How to get her interested

Guys who are looking for examples of things to ask a woman to get her interested are really looking for tips on how to get to know a woman as more than a friend, right?

If you want to get a woman interested in you in a sexual way, you’ve got to make sure that you make her feel sexually attracted to how you are interacting with her.

For example: Talking to a woman in a nice, friendly manner will only make her feel nice, friendly feelings towards you. If you want to make her feel sexually attracted, you need to display confidence, have a masculine vibe, make her feel girly in response to your masculinity, etc.

Watch this video to understand where guys mess up when talking to women and what to do instead to ensure that you succeed at getting the woman interested and getting the result with her that you’re aiming for…

As you will discover from the video above, many guys don’t realize how easy women are to attract and pick up.

Based on this misunderstanding, guys often try way too hard to impress the woman, which then turns her off and makes her play hard to get.

If you want to talk to a woman in a way that gets her interested, you’ve got to believe in yourself. You have to know that you are good enough for her and then talk to her based on that level confidence in yourself.

Yes, she will most-likely test you by acting like she isn’t interested at certain points of the conversation, but she is hoping that you remain confident in yourself. She doesn’t want you to crumble under pressure.

Classic Conversation Mistakes to Avoid When Talking to Women

1. Don’t turn it into an interview

Carefully working through a list of prepared questions can turn a conversation into an interview-style question and answer session, which is not going to make a woman feel relaxed in your company.

Unless she’s feeling relaxed around you, she’s not going to feel comfortable enough to let down her guard and be herself around you, meaning you’re not going to get to know her any better as a result.

Relaxed conversations aren’t structured and there’s no running order of topics to be discussed. A normal conversation bounces backwards and forwards between two people and the direction it goes in depends entirely on the responses and reactions of each person in each moment.

Attempting to work through a list of questions makes it impossible to have a natural, free-flowing conversation with a woman and if she feels she’s being interviewed, she’s going to keep her answers brief and business like.

2. Don’t make it overly formal

Following on from the above, if you’re focused on working your way through a list of questions to ask a woman during a conversation, you’re going to come across as being overly formal.

Let’s be honest, carefully reciting a list of scripted questions is not going to let your personality shine through, is it?

There’s also the danger that you’ll be so busy trying to remember the next question on your list that you won’t actually be paying any attention to the answer she’s giving to the question you’ve just asked.

Being a good conversationalist means being able to listen as well as talk, and it’s only by listening to what a woman says that you can actually get to know her, right?

If you drop the formality of asking questions and you relax into just listening and responding to what she’s actually saying, you’ll find a natural getting-to-know-a-woman conversation will evolve effortlessly from there.

3. Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not

For some guys, looking for a list of things to ask a woman to get her interested can also be a way of attempting to hide their insecurities behind a “fake” confident front.

Having a ready-list of questions available gives them a guaranteed way of avoiding awkward silences, and it also gives them a way of avoiding having to talk about themselves if they lack self-confidence.

If a guy is worried that a woman might find him boring and uninteresting, he might attempt to make himself seem more fun by downloading some jokes or funny stories from the internet. However, if it’s a story that doesn’t reflect who he really is, the mismatch between the words he’s saying and the body language he’s displaying will make him come across as a fake.

Nobody likes a faker! If a woman senses that a guy is pretending to be someone he’s not, she’s not going to feel comfortable enough to let her guard down and be herself around him.

Trying too hard to be liked by a woman in an effort to get to know her better can lead to being super nice and overly desperate to please her.

This might mean hanging on her every word and going along with everything she says, but behaving this way will not make a woman like you more, in fact, it’s more likely to turn her off completely.

Women are attracted to confident guys who are secure in who they are and what they’ve got to offer in life, making them genuine guys who can be trusted to always remain true to themselves.

A guy who goes along with everything she says and continually pays her compliments can come across as being insincere at best and weak, wimpy and desperate at worst. Either way, these are not traits that will make her warm to you and feel at ease in your company.

4. Don’t make it all about you

Pretending to be someone you’re not in an effort to impress a woman is an approach that will backfire. Women are experts at reading body language and if you show yourself to be putting on a fake front, they’ll see right through you.

Instead of faking it, take the pressure off by remembering that a conversation should flow backwards and forwards between two people – it’s not all about you!

Guys who lack confidence around womans like the idea of having a list of things to ask a woman to get her interested because it means they won’t run out of things to say.

However, the fear of an awkward silence can also lead to a guy talking too much – and going on and on about himself. Nervous chatter will not turn her on and make her want to get to know a guy better, it will make her want to get out of the conversation as quickly as possible.

