How to flirt with women

How to flirt with women

How To Flirt With A Girl Without Being Creepy (Expert Advice)

Guys are often curious to know how to flirt with a woman without coming across as sleazy or creepy. To help, here are some examples of what a makes a guy creepy when he talks to a woman – and what you can do instead. Follow these tips on how to talk to women and you’ll be able to make a charming first impression with the women you meet.

How to attract women with body language

One thing women find creepy in men is when a guy makes eye contact with a woman without ever blinking.

To avoid this common mistake men make when it comes to how to flirt with a woman, you want to focus on making the right kind of eye contact. Avoid leering at a woman and focusing on one particular area of her with a hard, intense, unblinking stare. Instead of honing in tightly like that, you can make women attracted to you right off the bat by using a soft, relaxed gaze that allows you to take more of her in.

One trick to making that kind of charming and inviting eye contact with a woman is to smile with your eyes. That same feeling you get in your eyes after laughing really hard is the same feeling you want to recreate when making eye contact with a woman you’ve never met. It projects friendliness and warmth which will get the girl interested in meeting you.

How to avoid being sleazy with women (with a slight shift in attitude)

So before you even approach a woman, it’s a good idea to ensure that you don’t have her up on a pedestal. Keep in mind that looks are just a small piece of what makes women attractive and ask yourself: “okay, she’s hot, but what else does she have going for her?” Is she fun? Is she caring? Does she have an interesting life? Having standards like this will take her off the pedestal and automatically ease some approach anxiety. It will also help you to naturally come across as a high-value man who is selective and confident with women, which will get more women attracted to you.

Now, there is a trick to how to go about finding the answers to these questions. You don’t want to come out of the gate asking them as that can be overwhelming. Instead, when you first start a conversation with a girl, get the ball rolling with some fun, playful banter (for more on how to start a conversation with a girl and how flirt with a woman using banter, check out the podcast episodes on how to banter with a girl). That will create a relaxed and safe atmosphere and from there you can ask questions that will have her proving to you that she has more going for her than her looks. Questions like “what kind of adventures have you been up to lately”, “so what’s your deal?”, or “what do you do for fun” will keep a fun, light vibe while giving you a chance to learn more about her.

By asking qualification questions like this, you challenge her to prove that she’s more than just a pretty face. That kind of challenge will only make you more attractive to the girl – and in itself can be enough to get her chasing you.

What women want in a man

Another thing that turns women off and makes them feel uneasy about a guy is when a guy appears “fake” – when his words and actions are incongruent with who he is and what he’s feeling. On the other hand, women are attracted to a guy who does the opposite, and shows integrity.

Showing integrity is as simple as standing by your thoughts/opinions/feelings –however, many guys slip up here. They think that to get a woman to like you, you need to agree with everything she says. But that’s not the case. A guy who is afraid to disagree with a woman just shows insecurity, neediness, and a lack of integrity. But by sticking to your guns and being willing to disagree with the girl, you actually become more attractive to women. It shows you’re not seeking approval, and that you’re a secure man who has confidence with women.

Here’s an example of what showing the integrity that women find attractive might look like: If you love Schwarzenegger movies and the girl you’re interested in or her friends say his movies are stupid, don’t start backtracking and say you don’t really like them either. Instead, stand up for yourself (and do it with a smile). Use it as an opportunity to have a bit of fun and start some playful banter with the girl. Maybe respond with something like “What!? Don’t you like Schwarzenegger movies? That’s it, this isn’t working out, I want a divorce. You can keep the beach house, but I want the boat. You never used that thing anyway…”

What to say to a girl you don’t know (without being creepy)

One last thing that can creep women out is when a guy is completely oblivious to social norms and the rules of society. A guy like that might be embarrassing to be with down the road, so she’s not going to be interested in dating him. So when approaching women to make sure you don’t creep them out by demonstrating that you’re a guy who understands social norms – even if you don’t follow them.

For example, meeting women in the daytime is not all that “normal” for many guys. Most guys have too much approach anxiety to approach an attractive girl on the street, subway, grocery store etc. So in situations like this, it can be helpful to demonstrate that you understand that starting a conversation with a girl you don’t know in the middle of the day is outside the norm… you just don’t care.

If you’re approaching a girl in the daytime then, it can be helpful to start the conversation with the girl by saying something like “I know this is a bit weird, but I just wanted to come to meet you”. This shows that you understand the situation and you know you’re doing something out of the ordinary, but you’re confident enough that you don’t give a damn.

