rules, as the right person will love you no matter what or when or how much you type!
How do you flirt on Facebook? Do you have a success story to share?
There’s no one-size-fits-all answer to this question, as the best way to hit on a girl on Facebook will vary depending on the girl in question. However, some tips on how to hit on a girl on Facebook include being genuine, interesting, and flirty in your messages; using photos and other content that catches her attention; and taking the time to get to know her.
There’s a few different ways to flirt on Messenger. You can start by sending a message that’s playful and flirty, or you can add a wink or smiley face to your messages to let the other person know you’re interested. You can also send suggestive messages, or use emoticons to communicate your feelings. Whatever you do, make sure your messages are light and fun – you don’t want to come across as too serious or intense.
There’s no one-size-fits-all answer to this question, as the best way to start a flirty conversation with a girl on Facebook will vary depending on the individual girl’s personality and interests. However, some tips on how to start flirting with a girl on Facebook include finding out what she’s into, using emoticons and stickers, and being playful and engaging.
First, find something you have in common with the person you’re flirting with and start the conversation by mentioning that. From there, it’s all about being playful and suggestive without crossing any lines. Try sending a flirty message that leaves a little to the imagination, like “I can’t stop thinking about you…wanna do something about it?
There’s no one-size-fits-all answer to this question, as the best way to flirt with your crush on Facebook will vary depending on the two of you. However, some tips on how to flirt on Facebook include sending flirty messages, commenting on your crush’s posts in a flirty way, and tagging them in photos. If you want to take your flirting to the next level, consider sending them a direct message.
There’s no one answer to this question, as what may be considered flirting on Facebook varies from person to person. Generally, though, flirting on Facebook typically involves sending flirtatious messages, liking someone’s posts or photos, or tagging them in suggestive content. If you’re not sure whether a particular interaction is flirting or not, it’s best to err on the side of caution and just not do it.
There’s no one-size-fits-all answer to this question, as the way you talk flirty will vary depending on the person you’re speaking to. However, some tips on how to talk flirty include being playful, using suggestive language, and being confident. It’s also important to pay attention to the other person’s signals, and to back off if they seem uncomfortable.
There are many ways to flirt, but some common techniques include using body language to show interest, making eye contact, and sending subtle signals such as playing with your hair or touching your neck. Flirting can also involve teasing, playful banter, and lighthearted conversation.
There is no one definitive emoji for flirting, but a winking face with a smile is often used to indicate that someone is being flirtatious.
There’s no one answer to this question, as it depends on the guy and his individual preferences. However, some common signs that a guy likes you on Facebook include sending you messages, tagging you in photos, and adding you as a friend. If you’re not sure whether or not a guy likes you, take a look at his profile and see what he’s been sharing. If he’s been posting about how much he likes you, there’s a good chance he’s into you!
From the beginning of time, people have at some point viewed every piece of technology we’ve invented through a certain lens: How can this get me laid?
The internet, and Facebook in particular, is no different. Facebook flirting allows socially awkward millennials to connect to one another and provides a platform for instant creeping. If either of those situations appeals to you, here are some tips to seal the deal through your timeline without running into catfish-esque scenarios or inadvertently harassing someone.
1) Have an active and interesting profile
How you present yourself on Facebook in 2016 is, quite literally, your online face. Try to make your profile active and dynamic. One of the pros of Facebook flirting is that it allows people to get a glimpse of your life, so put your best foot forward. Post about yourself doing a variety of activities, but don’t try too hard. The paradox: If you’re spending all your time trying to figure out how to present yourself on Facebook, you’re probably not all that interesting anyway.
“The best way is to not actively do it at all,” says comedian and writer Lane Moore, who was the former Sex and Relationships editor for Cosmopolitan, and now hosts the comedy show Tinder Live.
2) Let the conversation flow
If you’re reaching out to somebody on Facebook, you can throw the “two day” rule out the window. In general, waiting a specific amount of time to text somebody is already archaic. If you feel like texting somebody after two days or after two hours, as long as your conversation is casual and genuine, it shouldn’t be a problem. Sending pickup lines can be cheesy, so make sure to just be yourself.
“Just keep making jokes until they ask if you’re single. That’s truly all I do. And be genuinely interested in their shit and what they do,” Moore says.
3) Be yourself
Be confident, not creepy. While it is advisable to avoid cold messaging, if you must do it, Moore recommends you use your ordinary personality.
“Be a genuine person or acknowledge that it might sound weird,” Moore says. “The best way to not be creepy is to just be as earnest as possible. I have random people message me all the time, and it comes off as not creepy like 99.9 percent of the time because they’re just being themselves.”
4) Move the conversation off Facebook
Now that you’ve established contact, how soon should you take it to another medium? Do it right away.
“As soon as there’s a palpable connection and you know you’re both single, why not? I’ve had Twitter friends who, after like 5 DMs, we started talking on the phone and talked for hours,” Moore says.
It’s fine to flirt on Facebook occasionally, but messages clogging up your app gets old real quick. Plus, there’s a lack of formality in Facebook messaging versus texting or calling.
5) Don’t get catfished
Most people who use Facebook to flirt are probably familiar with the term “catfishing,” an online dating phenomenon popularized by its namesake movie and TV show, Catfish. Catfishing is, as defined by Google Dictionary (yes, it’s a real word now): “to lure (someone) into a relationship by means of a fictional online persona.”
Fake Facebook profiles are abound, so watch out. Try to have at least one mutual friend or immediately establish a face-to-face connection via Skype.
“I only really communicate with Google-able people or people I have mutual friends with,” says Moore.
Above all, don’t make online flirting a crutch. For the socially awkward, typing can be easier than directly speaking to somebody. Remember that while social media is a useful tool for connecting people, at the end of the day, the goal is to establish a real human connection.