The bottom line is that the things to ask a woman to get her interested are the things that will lead to a two-way conversation in which you find out a little more about her and she finds out a little more about you.

If you want to get to know a woman as more than a friend, you need to show her through the way you handle yourself in a social environment that you’re relaxed and comfortable just being yourself, thereby allowing her to feel relaxed and comfortable in your company and to feel sexually attracted to you.

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You see an attractive girl. She’s looking at you. You smile at each other. But what do you do next?

How on Earth are you going to get a conversation going?

Well, you’re in luck because what I’m about to tell you is advice that a lot of men will never know in their lifetime. It is the Art of Conversation!

Yes, talking to a woman is where all the magic happens. And, depending how good of a conversationalist you are, it is where a woman decides to sleep with you or not. If you’re a smooth enough talker, you can get anyone to do just about anything.

Ever heard of a guy named Grigori Rasputin? He was some random, crazy Russian dude who seduced the Russian Queen during Tsarist Russia in the early 1900’s. This guy was so smooth, that he actually convinced the queen that he was a mystical healer that could use magic to heal her sick son. Let me preface this by saying, Rasputin was one ugly motherlover.

Obviously, the guy was full of it, but he was as Usher says, “A True Player For Real.”

Here is a list of things you can do to really get a conversation going with women!

How to get her interested1. Speak Slowly!

Yes, when somebody talks too quickly, they just look nervous, high-strung, and to women, this is a huge turn-off.

See, hot chicks are always used to guys all nervous and weak around them, so the slower you talk, the more calm and collected you’ll see, and the sooner you’ll be in bed with her.

2. Don’t Lean In So Much

See, guys who aren’t that good with women make it so obvious that they’re interested. They’ll lean in and talk to a girl. They’ll try and get as close as possible, but sorry to say, this just turns women off. Learn to lean back while conversing with women.

3. Look Into Her Eyes

Take a page out of Medusa, man! Conversation is all about engaging your audience, and part of getting a girl to engage is to look into her eyes while you’re talking to her.

4. Smile!

This is the easiest thing to do. Smiling is psychologically proven to make people feel more at ease.

See, beautiful women get hit on a million times a day, and most of these guys are try-hard, nervous wrecks. You need to come off as a fun and cool guy, and smiling helps you do this.

5. Touch Her but Not In a Creepy Way

Don’t be afraid to playfully whack her or hold her hand for a split second. If you watch guys who are really good with women, you’ll see that they touch them often. But they touch them in ways women want to be touched. This means no groping (yet), no touching of her more intimate areas, and no touching for a prolonged period of time. Just engage in light-hearted, fun touching.

6. Talk About Things That Interest Her

That means don’t talk about video games, cars, or the hockey game (unless, of course, any of those genuinely interest her). Talk about social life, friends, relationships, couples, and life goals.

Tell her about your ambitions. Tell her about all the cool places you’ve been. Take her to that fantasy fun world and never look back.

But look. The Art of Conversation isn’t all that simple. There’s actually just so much more to it.

And once you master it, it’ll almost be like you’ll never be lonely. It’s not just about having more women; it’s about having more friends and better relationships with people in general.

It’s an incredibly useful skill to have!

Derek Lamont

Derek Lamont, BSc, is an experienced dating coach and veteran pickup artist. In addition to helping men around the world attract women, he’s also the author of an award-winning seduction system. Through his best-selling Online Pickup Secrets program, Derek has helped thousands of men from around the world use online dating and social media websites to find love and live “happily ever after”.

How to get her interested

How To Tell A Girl You Like Her Without Actually Telling Her

In most cases, the best way to tell a girl you like her is to simply man up and do it – accepting whatever outcome occurs. That being said, there are a few things you can do in leading up to telling a girl you like her that will help you get the positive response you want. So before you make your move, check out these tips on how to tell a girl you like her.

How to get her interested

Body language and attraction
One way to show a girl you’re that interested in her is to give off signals of attraction through your body language. Show a woman the right body language and she’ll begin to assume you’re interested in her without you having to say a word.

The key to showing a girl you like her in this way is to give her positive body language throughout your interactions. Make eye contact with the woman regularly, listen actively to what she says, and face her so both your chest and feet are pointing her direction during your interactions. This kind of attention will get her to start thinking that you just might be interested in her.

Just be careful not to overdo it as too much positive body language with women can make a guy look needy.