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How to flirt with women

Girls might seem impossible to flirt with sometimes. In fact, more than 80% of women can’t even tell if you’re flirting with them!

You need to understand how to make the right moves and get her to like you. Here are 7 Ways to Flirt with Any Girl:

Please note that this information is not professional advice and is only made based off of personal experience. These tips are not scientifically proven to work, but they have helped me flirt with girls effectively and are based off of what has worked for me.

With that being said, let’s dive in on a few basic tips for how to flirt with any girl!

How to flirt with women


Mess with them. Not aggressively, but enough to make them playfully want to hit you.

It works really well if it’s worked in with a compliment. If you think you can be hurting their feelings, don’t say it.

You can always find something to tease out of anything that’s being talked about. For example, she can be talking about how she has a brother and you can respond with “Is he hot?” Obviously you’re not interested in her brother, but she’ll understand that you’re joking.

How to flirt with women


When you’re being a flirt, everything needs to be sarcastic. It makes the talk so much easier and if she follows your sarcasm, she will start to open up to you more.

There is no scientific explanation why, but once you take away the seriousness of the conversation, it gets so much easier to flirt with one another.

Not everyone is fast enough to respond with sarcasm of the fly, but try your best even with the small stuff.

For example: She can ask how old you are. If you’re 17, respond with a confident 47. And if she laughs but says “no seriously how old are you”, tell her to guess. This way the conversation flows a lot smoother and you’re playing games with each other.

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How to flirt with women

Be Funny

Being funny obviously attracts girls. If you flirt without this, you aren’t flirting. The first 2 points above can be incorporated with your funny behavior.

Don’t tell jokes though, tell funny stories if you have any. If not, just make funny remarks to things she says.

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How to flirt with women

Be Confident No Matter What

If you want to know how to flirt with any girl, at least focus on this tip.

Easier said than done I know. However, you’re not losing anything out of this. The more she realizes that you’re not trying so hard, the more you will both feel comfortable talking.

Stand up tall, act like yourself, and don’t be afraid to make the moves that you want to make. Now by that, I don’t mean kiss her as soon as you feel like it. What I mean is if you want to give her a little touch on the shoulder or pull her out to dance don’t hesitate.

If you notice you’re more confident with a friend next to you, use one. Not as a wingman, but because it might be easier to start conversation or if one of your jokes fails you have a friend who gets it.

How to flirt with women

Body Language

This is key and people don’t realize it. I thought for young people it wasn’t so necessary, but it’s absolutely crucial.

Keep your body faced towards her when you’re standing up. I find it that sitting doesn’t necessarily matter as long as you look engaged. Arms must always be open, don’t cross them, look down, or play with your hands.

Don’t constantly smile; only when necessary. You can even give her a slightly annoyed face if she said something stupid or silly to tease her.

Pay attention to her body language too. Is she doing the same as you? Is she playing with her hair? Does she touch you occasionally? Those are all signs that she’s interested.

How to flirt with women

The Go and Come Back

Possibly my favorite trick when I’m trying to be flirty. You simply go for a while and come back shortly. It makes it seem as if she’s not your number one priority and you have other things to do. No it doesn’t ruin the flirting, it actually makes it stronger.

Once you’ve established a connection with her, get up and go talk to another friend or take a walk around the social event. In the meantime, you can think of things to talk about with her or go get a confidence boost from a friend.

Another trick I’ll use is walking past her and squeezing the side of her belly. She knows I’m thinking about her as I walk by and I get a little tease/touch action.

This does only work when there are other people around so utilize it if you can.

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How to flirt with women


The greatest flirting technique ever. You can’t over do it, but if you under do it, you’re missing out. If you leave for a second, give her a pat on the side of the shoulder. Give her an elbow tap when you’re messing with her.

Don’t put your arm around her unless you really think it’s appropriate. Definitely don’t touch any inappropriate parts of the body, that’s an instant turn off to them.

They’re supposed to be light, random, playful touches that send a little message. The message being “I’m into you and I want to touch you”.

I’m going to leave the rest up to you for now. Remember, don’t take it too seriously. You’re just talking to another person in a fun and playful style, that’s all.

I hope this showed you some useful tips on how to flirt with any girl. Start implementing these and she will like you in no time!

I hope you enjoyed this post. Have fun on your flirt quest! If you have any questions or comments leave them down below!

The body language women use when they want a man to approach.

How to flirt with women

In earlier posts, I have discussed how to flirt and be attractive in general, and I have shared research on how to get a guy’s (or gal’s) attention. Yet I still get emails from women asking how to let a guy know they are interested — and get him to approach them. I also get emails from men who want tips, beyond basic body language cues, that help them know a woman is really interested in them.

As usual, I dug into the research literature. As it turns out, a few pioneering researchers have covertly watched women flirting, in bars and on campuses, to answer these very questions. Through their observations, they have found a number of nonverbal behaviors and body language cues that women use to signal their potential interest to men, and motivate men to approach them, too.

Nonverbal Courtship Patterns in Women

The first study I reviewed came from Moore (1985), who performed an observational study of women flirting in bars and on a college campus. Specifically, Moore had two trained observers covertly watch more than 200 single women in those locations for about 30 minutes each, and record the women’s “nonverbal solicitation signals.” Further, the researchers defined these solicitation signals as “a movement of body part(s) or whole body that resulted in male attention, operationally defined, within 15 seconds following the behavior” (Moore, 1985). Male attention was further defined as a man approaching the woman, talking to her, asking her to dance, or even (in a few instances) kissing her.

From those observations, Moore (1985) identified 52 nonverbal behaviors that women use to signal their potential interest in a man. Of those, some of the most frequently performed behaviors by women were:

  1. Solitary Dance: While seated or standing, the woman moved her body in time to music playing.
  2. Room-Encompassing Glance: The woman looked around the room for about 5 to 10 seconds, without making eye contact with others.
  3. Short Darting Glance: The woman gave a sideways, 2-to-3-second glance at a man of interest.
  4. Gaze Fixate: The woman made eye contact with a man of interest for more than 3 seconds.
  5. Head Toss: The woman flipped her head backward and lifted her face up briefly.
  6. Hair Flip: The woman raised one hand up, pushed it through her hair.
  7. Smile: The corners of the mouth were turned upward, sometimes showing teeth.
  8. Lean: The woman moved her torso and upper body forward, closer to the man.
  9. Neck Presentation: The woman tilted her head to one side, about 45 degrees, exposing the opposite side of her neck.
  10. Laugh/Giggle: Generally, laughing/giggling was a response to conversation with a man.
  11. Head Nod: Usually in conversation with a man, the woman nodded in agreement.

Beyond those flirting behaviors, once a man approached, women also touched in a number of ways to show interest as well. Often, they caressed an object, or the man’s face, arm, leg, or back. Or, the woman might position herself so her knee, thigh, or foot were touching the man to show interest. In some instances, a woman might even initiate a hug or hang off a man.

A follow-up study by Moore and Butler (1989) evaluated some of these behaviors more thoroughly. In this case, the researchers were interested in finding out which of these flirting and “solicitation” behaviors actually worked to get men to approach. The team again camped out in bars — this time observing the differences in behavior between single women who were approached by a man versus women who did not get approached.

The results of their observations showed some significant behavioral differences between women who were approached and those who were not. Particularly, women who were approached often smiled at men, danced by themselves, nodded at men, leaned toward them, or tilted their head (neck presentation) — while women who did not get approached performed none of those behaviors. Further, women who were approached were more likely to also look around the room, flip their hair, toss their head, and fixate their glance on a specific man.

Beyond those behavioral differences, Moore and Butler (1989) evaluated the general attractiveness of the women observed. On average, there was no difference in attractiveness between women who were approached and those who were not. Therefore, the men approaching the women was a result of the women’s behavioral differences — not their looks. In fact, according to the analysis, an unattractive woman who displayed a lot of solicitation behaviors was more likely to be approached by men than an attractive woman who did not display solicitation behaviors.

Flirting (and Being Flirted With…)

The studies here basically align with previous research I have reviewed on flirting and body language. Given that, the best way for a woman to signal her interest in a man is to look at him and smile, while having open and relaxed body language. More specifically, in the studies above, the women who were approached by men were having fun, dancing, smiling, and looking around. In short, they looked approachable and interested.

If you are a woman and seek interest from a man, start by looking interested in him. Catch his eye by looking around the room, dancing, moving closer, or flipping your hair. When you get his attention, look at him and smile. As he approaches, show that you are receptive by nodding or tilting your head.