Showing a girl interest while creating sexual attraction
An even more effective way to subtly show a girl you’re interested in her is through touch. Not only will touching her show the girl you’re interested, but it will simultaneously escalate the sexual tension between the two of you.

So if you’re interested in a girl and want to get the girl to like you, it is critical that you touch her more. You may want to start with light, playful taps on the elbows during conversation – and build from there. For example you could: gently touch her arm/shoulder/back/knee throughout your conversation, guide the small of her back as she walks through a doorway, or mix side-hugs into the interaction.

The trick in using touch to attract women is to gradually increase the duration and intimacy of the touch (moving from elbow to shoulder to neck, etc. while making contact for progressively longer periods of time). As she becomes more and more comfortable being physical with you at deeper and deeper levels, the sexual attraction the woman feels towards you will gradually strengthen.

(For more on how to escalate with women and get women turned on through touch, check out the Pickup Podcast toolbox episode on touch)

How to tell a girl you like her: Weave it into the conversation
Dropping the “I like you” bomb out of nowhere can sometimes be a lot for a girl to handle. If her mind is focused on other things and she’s not expecting it, then it may throw her through a bit of a loop. So before telling a girl you like her, you may want to first steer the conversation in that direction.

For example, when talking to the girl you like you may want to bring up the subject of dating. Ask her about her dating life – see what she’s looking for in a man/relationship and if there’s anyone she’s currently interested in. After she explains this, it’s your turn to talk about your dating life. Now that she’s focused on you and hearing what you have to say, she’s less likely to be taken off-guard when you tell her you like her.

What to say when asking a girl out
One of the best ways to let a girl know you like her is to simply ask her out on a date. Of course when it comes to how to ask a girl out, some ways are better than others.

For example, saying “hey let’s meet up Friday” can leave her unsure of what you’re intention is and what you want. She may just assume you want to meet up as friends. Further, you also don’t want to use a line like “will you go out with me?” as that can come across as weak and needy.

The best way to ask a girl out then, involves being clear in your intention while asking in a confident manner. Saying something like “I want to take you on a date, are you free Friday?” can work great. It shows a woman confidence as you own up to the fact that you’re interested in her. It also shows the clear intention that you want to date her.

How to ask girl out
Now, the words you use when asking a girl out are not going to be nearly as important as the way you deliver them. So here are three tips for asking a girl out that will help you do it effectively

Asking someone out is scary. We have all been there, done that. So if you are looking for a way to tell a girl you are interested in her, keep reading. We have some valuable tips for you!

People on this thread have shared their experiences on how to show a girl you are interested in her without saying you are interested in her. I mean, what better way than this?

1. “Best way and most elegant way is to be attentive, notice the small things ladies love. Notice the changes and compliment them, make them know you are paying attention to them and ladies like to feel like someone is paying attention to them. Don’t be creepy haha.”

2. “No games. Make your intentions known. They can’t read minds. Women love confident men.”

3. “Make eye contact for a second then smile if they smile back, shoot your shot if they don’t smile then bark and run away.”

4. “I think most people are overthinking this question. “Hey, I just wanted to say I think you’re pretty cool people and I enjoy spending time with you. I’d like to get to know you better over dinner, drinks, etc if you’re up for that?” If they’re interested, plan a day. If they’re not, you still keep the invitation friendly and it still keeps the door open to being friends. This works for me and any rejection I have had, we’ve remained friends.”

5. “Unless you’re a teenager there’s nothing wrong with being direct, as long as it’s in an appropriate place, don’t pull out the boombox blasting Rick Astley while she’s working the drive-through at Wendy’s Don’t lay it on too thick or come on too strong, depending on age and circumstances.”

6. “I’m not saying to stare at her all the time, however, do something like below: When you suddenly see her in close range, let’s say you guys come across each other at the corner of a corridor. When you see her look at her eyes so deeply and a bit longer than usual. Act shy, stutter a bit and say Hi. As if you have the biggest crush.”

7. “Be attentive. We love when guys remember small things about us because it shows they care. That’s also usually how we tell when a guy is seriously liking us and not just for hook up kind.”

8. “Compliments are a good way to go. One time this girl told me I always cheer her up, and I answered by saying: “I love doing it, and should you let me I would do so until I’m dusting” a little on the nose but hey, I shot my shot and it worked because I believed in what I said.”

9. “There’s a whole list and probably a flow chart. You don’t want to proceed/escalate unless she’s returning the signals. Engaged, interesting conversation, eye contact, escalating into maybe light touching and floaters to make plans.”