Once a man approaches, flirting becomes more about leaning in close, laughing, and touching. In fact, touching is very attractive and persuasive; even accidental touching can lead to intimacy. So caress your glass, find an excuse to slide into the seat next to him, and get better acquainted.

If you are a man wondering whether a woman is interested, look for the behaviors above. If a woman is looking around and flipping her hair, pay attention. If she makes eye contact and smiles at you, break the ice and start a conversation. If she likes what you have to say and touches you, then it may be time to ask her out.

Learning about these flirting behaviors helps both women and men get to know each other better. If you are a woman, use them to send clear signals — and the men you like may be more likely to say hello. If you are a man, look for those flirting signals — and your own approach may be more likely to get a warm reception.

© 2017 by Jeremy S. Nicholson, M.A., M.S.W., Ph.D. All rights reserved.

Moore, M. (1985). Nonverbal courtship patterns in women: Context and consequences. Ethology and Sociobiology, 6, 237-247.

Moore, M., & Butler, D. (1989). Predictive aspects of nonverbal courtship behavior in women. Semiotica, 3, 205-215.

Five of us sit huddled round a notebook and a bottle of pink cava in a quiet corner of a busy bar in Leicester Square, central London. It is 6pm on a Friday and it is starting to fill with men and women in office attire.

“So who are you targeting, Helen?” Gulp.

“Erm, well, I haven’t looked around yet.”

I am immediately chastised. Concentrating on immediate company and not looking over shoulders to scan rooms is, in flirting school, a D minus.

Sue Ostler, a flirt coach and the author of four relationship manuals, has started a weekly learn-on-the-job flirting tour of the heaving bars of London’s West End.

During our briefing, we are warned of our male rivals who operate in the same territory. The so-called Pick-Up Artists crawl Friday night bars in small tuition groups with a guide to talk them through pulling tactics. The phenomenon caught on in the UK after the success of Neil Strauss’s memoir, The Game.

“You can smell them when you enter a bar,” Ostler says. “They home in on anyone without a male by their side and come up with cringeworthy lines. We won’t do that. We are focusing on our personalities and developing a sense of warmth and likeability.”

Tonight, we are told, is not about getting a date, but about practising. It doesn’t matter who we approach or if they are our type. We just need guinea pigs on whom to test Ostler’s theory, which she is now explaining over a second glass of fizz.

Apparently, it’s all about exuding a lively, approachable vibe. “It’s Friday night, look like you’re having fun!” we are told. Sitting down is not allowed, as that “puts us out of reach”. We have to smile a lot and look confident, yet relaxed. We should take in our surroundings in case we want them to be conversation openers. Is there a jukebox? Is anyone drinking a cocktail that we can comment on? We should never embark on a night out without an accessory that could invite someone to open a conversation – a hat or a striking necklace, for instance.

Most importantly, we need to make plenty of eye contact: “We instinctively look away when our eyes lock with a stranger. Tonight you are going to hold it for five seconds, smile, maybe even wink, and see what happens,” Ostler instructs. I am absolutely terrified.

At crowded bar number one, Ostler unleashes us into the crowd: “Go!” She follows behind to observe our amateur tactics.

Instead of staring straight ahead, as I would usually, I smile at a man to my left. Disastrously, the crowds prevent me from continuing forward, so I am stuck awkwardly next to him and don’t know where to look. My smile worked, though, because he opens a conversation. I lean back, away from his vodka breath.

“No!” growls Ostler in my ear. “You need to lean inwards. Think friendly, warm, welcoming persona.” I obediently endure three minutes of his slurring. It’s practice, remember.

In the next – thankfully quieter – location, I select a clean-cut business type as my practice piece. He is deep in conversation, so I walk straight past. How can I infiltrate that?

Ostler is unimpressed: “You should have made a detour to walk past him. Why did you walk around that other guy? You could have tapped him on the shoulder, smiled and said excuse me and gently squeezed past. Go back.”

I protest on the grounds that he has obviously seen us conspiring. But I am forced. Despite my flirting being under duress, it works again. On my return journey, the clean-cut suit stops his conversation and asks: “Are you looking for your friends?” Cue a conversation.

Ostler has a formula for the conversation stage: A-E-I-O-U. A is for ask lots of questions. E is for ears to listen, rather than talk. I is for the essence of ‘I’ – making sure your personality oozes out. O is for Oh my God – showing some animation and a human side. U is for you – the person you are talking to – making them the focus of conversation.

The theory behind girl flirt school is very different to the equivalent male camp. Groups such as, which teach wannabe Romeos on the ground in real bar settings, draw their technique from that described in Strauss’s book. The core skill seems to be sickly sweet one-liners, and success is judged on getting a girl into bed.

I witnessed this theory put into practise when we bumped into a suspected group of trainee pick-up artists in our final bar. No sooner had I taken off my coat than a guy who looked about 12 approached me: “Your shoes match the colour of your dress exactly – I’m impressed.” It was said with laughingly manufactured charm, but it was so assertive it was hard not to respond, so there must be something to the tactic.

Thankfully Ostler came to my rescue. “He’s one of them. Stay away.” The 12-year-old shrugged and moved on to a nearby brunette.

Ostler claims that learning to flirt should have a far higher-reaching aim than getting someone’s phone number. “It is about lighting the spark to your personality and letting people see it shine through. Flirting opens yourself up to new people and opportunities. What I teach helps ladies socially and in work situations.”

It seems then that flirting is more about learning to be liked, not learning to be fancied. From what I saw, the pick-up theory for the boys is far less advanced.

How to flirt with women

Flirting is an essential aspect of human interaction. It often opens a portal for intimate relationships between two people. Both men and women flirt, and many people find innocent flirting fun and satisfying.

Flirting may often point to different things: one-night stands, serious intent for a long-term relationship, destressing routine, habitual flirting, making business, and so on.

According to psychologists, below are a few common examples of flirting:

Social media posts:

  • Digital flirting is also a factor to consider. People who flirt are always the first ones to react to your social media posts.
  • If someone is constantly commenting or liking your social media posts, it is safe to say you are on their mind.
  • Though liking a post could just be a friendly move rather than a declaration of love, reacting to everything you post online might indicate attraction.


  • As per studies, their eyebrows raise when they see you.
  • A slight lifting of the brows is an unconscious way that people signal romantic interest.

Prolonged eye contact:

  • As per studies, if someone is gazing into your eyes, there is a high chance they have affection towards you.
  • Eye contact is a good indicator that someone finds a person interesting and potentially attractive.

Brief glances:

  • Many brief glances may sometimes be subtle flirtation.
  • In close relationships, people tend to direct many brief glances at the intended target of their flirtation.
  • This might mean that constantly catching the eye of someone across the room might be subtle flirtation rather than pure coincidence.


  • According to research on nonverbal signs of romantic interest, toying with a sleeve or fidgeting with a button could be flirting.
  • Females are noted to be more likely to play with their clothing if they were interested in a person.

Teasing and awkward compliments:

  • Being jokingly picked on might be a subtle sign that someone is into you.
  • However, there is a difference between light teasing and being made to feel uncomfortable or bullied.
  • Someone who repeatedly puts you down or makes you unhappy isn't worth your time, even if they are trying to flirt.

Possibly touching:

  • People who flirt possibly touch the one they like while they talk.
  • As per research, light touches can be their way of getting closer.
  • An accidental arm graze or bumping into might mean you are being flirted with.
  • Often the person will touch your arm or try to brush hands or feet against you if you are seated at a table or bar. A light touch on these areas sends signals to the brain about attraction.

They might want you to notice:

  • They let you catch them checking you out. This is a pretty big indicator that someone is into you and wants you to know it.
  • Though there are usually plenty of low-key opportunities to size up a potential mate, allowing themselves to be caught in the act might mean that they are trying to send a flirty message.

Open body language:

  • Paying attention to how open and relaxed someone's body language is can help you decipher their intentions.
  • For example, if they are squared up and facing you with their feet pointed in your direction, it may be a sign that they are interested in you.

Physical proximity:

  • It is a big sign of flirting. There are some situations in which being physically close to someone is inevitable (e.g., a full subway car). However, if someone scoots their chair closer to yours and leans in, there is a good chance they are trying to be flirty.
  • They try to move their body closer to yours. Close physical proximity is a good indicator of romantic intention.
  • If they're moving in closer, it's a good sign that they are getting ready to flirt.

What are the different styles of flirting?

Research shows that people use five main styles of flirting with each person displaying different levels of each style:


  • Individuals with this flirting style feel comfortable expressing their desire through physical behavior.
  • They generally have an easy time signaling their attraction, and their behavior is often likely to be interpreted as sexual in nature.