10. “Man, I wouldn’t beat around the bush. I’d have a private conversation and tell her “I think you’re a great person, and I’d love the opportunity to get to know you more. If you don’t reciprocate the feeling, that’s okay. You don’t have to give me an answer now, or even if you wish not to.” Then the ball is in her court to let you know if you should pursue or not, and everyone doesn’t waste their time.”

11. “I don’t know, I’ve always told them I was interested. I feel like that’s a whole lot of extra steps for “hey you wanna go get coffee, grab a drink, or hang out sometime?” I feel people miss a lot because they are trying to do x thing without doing x thing.”

12. “Be respectful, ask her to hang out. Gauge the vibe from there.”

13. “Girls have spent their whole life tuning their radar to know when men are into them without being told I’m into you. It’s 90% body language anyways.”

14. “Honesty and authenticity are key to any true relationship, even non-romantic ones. Tell her how you feel and be clear and straightforward with it. Remember, you’re not trying to “make” her feel the same way. You’re just trying to find out if she does. Manage your expectations, whatever happens, is ok. Just be happy that you know.”

15. “It depends on the culture I think. For example, in my country, there is no concept of a formal “date” as such, and asking for one is seen as extremely weird and uncomfortable which makes it hard to express feelings for someone. Here it’s mostly by hanging with friends of theirs or by texting a lot. I hate this trend but it is what it is.”

To all the ladies out there, you must have noticed in your earlier years of dating, that there are multiple aspects of losing interest in men. But, it is only later in life, once you have had enough dating experience that there are precisely just two things why you lose interest in men. If you think about it, women actually stay interested in their partner when they are fascinated and fascinating. Still clueless of what we’re talking about? Read on to get a clearer perspective on both these aspects.

02 /8 When your partner is fascinated

This is when you as a woman feel like you are the object for your partner’s fascination. There are certain things that appeal to a woman. Some of the ways that a man can show his interest are

03 /8 He chases her

You must have probably lost interest in your earlier years of dating if a man chased after you. But only once you are in the later years of dating, you observe that men who pursue women are really attractive. Simply put, men who prefer calling over endless texting, men who talk less and observe more, men who don’t let their lady wonder if he’s interested or not after having a great date. Opening doors, pulling chairs, basic chivalry is what keeps a woman interested in their partner. Absence of which will slowly result in the woman distancing herself from the man.

04 /8 He is curious about her

When men want to know more about women, it’s interesting. No, not the usual where does she work or lives. But more personal questions like what makes her cry, what moves her. Questions that get to the heart and the curiosity to know about how she sees the world. This will keep women interested in their partner at all times.

05 /8 He wishes to please her

When a man is fascinated with his woman, he will make sure he surpasses all potential competition and try all ways to please his lady. Ways in which a man can communicate that he really likes her and he wants this to work out with her keeps women interested in their partner.

06 /8 He desires her

Women love to know that their partner wants them and doesn’t stop telling them this after a couple of times in the beginning. Men who get specific about their desires are far more interesting than men who don’t express what they want.

07 /8 He is taken with her and also expresses it

When a man is fascinated with his woman, even the most basic thing that she does will grab his attention. For example, if a woman is roaming around in her basic tee and cropped shorts, her partner is going to think to himself how cute she looks in her daily attire. And not just thinks about it, but also makes sure to tell her how he thinks. Men who communicate and choose different ways of communication keep women interested in them.

08 /8 When your partner is fascinating

A woman is going to stay interested in their partner when he –

– Has a deep and meaningful relationship with his friends and family.

– Is curious about the life-long learning process.

– Has values and lives by them.

– Respects his body and takes care of it.

– Is living out of his purpose.

– Has hobbies that bring him joy.

Men who are ambitious and also know how to take some time off and have fun. Men who are intentional about building and pouring into people who are important to him. Men who wake up each day with an excitement to learn and contribute. Basically, a fulfilled man is what keeps a woman interested in him for a long, long time.

We’ve asked experts for advice on how to ramp up your partner's satisfaction, which can in turn enhance intimacy and strengthen your relationship.

How to get her interested

But do this before getting down to it, says registered psychologist Dr. Cheryl Fraser of Duncan, B.C. “People are too vulnerable when they’re in the middle of being intimate.”

As well, take time the next day—when the pressure is off—to ask how she enjoyed it and what was fun. Talk together about what you want to try next time.

It’s very important that you ask your partner if she’s happy with the sex the two of you are having, says Calgary psychologist and sex therapist Perry Sirota. Women don’t always feel comfortable volunteering that information.