  • Individuals with this flirting style focus on creating an emotional bond with their potential romantic partners.
  • They tend to develop intimacy early on in relationships by eliciting self-disclosure, providing social support, and showing personal interest, which is generally in a romantic (but not necessarily sexual) manner.


  • Individuals with this flirting style tend to flirt in a way that is playful and light-hearted.
  • They are generally not concerned with how others may interpret their behavior. They often view flirting as an inherently satisfying behavior, even if it doesn’t lead to anything serious.


  • Individuals with this flirting style attempt to behave within the boundaries of traditional gender roles.
  • They expect the man to be the active initiator in the courtship process and the woman to play a more passive role.


  • Individuals with this flirting style use a relatively cautious approach to courtship.
  • They tend to avoid behavior that could potentially be construed by others as inappropriate, aggressive, or needy.

Flirting is not serious, but it is an important thing to do because it creates a spark between two people. Unless you have somehow managed to crack any universal code of romantic bonding that has forever eluded humankind, you know that flirting can be hard. Expressing affection can be potentially mortifying, particularly if you have got a crush on the person you are flirting with.

The French flatter and the Brits are crass. So says a social anthropologist in this review on how to flirt across cultural boundaries in Europe.

Brits are boorish, the French flatter, Scandinavians play it cool, and Italians get intimate. Everyone flirts, but how to flirt depends largely on our culture and a host of unspoken rules. “Basically, we are descended from a long line of successful flirts; it is hard-wired into our brains,” social anthropologist Kate Fox told Agence France-Presse. “If we didn’t initiate contact with the opposite sex, then we wouldn’t reproduce; the species would die out.”

Whether you’re dating online or treating a steady date to a romantic night out on Valentine’s Day, building a relationship at any stage requires a little bit of flirting. Anyone searching for a soulmate or just for a bit of fun may welcome some guidelines to help sharpen their skills. Be ready for a bit of banter and eyelash battering all in the hope of catching one of cupid’s arrows.

But beware of injury to tender parts. The subtle rules of flirting vary greatly across Europe; foreigners are often unaware if they are being courted or insulted. Tread carefully when it comes to flirting with (or being in a relationship with) someone from a different culture; British women, used to the alcohol-fueled pub environment back home, are taken aback during trips across the Channel to France unused to a sudden rush of compliments and open flirtation.

How to flirt in France

“Frenchmen are less sexually obvious, there is less banter, and they are more direct. They’ll say cheesy things like ‘you have really nice eyes’,” said one young journalist. Although, as dating expert Jean-Baptiste Trannoy says, such compliments work well not just in France; perhaps we can all take note.

How to flirt with women

It’s also perfectly acceptable in France for men to approach a stranger in the street and ask them out; this is even at the risk of refusal. But it’s also important to be aware of ongoing debates about street harassment in French cities, says Jean-Baptiste, and such approaches should be done in a tactful manner; cat-calling is definitely not the same as flirting.

While draguer is French for ‘picking someone up’ or ‘hitting on someone’, the word séduction is a faux ami. It can mean persuading someone to go to bed with you; however, it’s also refers to simply charming other people. The French are always trying to seduce everyone in this second sense. This can mean that people often flirt in a casual, good-natured way without a sexual proposition necessarily behind it. Of course, the tricky part for foreigners is learning to tell the difference.

How to flirt in the United Kingdom

In Britain, alcohol drives flirtation; this masks fears of intimacy and rejection. That said, as dating expert Jean-Baptiste Trannoy reminds us of the reference ‘Dutch courage’, it would be fair to say that alcohol-induced flirting is common in many parts of the world. Cheers!

“British males are either reticent and awkward or boorish and crass. He usually consumes too much alcohol. English male flirting tends to be very circuitous; it involves a lot of insults rather than compliments,” said Kate Fox. “I’ve had to explain lots of times to foreign friends that ‘silly cow’ can really be a term of endearment,” added the Oxford-based researcher and author of Watching the English: The Hidden Rules of English Behavior.

In the Netherlands, touching strangers, even just a friendly hand on the shoulder at a bar, is a big mistake. Regardless of culture, says Jean-Baptiste, touching too early during any interaction can trigger defense mechanisms. Approaching or complimenting a stranger in the street can also reap the same reaction in the Netherlands. That said, Jean-Baptiste says his experiences in Amsterdam are positive; they result in a date more often than not.

Cantina, a woman from the United States who works in The Hague with three Dutch boyfriends under her belt, says that “in the Netherlands, you have eye contact and approach men. They don’t approach you. At home, you just stand there and they come to you. Here, you have to be more aggressive,” says Cantina.

In Sweden, detecting signs of flirtation is a difficult task. Two strangers rarely exchange glances, a wink, or a telling smile. But come the weekend, Swedes, both men and women, let loose. Don’t expect sophisticated romance, though, as it’s not unusual for an inebriated Swede to immediately ask the woman who has caught his eye if she wants to have sex.

On the other hand, dating expert Jean-Baptiste Trannoy thinks subtle flirting is well-received by Swedes because it’s uncommon. Perceived value in any dating situation comes from a large part of scarcity: someone doing exactly what everybody else is doing does not set themselves apart, nor create interest.

In Italy, men and women embrace with ease at each meeting. As such, young Italian makes see foreign women as fair game; long, traditional courtships with Italian women frustrate these young men.

How to flirt with women

Even though bottom-pinching is a thing of the past, women sitting on their own in a Rome café are likely to attract more than one rowdy ciao bella. Foreign women may find it hard to shake off their unwanted beau.

How to flirt in Germany

The Germans – ever anxious to get it right – have taken things one step further; there are now several schools offering individual or group lessons in flirting etiquette.

For around €125, students can take part in a weekend-long flirtation workshop at the Be2 school. The instructors Justine Lethem and Volker Dottie claim their “knowledge of flirting comes as much from their scientific as well as their practical experience.” Similar workshops are held in many European countries.

What makes the world go round

It’s one thing to ignore cultural stereotypes while flirting with a stranger, but don’t take it to the opposite extreme. Kate Fox said the idea of taking lessons in what should come naturally was not a bad one. “After all, eating is natural, but we don’t all have good table manners,” she says with a laugh. For example, knowing when an innocent flirt has crossed the boundaries into sexual harassment is not always obvious. However, Fox says that as soon as you begin to get negative signals, it’s time to back off.

A sociological study by the Czech labor ministry finds that most people perceive sexual harassment as being “a concept artificially imported from abroad. Conversations with hidden erotic meaning, provocative allusions, and even rude stories are all part of what makes the world go round,” the study concluded.

How to flirt with women

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How to flirt with women

When it comes to flirting, men and women aren’t necessarily great at reading the nonverbal cues that show someone is romantically interested in them — and, at best, that can lead to some awkward situations. But the University of Kansas researchers now say they have identified a specific and effective group of facial cues women express when they’re flirting with a potential romantic partner.

In a series of studies, published in the Journal of Sex Research, women — some of whom were professional actresses, while others were volunteers — were asked either to spontaneously do a “flirting expression” they typically use in the real world or “follow instructions based on existing anthropological literature for what researchers define as flirting,” according to a University of Kansas (KU) press release.

According to the release, “The team found some women are more effective than others in effectively conveying a flirtatious facial cue, while some men are better at recognizing this cue.” However, the researchers found that “a few expressions were identified by most (if not all) men as flirting” — namely, when women turned their head to one side while tilting it down slightly, had a slight smile, and their eyes were facing toward their romantic interest, it sent a more clear cut message to men that the women were interested.

“Potentially it was [this] combination that made. the expression of some women more effective and recognizable than others,” Omri Gillath, co-author of the study and professor of psychology at KU, tells Yahoo Life.

“Our findings support the role of flirtatious expression in communication and mating initiation,” Gillath stated in the press release. “For the first time, not only were we able to isolate and identify the expressions that represent flirting, but we were also able to reveal their function — to activate associations related with relationships and sex.”

Body language expert Blanca Cobb tells Yahoo Life that she’s not surprised this facial cue combination is so effective: It involves expressing more than one sign that you’re romantically interested in someone. “It’s the head tilt, chin down, eyes up and smile — that’s four cues. It’s a really good one when it comes to women.”

This coy expression is “almost like a bashful thing when you look down and look up,” says Cobb. “You see it in cartoons and Disney princesses [with] the head down and looking up. It’s very powerful.”

Cobb explains that men, as well as women, can struggle with knowing whether or not someone is flirting with them because they often rely on only one cue. “You cannot just rely on a smile,” says Cobb. “You cannot just rely on eye gazing. They may not even be looking at you. They may be looking behind you or in your general direction.”

Terri Orbuch, a professor at Oakland University in Michigan and author of “5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage From Good to Great,” agrees, telling Yahoo Life: “In general, men and women are not that great about recognizing when someone is flirting with them because most people focus on what people say (verbal communication) — not on what facial or body language cues and signals they are expressing (non-verbal communication).”