Whatever you do, guys, do not get your tips from X-rated films or highly sexed TV shows. Too often they’re just plain wrong and give misinformation, says Fraser. But do invest in a book about female sexuality and how to please a woman.

It goes without saying that good personal hygiene habits in a man are important to a woman; after all, our eyes see and our noses smell.

If that’s taken care of, the next stage of foreplay is all in our minds: Most women who don’t feel emotionally connected to a partner won’t be interested in sex, says Fredericton-based clinical psychologist Sandra Byers, co-author of the Canadian edition of Understanding Human Sexuality. Women connect with their partner through having a relationship that includes talking and doing things together.

The third part, kissing and touching—but hey, hold your horses, no touching her breasts or genitals yet!— puts women in the mood to be aroused.

How to get her interested

Everything from the tips of her toes to her earlobes can be sexual in different combinations, and it’s not the same every time or for every woman, says Sirota.

He says even women don’t always realise that. “Often they mistakenly tell men, ‘This is what women like’ when instead they should be saying, ‘This is what I like.’” Sirota also says men need to listen: If she says, “I like having my breasts touched,” make sure you ask how she likes having them touched.

Women come equipped with a vagina and clitoris, and though these may be different shapes and sizes, they all react pretty much the same way. As women know all too well—and many men may not—the clitoris is extremely sensitive, but the vagina…not so much.

“The tip of the clitoris has the same number of nerve endings as the head of the penis because it is made from the same embryonic tissue,” says Byers. “In terms of clitoral stimulation, women can differ a lot in how hard or soft they want you to touch it.”

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How to get her interested

Too many guys mass approach instead of learning how to immerse particular girls. Use these tools to captivate her from the start.

As a beginner talking to girls, it’s a frantic scramble between a solid cold approach that works and getting her to interact with you for longer than sixty seconds. Hooking her means being able to run solid seduction skills on her at a relaxed pace while avoiding the dreaded: “Well, nice to meet you!”

In this article, I’m going to go over the structure for avoiding that “sixty seconds and you’re out of here” style of game for beginners.

For intermediates, I’m going to simplify the structure for getting her initially misdirected and intrigued to compliant.

For advanced guys who haven’t figured out a way to do this consistently, I’ll provide a better option than the hit-or-miss structure you’ve been using.

Interested means “wanting to learn more about something.” Interested is used to describe a person who wants to learn more about something or to become involved in something or has the desire to do or have something. Below are some examples of how interested is used.

  • The boy is interested in [=wants to learn about] astronomy.
  • The couple was interested in seeing the new movie.
  • If you are interested in the job [=if you want to have/get the job], you should apply.
  • Are you interested in grabbing a cup of coffee later?
  • She wasn’t interested in hearing excuses from her kids.
  • Any interested students should sign up to volunteer.

Interesting means “attracting your attention.” Interesting is used to describe something or someone that attracts your attention, or something or someone that is not boring or dull. Below are some examples of how interesting is used.

  • The boy thinks astronomy is very interesting [=he is interested in astronomy].
  • The movie was very interesting.
  • She has an interesting accent.
  • The kids learned several interesting facts about frogs.
  • He is a very interesting person and has done many things in life.
  • I heard an interesting story about how the lamp broke.

Remember that interested describes a person who has a feeling of wanting to learn more about something, and interesting describes the thing that makes someone feel that way. You feel interested in something because that thing is interesting.

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Though a woman's enthusiasm for sex can wane for any number of reasons, you can help her rekindle that desire. Here's how.

How to get her interested

How to get her interested

If the spark in your relationship seems to have fizzled, you're probably wondering what happened. Why did your partner lose interest in intimacy? Did you do something, or is there a problem between you? Or could it be possible that her dampened desire has nothing to do with the state of your relationship, and that she may be experiencing female sexual dysfunction? With a better understanding of women's feelings about sex and intimacy, you could help rekindle her desire.

A Sexual Problem Does Not Always Mean Sexual Dysfunction

First, men and women differ in their sexual response: Men are more easily and clearly aroused (with an erection) by visual stimulation, while women's sexual desire and arousal are less obvious and rely more on emotional or environmental stimulation. It's important not to confuse women's more complex or less measurable sexual response with sexual dysfunction.

For one thing, lack of desire isn't always a clinical problem, according to Lou Paget, an American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists-certified sex educator and author of many sexual advice books, including “How to Give Her Absolute Pleasure: Totally Explicit Techniques Every Woman Wants Her Man to Know.” There are occasions in a woman’s life when she just doesn’t want sex, but that doesn’t mean she's dysfunctional, noted Dr. Paget.