She continues: “Most people look to the words and phrases that people say, rather than what they’re doing to gauge interest in them. Also, even if people look to the body language and face for signs that someone is interested in them or flirting, most don’t know how to recognize what those signs mean or how to interpret them.”

Some men can also “misread” a woman’s cues. Gillath tells Yahoo Life that men have a “tendency” to overestimate when women are flirting, “as it serves their sexual strategies — it is better to pursue and be wrong than to miss an opportunity,” he says.

In some cases, Cobb says, men “automatically assume intent. ‘You’re smiling at me because you think I’m hot.’ [But] maybe they’re being nice or maybe they’re uncomfortable but are smiling” to diffuse unwanted advances.

Cobb adds, “Sometimes a hello and a smile is just a hello and a smile. She may not be picking you up. It can just be friendliness.” Orbuch says there are several risks when it comes to misinterpreting that someone is flirting with you, from “embarrassment” and “awkwardness” to “insecurity” and “accusations of sexual harassment.”

However, Orbuch says, in general, women are better at both interpreting and displaying body language and facial cues.

Along with the flirtatious facial expressions shown in the study, Cobb says that touch is another more obvious way to convey that you’re romantically interested in someone. “You’re not going to touch something you don’t like or want to be around,” she says, “unless I’m pushing you away or turning you away. Those are obvious signs of ‘get away from me.’ But if you’re talking to someone and you reach out and touch their hand or arm because they made you laugh, it’s a way to get closer” and can convey interest.

Eye contact — namely, “smiling, eyes relaxed and having fun,” says Cobb — is another signal. Glaring or staring is not flirting. If the person is avoiding eye contact or is mainly looking around the room while you’re talking to them, “they’re checking out whoever else is around,” says Cobb, and likely aren’t interested.

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Flirting is like a sport: The more you practice, the better you become at using your charm when you need it most, like when that cute guy steps on the elevator. “From the moment you wake up, have this vibe to embrace whoever you come in contact with,” says Thomas Edwards, founder of The Professional Wingman, a dating consultancy. Flex your flirt muscles daily by complimenting the delivery guy on his watch or asking your neighbor on the train what he’s reading.

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When heading out for a good time, it’s important to dress for your role. If you’re looking for a gentleman, present yourself as a leading lady. “Dress how you want to be addressed,” says Shanel Cooper-Sykes, host of Man Magnet, an online flirting workshop. “If you put it all out there in something too tight or too low, you aren’t saying ‘I want to flirt,’ you’re saying ‘Come and get me.’ ” Forgo the freak ’em dress and instead grab his attention with bold colors in flattering cuts that make you feel sexy.

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Most men have been rejected when approaching women, which can make them gun-shy. Signaling your interest reassures a man he has a chance. “Just smile and make eye contact,” Edwards says. “Men are very physical, so subtle flirting by women can sometimes be invisible. Be more expressive with your gestures, and lightly touch his arm so he knows you’re interested.”

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Be bold and creative in meeting new people. “Just like a man will send a drink, I will send a man who catches my eye a glass or bottle of what he is drinking. It shows what kind of woman I am,” dating coach Shanel Cooper-Sykes says. “You can also kiss a napkin with your lipstick and write ‘I like you.’ Then walk by his table and drop it off, or send it through the waitress.”

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“Pssst. Hey, chocolate.” We know it can sometimes be difficult to be charming after experiencing unsolicited male attention. “A lot of Black women have walls up from the way some men have responded to us,” Cooper-Sykes says. “We have to set the standards and train men how to treat us.” When you encounter an uncouth approach, check him with a smile. It’s flirting practice for you and a lesson for him.

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Don’t limit your attention to the guy who catches your eye. “One thing that helps women look sociable is to see them interacting with people outside of their social group,” Edwards says. Chatting up the bartender or the lady at the next table signals to the rest of the room that you are friendly and fun.

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Facebook can be more than finding your next partner for Words With Friends. Social networks are the perfect spot to friend and flirt. If you meet someone while out, how dating expert Chiara Atik, encourages you to connect with him on Facebook and Twitter. “Like his photos, retweet funny links and parlay the friending to an actual connection. Find a reason to send him a direct message to continue the conversation,” she says. For more flirting tips, check out the February issue of ESSENCE.

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